How To Tell When Its Over with a Gemini Man

How To Tell When Its Over with a Gemini Man

From AstroTwins' Love Zodiac

No stranger to snap decisions, impulsive Gemini is quick to move on if he stops feeling the love. The Gemini man can be slow to commit, and fast to exit. His roster often has a trail of two-week "relationships". In long-term affairs, he may tough it out past the expiration date, torturing himself with guilt or inventing reasons to stay. "But she's so nice, and my family loves her" Or "what kind of fool leaves an Estonian lingerie model with a Yale PhD?". Mentally, though, he's already checked out of the relationship -- and you'll know it. When he's done, there's no turning back.

HE DESCRIBES YOU AS A "DOLL" OR A "TOTAL SWEETHEART":
Sound like a complement? With Gemini, it's actually the kiss of death. Nice girls finish last with this edgy dude. If you're too wide-eyed and accommodating, he'll steamroll you in seconds, then move on to his next plaything. He needs a bitch with some bite!

YOU'RE NOT SHARP ENOUGH FOR HIM:
The Gemini man can be a snob, and he loves to show off his avant-garde tastes. He needs a companion who can hang at his level. One Gemini man complained that his girlfriend doesn't read enough. "If I buy her a book, she'll read it," he gripes, "but she doesn't initiate that or buy books on her own". With Gemini, you've got to love ideas, culture and media -- the more obscure, the better.

HE HAS TO TAKE CARE OF YOU:
Do you love a man who spoils you, dotes on you, and calls you cute nicknames? Call a Taurus or Cancer. Gemini has no interest in being your codependent life coach or in playing daddy. The Gemini man is an eternal boy, which means he'd rather be out playing pirates than babysitting your inner child. If you can't grab a sword and swashbuckle with him -- or entertain yourself until he gets back -- your relationship will sink.

NO SPARK:
Whatever that playful burst of initial chemistry is, it needs to be prolonged for the entire lifespan of your relationship. Like two tigers circling each other, it's a dance that's at once dangerous and enticing. Once the dance is over, so too is his attraction.

The Gemini man will not throw subtle hints, he will not call or want to see you. The more evolved Gemini man will tell you directly that it's not working out. Also, if you want to know why (do you really?), he will be very honest with you. Gems don't like to be in something in which they have no interest any longer. To them, the quicker they can exit left--the better. Sounds harsh but if everyone would do this without playing games then there might be less heart breaks. But no, you get those people who have no interest in you but keep you hanging on because they are afraid to be honest with you. Gemini men and women have no time for this. They young ones may "play" with you, but he more evolved with be gone in a flash when it's over.

Gosh. I'm a girl, not a gemini man, but all these are SO true!

Nice guys... well, they(or men who think themselves nice guys) say women are shallow and are after jerks and nice guys are always left behind, unaware. But I think just being a nice guy has no appeal. A real nice guy is not a doormat - not someone who always agrees with his girl and being too nice even when other people give him crap, without standing up for himself but later whine and resent, hold a grudge. They are just weak. If they're real nice guys, then there shouldn't be belated whining, resenting and those negatives. Be kind and gentle to ones who deserve and fight back when wrong is done - that is a real nice guy. Just accommodating to his girl or anyone around her to please her, to impress her will just make him look weak. No needs to be a jerk (because jerks are jerks, and I would not have any business with them lol), but have some backbone and argue, fight and stand up... challenge me, have heated discussion, reason me, etc. then I would admire you for it.
Being nice and gentle to his girl (not in a doormatish way) is a must, like a prerequisite - not a sole thing to qualify a guy as dating material. There should be more than that. I used to have some male friends who said 'I'm all nice, but girls don't want to date me. What's wrong with them?' I say 'It's because you're just & only nice, that's why.'

One doesn't have to hold a PhD to date me, but at least try to be curious. Always read and listen to news, be alert what's going on around you. When I ask 'so did you hear about this news from this morning?' and you didn't then at least ask back 'ah, what's it?' Don't just become silent and stare blank or act 'I don't care? It's happening outside country, right? No relevance?' - no desire to learn new things is a huge turn off (to me, at least.)

I admit I have hard time even taking care of myself. I'm not like a motherly type. Of course, when my guy needs advice then I'd be willing to give, but I'm not cooking, cleaning for him, following him & checking out if he's doing okay. He should be okay when I'm doing my own things, we are separate. I need lots of freedom but I give my guy his in return. I never feel bad, sad or whatever because my guy's out in town with his guy or girl friends, because then now I have mine own time and space, so I can go out and do things I like. I might not be all lovey dovey, but then my guy wouldn't have to spoil me, and I'd be fine with it.

I was curious to what yall thought.

I did the giving myself reasons why I should stay in this relationship with my last relationship. I made a list of items - why I should stay - just to convince myself, rationally.
But it's right - once the spark is gone, it's truly gone and things are over. I tried to rekindle, but there are things cannot be forced.
When I detected there was some problem, I brought it up and talked with my guy - what things weren't working & how to improve those. And we tried, like for months. And finally the realization came to me, i.e., those things weren't not fixable, or improvable (which was very sad indeed). My ex and I talked.

I always talk - why we are breaking up. It's like, something that I feel like I need to do. When two are in love, people say out aloud to each other why they love their partner, declare all their feelings, yet when they are about to leave a relationship, some people just disappear, leave the other person in (almost or semi lol, because it has to go away at some point 🙂) an eternal, agonizing 'why? what have I done wrong? why s/he just disappeared?' state - I think that's unfair. I declared my feelings for someone, then I may well need to do the same when things are nearing its end. I want a clean and explicit closure when a relationship ends, so I do so when I end a relationship with someone. So that they can move on with more ease (hopefully.) If the break up was about me, then they now know they haven't done anything wrong, and if it was about them, then they... well, know why now lol. (and if it was about both of us, well, sometimes some things were not just meant to be!)

String someone along is not my thing, certainly not a thing I would like to happen to myself, so I don't do it to others - especially one I once loved with my heart. That's cruel & unfair. I would hate, if a guy keeps me because of guilty feelings, afraid of being honest with me. No, I would like to better him to rather be honest -even brutal honest- with me, then have an end, so that we can go on our separate ways, with less broken hearts, less bruised egos, and fairly healthy self esteems. That honesty and truth may feel bitter and cut me sharp now, but then I'm sure it'll serve me better in the long run. So the bottom line is - just don't f***ing disappear or stringing one along, that's not how/the right way you to treat someone who still has feelings for you or whom you once loved.