I met a GemGirl, and now we have a situation

Earlier this month I went on a date with a GemGirl who I had met online. We spent a couple of hours chatting and got on really well, so much so that we had the second date arranged by half way through the first one! Anyway, the second date was even better - wen spent five hours wondering around an art gallery and some very unique shops, chatting, and spent an hour or so having a lovely lunch about half way through. We had a very nice kiss goodbye at the end and agreed that we'd see each other again. After that point she became quite elusive but I finally managed to meet her again, more than a week later, and we had a lovely evening chatting. At the end of the evening she gave me a very warm hug and we parted company having, once more, agrees to do something on Saturday (that would have been yesterday). The following day I e-mailed her to tell her of some ideas that I had for our Saturday meet. In reply she sent me the following e-mail...

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"I need to check what I am doing...I promised a friend I would go shopping but I dont know if i am... I'm sorry to seem so elusive I just want things to be right if we were to start seeing each other ....yikes ,,, what am i saying!!! You are so so lovely i need to be honest with you because we said we would be straight. When I met you I also met someone else.. I find the whole dating thing really hard because I am truely a one man woman!!! I suppose this is what dating is all about but i just needed you to know because I feel like i'm being awful and it just really isn't me!!!

If you still want to meet up after what I've told you then let me know.. I really enjoy your company and think you are lovely. I could actually see us being good together, this is the danger of dating isn't it,, it just all happens at once!!!

Please dont think bad of me, I just really needed to be honest, I should have told you last night but I couldn't because i like you!!!

If you dont reply ....i understand!!!!!
xxx
Hugs
Oh god..i hope i havent blown everything!!!"
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I wasn't totally surprised that there's someone else on the scene, but I replied and told her that I want us to be exclusive from now on and that I am only willing to continue seeing her if it's on that basis. Basically I have spent my whole life taking what I could get on whatever terms it was available, but no more. For me 2010 is about autonomy and having specific values which I won't allow people to compromise. After I sent her the message she texted me and we had the following exhange...

Her: "Thankyou for the lovely message on fb. Speak soon"

Me: "Yeah, let me know one way or the other soon"

Her: "I didn't get chance to reply to you earlier thats why I just txt. You spoke from your heart and I appreciate it. Will defo speak soon"

So... When is soon? How long will I have to wait to find out?

Even though she probably respects the fact that you're being so blunt about things, a gemini woman can Not be held down. Not that I'm saying she can't be happy dating one person. Although, for some that is very much so true. My point is, freedom is very important to us. The freedom to make our decisions for whatever circumstance that may be for.

So, considering she likes you both, she may be avoiding you. That's what I would do. It has taken me up to a month to two weeks to make decisions like that. Honestly, the only times I've actually made a quick decision was when I felt like I may no longer have that "one" as an option.

Which goes back to the freedom to make our own decisions...closed doors aren't really viewed upon happily if that makes sense.

She just e-mailed to say she's seen the other guy again this weekend and is getting on really well but that we can stay friends if I want. No thanks.

Posted by emeraldgem
I didn't read all that - but all I can say is nip the games in the bud. End of story.

Yep. Done.

a "situation"? Don't tell me they watch Jersey Shore in England!!!!! lol

Virgo. Be happy she was honest from the start. geminis are blunt, and FOR GOOD. Imagine being with someone else who wont tell you until you're married to them, 20 years later with 5 kids. Best of luck to you 🙂