Met Gemini male from online and now he's being blunt/cold?!

Hi,
About 3 weeks ago, I met a guy online (Taurus Sun, Gemini MOON, Taurus Venus, Cancer Mars - I refer to him as "Gemini" as I think the moon influences people a lot more than the sun sign seems to and can definitely see more Gemini traits in him than Taurus)..

We texted each other very very frequently almost everyday and he was interested right from the start (easy come, easy go maybe?!) and was eager to meet in real-life but I wanted to know him a bit more via texts first.. During this time, over 1,000 texts were exchanged including personal info (he was quite a "promiscuous" past, as in he's been with many people e.g. in relationships, one night stands and friends with benefits but says he's changed now as he's older and realises the importance of marriage, children etc. - which could easily be a line he uses?! (but he seemed quite insistent that marriage + kids were definitely something he wanted within the next few years - and even said there's no point in us meeting if I didn't share similar views (as I initially told him that I am not particularly interested in marriage).. Also, I don't plan to go all the way with anyone for at least another year (for reasons related to religion), which he found shocking as he has always been very "active" in that area but said it was not problem as long as we could still have "physical contact" without going all the way & that's he's fine to wait.. even if it will be a year).

We finally meet (after around 1.5 weeks of texting) and we have nice convos, went to the pub, walk around, etc. and he texts me later that night when I got home to say it was really fun and he's definitely willing to wait the year or so for going all the way and that he finds me attractive, etc. and does not think he will get bored of me as I'm "interesting to talk to" but also hints heavily at kissing, etc. at the next date..

He asks me to visit him the next day but I was busy and then he suggested the day after that, for which I said yes for the evening, we hung out for a few hours only (as I had to get back) and he kissed me, and some light touching (over the clothes was involved).. at the goodbye, he says we'll probably have to wait till the weekend to arrange the next date as I'd probably be busy with work during the week (which is true) and he texts me around 2 hours after I get home to say it was lovely, asked my plans for the next date, etc. and then he hinted again at being more naughty, to which I jokingly told him that there's no rush as we have a lot of time to build up the physical stuff till I can go all the way in just over a year and he said that was very true and then went off to sleep.

The next day (Monday), there was no contact but that wasn't a problem for me really. Tuesday, he goes to another city for some exhibition type thing and tags it on Facebook, to which I asked if he went to that city (which I used to live in) and he sees the message but does not respond..

2 more days pass and then

2 more days pass and then he finally apologises for not responding earlier and then confirms he was in that city I used to live in, on Tuesday and that he had been offered a job (at the other side of the country) and so that he'll be going back and forth for the next few weeks and be busy and asked how I am doing... I was glad he found a new job (he had been applying for a while) so I said well done, mentioned about celebrating properly (in a naughty way) when I next see him and confirmed that he would then not be available this coming weekend then (as that was when we planned to next go out)...

He replies (with a longer delay than usually), saying where his job is based and said "sounds good to me ;P" about the naughty celebration thing and that he would indeed not be around this weekend as he was having to go to the new job venue to sort stuff out..

I then asked him how long the new job was for and he said "At least 3 months xx", to which I said "ok" left it at that..

What next? Could a gemini male (I know he is Taurus Sun but he's more like a Gemini due to his Gemini Moon) tell me what this could mean? Is this a soft way of telling me it's over? He has made no positive nor negative comment about the state of us, since he got this new job but those final texts seemed to be slower and more blunter than they used to be..

I am also a Taurus Sun (but have Aquarius Moon, Aries Venus and Leo Mars).

In the past, it seems he always had long distance relationships e.g. girls from cities very far away etc (I've heard that gemini males kinda prefer this often to maintain their freedom and keep things interesting but not sure if it was intentional or if the girls he liked just happened to live far away).

Any help appreciated.

Thank you.

Well he's not a true Gem if his sun is Taurus, therefore his way of thinking may not be too identical. The moon influences yes, but not always. And also I am a firm believer the Venus has more influence in matters of love. Moon plays a part but a small one I think.

You said you have only known him for three weeks. That's really not that long to conclude anything. If it's a three month job for him then that's up to you if you think he's worth waiting for. Has he made it known how he feels about you? If there is nothing positive or negative, perhaps he is still deciding. If it bothers you maybe ask him how he feels about your relationship. Are we friends with benefits, do you see me as more than a friend, etc..etc..nobody here can really answer that for you. These are things that should be communicated and discussed. We can give better advice if we know how he feels about you and vice versa.

Posted by gemguyaz34
Well he's not a true Gem if his sun is Taurus, therefore his way of thinking may not be too identical. The moon influences yes, but not always. And also I am a firm believer the Venus has more influence in matters of love. Moon plays a part but a small one I think.

You said you have only known him for three weeks. That's really not that long to conclude anything. If it's a three month job for him then that's up to you if you think he's worth waiting for. Has he made it known how he feels about you? If there is nothing positive or negative, perhaps he is still deciding. If it bothers you maybe ask him how he feels about your relationship. Are we friends with benefits, do you see me as more than a friend, etc..etc..nobody here can really answer that for you. These are things that should be communicated and discussed. We can give better advice if we know how he feels about you and vice versa.

Thank you for the reply - To me, he feels more like a gemini than even gemini sun people and I, most of the time, feel more like an Aquarius (I have aqua moon) than my Taurus Sun.

His Venus is in Taurus so he should be more stable I guess but it doesn't really feel like that..

So, I tried to initiate a convo with him (after 2.5 days of silence - which is unusual) by asking how he was doing and .. NOPE, no reply. (Although he has been online almost constantly (so not busy) from the minute I messaged him & before that)... but my message doesn't say "seen" but I'm sure he's aware of it yet no reply & it's been over an hour... never had this sort of silence from him before.. what could it mean? It's all off as there's no point with the distance etc. or something else??

If I had just met someone and then I had a job to do out of town, so long as things were not all that serious, I would probably limit contact as to not lead the person on. However I would still answer someone, just because I think it's rude to blatantly ignore someone who is trying to reach you, especially someone who is 'supposed' to be a friend. If I were already in a serious relationship with you, of course that would be a different story. There is a reason he is not responding. I don't buy the busy excuse from people because in reality it takes but 20 seconds to still tell someone you can't talk right now but that you'll get back to them. Do I think it's a bit childish and selfish to behave that way? Of course I do. But it's not all that surprising in the day and age of texting. People are selective with who they want to talk to. Honestly if it hasn't been that long, I don't think it's best to get hung up on it. But then remember I am an air sign and I won't settle down with someone unless I know they are concrete in how they feel about me and I feel the same. Three weeks isn't much in the grand scheme of things. Are you sure you aren't feeling more for him than he is for you? Maybe he doesn't see anything wrong with his actions or lack thereof because he doesn't see things as serious with you and since he knows he's going to be leaving soon, he doesn't see you as being a top priority.

Posted by gemguyaz34
If I had just met someone and then I had a job to do out of town, so long as things were not all that serious, I would probably limit contact as to not lead the person on. However I would still answer someone, just because I think it's rude to blatantly ignore someone who is trying to reach you, especially someone who is 'supposed' to be a friend. If I were already in a serious relationship with you, of course that would be a different story. There is a reason he is not responding. I don't buy the busy excuse from people because in reality it takes but 20 seconds to still tell someone you can't talk right now but that you'll get back to them. Do I think it's a bit childish and selfish to behave that way? Of course I do. But it's not all that surprising in the day and age of texting. People are selective with who they want to talk to. Honestly if it hasn't been that long, I don't think it's best to get hung up on it. But then remember I am an air sign and I won't settle down with someone unless I know they are concrete in how they feel about me and I feel the same. Three weeks isn't much in the grand scheme of things. Are you sure you aren't feeling more for him than he is for you? Maybe he doesn't see anything wrong with his actions or lack thereof because he doesn't see things as serious with you and since he knows he's going to be leaving soon, he doesn't see you as being a top priority.

Thank you for the detailed reply. He actually responded shortly after I posted on here that he wasn't. lol So we just had some casual small talk and then things got a bit flirty and he hinted at me coming over.. I was surprised he was still in town as he texted on Thursday saying that he was going up on Friday to sort stuff out when I asked if he would be available for the weekend (as we were planning to meet this weekend before he suddenly got the new job). He said he was sure he told me he'd be in town on Saturday and Sunday (up till the evening) and he would be willing to pick me up for cuddling etc. at his place right now. During this convo, I asked him if he felt that us being "long-distance" would change anything with regards to the relationship (though I know he's had long distance ones in the past) - he said he "didn't know yet"and would will "just see how it unfolds" and that "we could just be friends if I wanted to look for someone in the current town" (that we both live in up to now but he's moving 2 hours drive away for a job starting this Monday)

I said I didn't really mind long distance and it was a lot of fun with him and I don't really need to be around someone 24/7 + that I'm quite independent. He then said that he could see once he was sorted at work and go from there.

He mentioned at the at the start of the convo he would only be up in the new city during the week and travel back at weekends (which I thought mea

(which I thought meant a long distance thing wouldn't be so bad as I generally have work during the week anyway)...

He then kinda kept asking if I wanted to come over, he'd pick me up etc but I had already made other plans with friends since he didn't tell me beforehand that he would be free (which to me feels like, he waited in the hope that something better would come along and when it didn't, he's trying to strongly persuade me to come over.. when I said I had plans with friends, he kept asking till what time, etc and he's around till late evening so can pick me up as soon as I'm free.. I said I'd let me know if I became free this afternoon/evening but seemed unlikely.. and he sent me a winky type emoticon 3 or so hours into the "wait"...

hmm any insight? As you're a gemini guy, it's even more valuable lol.

I really hate the crazy instability thing he has going on.. where he goes from discussing marriage+baby all the way down to putting the whole relationship into doubt.. it's too much of the extreme commitmen-tphobe and extreme commitment in just 1 person.. I don't really want / need to discuss up till marriage with him nor do I want him to quit on me..

Posted by Lust
He is horny. Any man (gemini, taurus, leo, cancer....etc) can behave like that when horny.
how old are you?

You can't be that special to him (you just met him). So he can give up on you anytime he gets impatience. Why would he commit to a girl that he barely know? So I see that He likes talking bull-shhhiieett, because it's fun for him. You can only take a guy seriously, when he says the words with A RING be presented to you. Other than that, it's just talking, period. Don't be stupid.
He wants sex, and if he can't get it from you, he will get it from somewhere else. Maybe you should stay just as friends first, knowing that you are that much insecure.

I am not sure what you're trying to say.. because it seems like you're firstly saying he's only after 1 thing i.e. a jerk and then you're somehow blaming me saying I am too insecure..! So which is it?

In reality, there are many men (or women) who still have affairs etc. even after a ring (marriage) occurs, hence the high divorce rates in most places.. likewise, there are many faithful loyal pairings without marriage too.. and it's really not like I can interrogate him until (if) he gets me a ring lol.

Anyway, he knows he can't get it from me for at least another year so it's not like I'm being "easy"...

Well' it's exactly as I thought. He is telling you "let's see where it goes." You are hearing it from the horses mouth. He is sending mixed messages if he is talking about marriage and a baby then saying "let's see what happens." Well, you do need to see what will happen. You haven't been seeing each other all that long. It's too soon to be discussing those details. There is way too much you don't know about him, and he about you. If nothing else you need to be seeing each other for a while and there must be a trust issue before even shacking up can be discussed and seriously considered. Forget having his baby and the marriage part. There is not enough of a foundation built yet. That's rushing things, and I for one would not be comfortable with it. Take things slow. I think that is overall what Lust is trying to convey (lust is a Libra -and us Lib's and Gems do see eye to eye on things like this). You don't want to just think make him think he has you under his thumb and then will just use you as a sex object. I wouldn't suggest you are insecure, but moreso just trying to figure things as they are as of right now, which I can understand, but overall I think you need to allow more time and let things unfold so you can make a true judgement of his real character. I have no doubt he want's to spend time with you, but you need to keep your guard up somewhat for now.

Yall know damn well the moon sign is more accurate than the sun sign. lol.

Moon sign is how a person interacts on interpersonal level so thats why she's seeing more gem traits than a Taurus.

I have a pisces moon, i'm more emotional and deep than other Libras when i'm in love, or dealing with personal relationships, alot more sensitive too. My Libra male cousin is just like me, he's more intense in matters of family and love because guess what? his ass has a Scorpio moon. lol

Posted by Lyse
Yall know damn well the moon sign is more accurate than the sun sign. lol.

Moon sign is how a person interacts on interpersonal level so thats why she's seeing more gem traits than a Taurus.

I have a pisces moon, i'm more emotional and deep than other Libras when i'm in love, or dealing with personal relationships, alot more sensitive too. My Libra male cousin is just like me, he's more intense in matters of family and love because guess what? his ass has a Scorpio moon. lol

I don't know about that. My moon is Leo and yes I have some traits, but I am not THAT prideful. I am more like a moody Gem personally. But my bad side usually will only come out if someone corners me or pushes my buttons. But then my Venus and Mercury are both in Cancer so I suppose that stabilizes things I guess. In love I am very loyal and passionate. I would never play disappearing games or toil with someone's feelings.