To all geminis out there

Hey there gems,
I just wanted to share my point of view with you guys.I am sure most of you feel or have felt that u have been used or walked over over and over again in life with especilally certain people u had love for.The strange thing that happens that in the beginning u give those who u love so much attention and respect that in the end they seem to get that picture that u will always will be there for THEM when they need u,but when u need then for ur own comfort there is no support or response anymore.Thats how I felt with my scorpio and aries friends so far, but I must say that scorpios do value more then aries.Anyway but I shouldnt really judge because everyone is different to each other.Its just that I get that feeling even though knowing that I have friends around me I still find it hard to rely emotionally on any of them no matter how much I love them,I think its a fear of being used which takes over me, maybe.
Just wanted to share my point of view with gems, if anyone has similar experience please write about it I will find it helpful.
Good luck to u all,
Chilli-gem

SWEPT ME AWAY
BUT NOW I'M LOST IN THE DARK
SET ME ON FIRE BUT NOW I'M LEFT WITH A SPARK
ALONE, YOU GOT ME ON THE HAZE AND
I'M LOST INSIDE THE MAZE
I GUESS I'M ALL ALONE IN LOVE

I LOOK INTO YOUR EYES
YOU TURN THE OTHER WAY
AND NOW I REALIZE
IT'S ALL A GAME YOU PLAY
I HOLD YOU IN THE NIGHT
AND WAKE TO FIND YOU GONE
YOU'RE RUNNING OUT OF SIGHT
IT'S SO HARD MOVING ON
ALL ALONE IN LOVE

YOU HAUNT ME IN MY DREAMS
I'M CALLING OUT YOUR NAME
I WATCH YOU FADE AWAY
YOUR LOVE IS NOT THE SAME
I'VE FIGURED OUT YOUR style
TO QUICKLY DRIFT APART

YOU HELD ME FOR AWHILE
PLANNED IT FROM THE START
ALL ALONE IN LOVE

SITTING IN THE DARK WITHOUT YOU
HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO MAKE IT
THROUGH THE NIGHT
SLOWLY FALL APART WITHOUT YOU
CRY AWAY THE HOURS
'TILL THE MORNING LIGHT
MC

JOIN THE CLUB!

COME CLOSER
YOU SEEM SO FAR AWAY
THERE'S SOMETHING I KNOW YOU NEED TO SAY
I FEEL YOUR EMOTIONS
WHEN I LOOK IN YOUR EYES
YOUR SILENCE
WHISPERING MISUNDERSTANDINGS
THERE'S SO MUCH YOU NEED TO REALIZE
YOU'LL FEEL MY EMOTIONS IF YOU LOOK IN MY EYES
MC

"The strange thing that happens that in the beginning u give those who u love so much attention and respect that in the end they seem to get that picture that u will always will be there for THEM when they need u,but when u need then for ur own comfort there is no support or response anymore."

yes i know how you feel. i feel the same way. and you get tired and when you need someone, there is nobody! i guess i am masochistic—

you have no idea how used i feel. i am taking care of a friend who is a alcoholic and has lost use of his legs from smoking 4-5 packs of cigs aday. he even smokes in the shower!! his drinkin and smokin has cost him his health to the point that i have to walk him to the bathroom. he wakes me up all hours of the night when he is drunk cussing me out and wanting me to make him something to eat. here it is going on midnight and i am making him supper and i have to get up in the mornin! why do i do it? because when he is sober, and that is not often, he is my friend, and it is nice to be able to have someone around. i don't feel scared of him and he never abuses me, not physically. he never tells me i am an idiot. he tells me i am great and he needs me. he makes me feel like i am not a piece of s*** that others can abuse. i have had alot of so called 'friends' in my life and they only wanted to cause me harm. so, i know how you feel. your friends must do something for you or you wouldn't hang with them!

and yes, people are always wondering why am i still able to laugh and carry on...they don't see the tears. if i did i wouldn't stop. i have to keep going because if i don't i fall apart! but i understand how you feel! you can't do everything on your own! all i can say is that tough times don't last forever but tough people do!
good luck and hang on!

what helps me out sometimes is...i have this drean of love and the one that i need so desperatley will someday find me and i will find them and everything will be alright! nice dream, huh?!

stick around because i have gotten alot of help on this messageboard from some very wonderful people. that has also kept me going!

Thank u so mcu guys!Its really hepful, at least someone else felt like that in their life..

Your email described my life so perfectly that it scared me. Yes I am a Gemini, married to an Aries and I HEAR YOU.

Oh my god you're all doormats!
You're giving Gemini's a bad name!

Jerk!!!!

Virgo here.
Seen some Geminis. They don't really care about what people think about them. I have to say that Geminis get bad names because of their honesty. They tell you what they like and dislike, who they are dating, how many dates they had, and blah blah blah. They are just being honest. From my understanding, Geminis are clever but not calculating. Although sharing the same planet -- Mercury, I think Virgos are more calculating than Geminis.

Geminis are caring and supportive although they have sharp tongues. I have seen some Geminis get cheated or used badly. However, they choose to forgive.

I used to think that Giminis were flirty & shallow and that's all. Now, after careful observation, I have to say underneath they have good hearts. Yes, I see your tears. It has been such a moving scene to see a Gemini to cry. Must be so hurt. Anyway, you laugh and carry on again.

God bless you these light-hearted and happy people.


(Sorry if there are any misspelling or typos. This Virgo is a bit sloppy.)

Hello virgo!

Your comments were very nice. I have a few virgo friends and I've always found them charming. I don't see you as being calculating so much but rather having a talent for planning (which I am completely clueless at) and acheiving things.

To the person who called me a jerk (and hey, maybe I was a bit harsh) I just think that if a person is getting continually walked over, then they have to take some responsibility for allowing it to happen. You choose the behaviour you tolerate and expect from other people and there's no use complaining about things you have the power to change.
If you continue blaming other people and holding yourself in a self righteous position, then you have no opportunity to learn from such experiences or prevent the same patterns from re-occuring.

Cheerio.

and the purpose of having a soul, is to develope a healty conscious. Without one, we are stuck living only in the our flesh bodies...how sad! Our minds needs to be attached to our souls. there is more to life than only what our immediate senses can appreciate.

Thankyou for dictating the purpose of life to me. Unfortunately your poor literacy skills prevented me obtaining any intelligable meaning from your arguement.
I think you might be saying that I advocate a purely materialistic existance without any understanding of consequence beyond the immediate situation. I'm not sure if that's right as I really can't figure out how you could apply that to my previous post.

I think it's great to help people in ways in which there may be no comprehendable gain. What I do object to is people whining about their situation and revelling in a public and sympathetic appeasement. It's a victim mentality en masse. It's a collective validation of all that is pathetic - 'we're all fantastic because we get used and keep going back for more'.
There's nothing admirable in that and I'm not going to join in the praise of repetative complaints, or hard-luck oneupmanship.
Just because I don't, doesn't mean I'm a sad, souless creature with a superificial understanding of the world (and if you're resorting to personal attacks, you really could have come up with something better!).

There are people (besides slavering sycophants such as yourself) who are capable of deriving a rich and meaningful experience through life.

Cheerio.


Oh, and thanks for providing a really effective example of self-righteousness! 🤢gt;

"What I do object to is people whining about their situation and revelling in a public and sympathetic appeasement. It's a victim mentality en masse"

I hope you end up don't end up one day where someone you care for has to have there butt wiped. Then maybe you would undersatnd and see if now and again that person may feel a little tired! Nobody was whining. We were talking about our feelings. Something you don't have. You are a cold and heartless and if I am correct not a woman, because you have the nurturing skills of a parasite!

As far as literary skills, (I'M YAWNING) your boring me as usual!

Keep making your opinions though. Whatever it is you believe in, I will make sure I believe just the opposite!

Thanks for making my convictions even stronger! I can see why you don't have any love in your life and you won't!!!

Dear Literacy Queen,
What is an existance?

Cotex,

you are usually right on about most topics, and I end up agreeing with you even though you are really harsh and rude about it. i appreciate your directness, but your last comments were totally off base and i resent you making fun of people who find themselves taking care of the disabled. try a little tenderness, you might like yourself more.

Existance is a spelling mistake (we all make them). I really should have said communication skills compounded by poor literacy ie. what is conscious? It's an adjective...conscious what? Did you mean conscience or consciousness? What's the basis for stating the assumption that living in a flesh body is sad? What do the last two sentences have to do with the first two?

In regards to 'making fun of people who find themselves taking care of the disabled', I was a carer for my next door neighbour who is a paraplegic and there were lots of times I had to perform unappealing tasks. I currently volunteer for an HIV support organisation, though admittedly I don't have much contact with people in the severe stages of aids. However, I'm certainly no stranger to the processes involved in being a carer and it can be insanely diffucult a lot of the time. I didn't, and would never make fun of people in that situation.

Aside from the fourth post in this thread, the resounding theme is that of relationships and not carers of the disabled. It's people claiming they keep throwing themselves at the feet of love only to get trodden into the ground. What were you expecting? Poor you... you keep giving and giving and people keep taking and taking? What a nice place it must be to live in, where you really do believe you're perfect! To represent this within the guise of expressing your feelings is just a euphamism for indulgent self pity. Why can't you call a spade a spade?

I'm quite happy to admit my own aggressiveness in approach to discussion. Maybe the reaction you're having to the way I go about things is partly due to social conventions in different countries. Recently a opposition member of parliament called the prime minister an arse licking politician. We tend to call it as we see it. I can see how it could be easily interpreted as harsh and maybe you should look (rationally) at why certain statements cause offence rather than immediately jumping into a personal attack of the person who said them.
Just because I might say things in a straightforward manner doesn't mean I'm incapable of emotion or have some great deficiency of love in my life. That's ridiculous! (By the way I am a woman)

Okay......I think I've covered the most important points in your rebuttal.

Cheerio then.

I don't know why I bother with you and would not have even wasted my time but I am not going to let you get away with being verbally abusive to people that have done nothing to you!!!

Were gonna take care of this once and for all!


"I'm quite happy to admit my own aggressiveness in approach to discussion. Maybe the reaction you're having to the way I go about things is partly due to social conventions in different countries"


Since when has being a 'bitch' have anything to do with what country a person lives in—?

I think that kindness and gentleness and compassion are a human componet and transends all borders!!! I don't think any particular country would want to be represented by you!!! And I don't believe you are as happy with yourself as you claim you are! You may think you are cool and different because you can try and make people feel small and stupid, but the only one your making small and stupid is yourself!!!

It would be a different story if someone on this thread was bating you into a fight of attacking you personally, but that is not the case, is it!!! You are just a very mean person. Being a mean person is nothing to be proud of.

Remember something, you never know who you affect when you talk like you do. You can say whatever you like to me, I can take it!!! But there may be someone on here that is more fragile and takes what you say very hard. Would you be happy if they harmed themselves because of some inconsiderate remark—? Words are a weapon sometimes and they do more damage than any slap, kick or punch! People heal and go on, but words said stay with us forever. Think about what you are saying!!!

i'm so scared! it's 1 am and i don't know what to do. he won't even eat anymore. everything i try isn't enough! this is killing me! i want to help him, but don't know what to do. i will take him to the doctor tomorrow. i am so alone. i feel such deep deep sorrow. i don't want to lose such a good friend.

ok, it is 2:30 in the morning and my best friend got up and made himself some ritz crakers and cheese, so everythig is ok for now,and I aploligize for the other post!

Phoenix, please stay in touch. I need you. You remind me of home and that is where I was the happiest. I wish I could go back to Ashland. I would give up everything to be there once again. Just like the before.
S.

PS yes, cortica you have the floor. I am a idiot, but what the hell?