VIRGO FEMALE WITH GEMINI MOTHER. AHH. Sigh. Help.

Why is her acceptance of me so up and down. I've had my hair shades of pink and purple for over a year now. It's not permanent, so it fades to be more of a pastel color. Anyways, I've had to battle with her being indecisive, and I'm super sick of it. One day, she likes it and will say "It doesn't bother me. I know you have a good core, Nina. That's all that matters"

I touch up my hair about every five weeks. For a few days my hair is super vibrant. Literally every time I do that, she freaks the eff out. Saying things like, "I can't even look at you, you disgust me. Why would you want that type of hair color. Why do you need to draw attention to yourself "

WHY IS SHE LIKE THIS TOWARDS ME! It's fucking with my head, and hurts my feelings immensely. It makes me want to bang my head against a door multiple times. It disappointments me that she cares too much about what other people think about me.

I don't know what to do anymore. All I know is that it's wearing me thin with her demeaning verbal punches.
I love my mother very much. But I don't need this type of negativity projected towards me whenever I go to visit my family. It makes me want to be cold and distant.

She feels as though, the color of my hair, makes her and my father look bad. And they didn't raise me to be this way.

I just love pretty colors, and my hair is like a blank canvas that I get to paint on for the world to see everyday.



Any advice on this continuing battle would help please.

Posted by ellessque
*bed

Of course this helps!
I know my mother loves me very much. And is the most caring lady.

Normally I let what she says go in one ear and out the other, but sometimes I just can't take it.

Conversing with people, showing them that I'm actually an intelligent young lady with colorful hair. Recieving respect from prominent people who I can tell judge me, is a challenge I don't mind embarking on. I like it. Society is so quick to judge a person.

My mother tells me that its not normal to have my hair color. And that people are going to start thinking that I must be on spmething to do such a thing. Basically insinuating that I do. You know, I've never done any drugs in my entire life. And have no desire to.
It's just so disapointing how ignorant and close minded she is.

Thank you for your response!

Me and my mother are BOTH Geminis were 2 days apart.. and she is the same way as your mother.. It makes us Geminis come across as Fickle 'Fake' but it's really because we tend to change our minds everyday.. Get use to it.. She loves you no matter what. I became Immune to it as a Gemini myself lol.. So whatever my mother doesn't agree with I just say okay mom.. That's your opinion, but can you Respect that I want/do it this way? Make it seem like you are asking her opinion but really you are telling her it's going to remain the same so leave it at that. But she will feel more like she has a say if you ask her that regardless if you are going to keep your hair style or not lol.



You're totally right about the changing mind aspect of Gemini's! I've been pretty use to it. My mothers opinion and acceptance is the only thing that matters to me. One would think I could relate to her more since my Moon is in Gemini. I don't know how that works put though.

Posted by ellessque
...as far as your hair, she's probably afraid it will bring negative attention to you and that hurts her thinking you might be hurt by that. That is my best guess. She could probably never do that because the attention it would bring her would be too much for her to handle.

This^^ right here.... I couldn't have said it better!! In fact, I would die alil inside if my daughter was hurt, and I don't do public attention very well either. Lol!

Elle, I always love to here your stories about you and your mom!

*hear...

Posted by DeeGee
So yeah, it's more of an internal struggle, transitioning over from Mommies little girl, to Mommies grown woman. I don't think she is embarrassed of you.

I agree with you on this one DG! My daughter is a leo with tons of virgo placements. She dies her hair all sorts of colors... Constantly! Also, letting go and the empty nest thing was difficult to go thru... :/

Me and my mother are BOTH Geminis were 2 days apart.. and she is the same way as your mother.. It makes us Geminis come across as Fickle 'Fake' but it's really because we tend to change our minds everyday.. Get use to it.. She loves you no matter what. I became Immune to it as a Gemini myself lol.. So whatever my mother doesn't agree with I just say okay mom.. That's your opinion, but can you Respect that I want/do it this way? Make it seem like you are asking her opinion but really you are telling her it's going to remain the same so leave it at that. But she will feel more like she has a say if you ask her that regardless if you are going to keep your hair style or not lol.



Me and my daughter are both Geminis. Her b-day is the day before mine and this pretty much describes our relationhsip. We have never really gotten along. We use to go at it a lot. I accept her for who she is but sometimes I can't stand the things she does. She says I get on her nerves, but I see it as loving her and trying to protect her. The older she gets, the better we get along, but I think she has just become immune to me. She says Ok Mom a lot, too. lol