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WHAT IS LOVE?
Yeah .. just not forever.
Our egos are selfish, they want love to be possesive and forever because they can't handle not having something to own.
Our souls are free, they want to love all, to experience all, and then set free to love another.
It doesn't have to be complicated, or selfish .. it only has to truly exist ... even if it's only a short moment in time.
And let it fly away .... to go love another.
Our egos are selfish, they want love to be possesive and forever because they can't handle not having something to own.
Our souls are free, they want to love all, to experience all, and then set free to love another.
It doesn't have to be complicated, or selfish .. it only has to truly exist ... even if it's only a short moment in time.
And let it fly away .... to go love another.
"what is love, baby don't hurt me...don't hurt me...no more" -SNL
unfortunately love is hard work.....if you see a couple married for a long time it has not been easy....Ive also learned that you have to find someone with morals and values in a relationship... may be 1 in a million but they are certainly out there if not taken already. I was in a lot of pain a long time trying to figure out why I cant find true love...being hurt and betrayed makes you think you are meant to be alone. But have faith and hold your ground on what you want and what you will NOT put up with and you will be sucessful in a relationship...
Here is an example that really sparked this recent thought between my friends and I.
We have a co-worker and good friend. He is a gemini. He has been with a woman (sign unknown) for a long time...14 years. They got together in their early 20's. They had a baby after being together for 8 of those years.
He tells us that she is a good person and he cares about her but he does not love her. He wants to leave but he can't because he does not want to be "weekend dad" to his son. He grew up under abusive circumstances and vows to be there for every waking moment of his son's life while he is young. Anyway he recently had an affair. He admits to us that he didn't feel guilty or sorry about it. He doesn't want to hurt his "wife" but he feels trapped in a situation that he can't get out of. He says the other woman brings him new life, that unlike he and his "wife", he has much in common with this woman and their personalities compliment each other. He says he feels like sh*t for not feeling guilty about seeing her but he decided to stop the affair because it would just be too hard to live a double life and his role as a father is most important to him. He is miserable though because he says he really loves the other woman and wishes he could be with her.
So his situation makes me question love again and situations like this just make me sad for all parties involved...the child whose existence is responsible for keeping two people together who probably wouldn't be together otherwise, the "wife" who is not getting 100% from her "husband", the "husband" who feels trapped, the "other woman" who is not getting 100% of him either. It scares me a bit because this happens to so many people and I don't want it to happen to me. There seems to be a fine line between "commitment" and "ownership" in love.
We have a co-worker and good friend. He is a gemini. He has been with a woman (sign unknown) for a long time...14 years. They got together in their early 20's. They had a baby after being together for 8 of those years.
He tells us that she is a good person and he cares about her but he does not love her. He wants to leave but he can't because he does not want to be "weekend dad" to his son. He grew up under abusive circumstances and vows to be there for every waking moment of his son's life while he is young. Anyway he recently had an affair. He admits to us that he didn't feel guilty or sorry about it. He doesn't want to hurt his "wife" but he feels trapped in a situation that he can't get out of. He says the other woman brings him new life, that unlike he and his "wife", he has much in common with this woman and their personalities compliment each other. He says he feels like sh*t for not feeling guilty about seeing her but he decided to stop the affair because it would just be too hard to live a double life and his role as a father is most important to him. He is miserable though because he says he really loves the other woman and wishes he could be with her.
So his situation makes me question love again and situations like this just make me sad for all parties involved...the child whose existence is responsible for keeping two people together who probably wouldn't be together otherwise, the "wife" who is not getting 100% from her "husband", the "husband" who feels trapped, the "other woman" who is not getting 100% of him either. It scares me a bit because this happens to so many people and I don't want it to happen to me. There seems to be a fine line between "commitment" and "ownership" in love.
It is deep empathy for another's human experience.
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DAT'Z amore.....🙂 get all fuzzy just thinkin' bout it....
DAT'Z amore.....🙂 get all fuzzy just thinkin' bout it....
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There are times when I worry if I have never been "in love". I've had feelings of love and care for the man in my life but have always felt that if they ever left me I would not be heartbroken. In fact I always do the leaving and it's usually out of boredom.
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I find it easy to love my kids -- why? They accept me unconditionally.
Waterwheel -- that comment is very deep. I'm with you,
Here's another thought:
"Love is patient, love is kind,
It is not jealous, nor snobbish.
Love is never rude, self-seeking, or prone to anger"
"Love doesn't brood over hurts,
It doesn't rejoice in wrong things, but delights in the truth
Love never fails.
It hopes all things, believes all things, bears all things, endures all things."
Shakespeare's take:
"Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds.
Oh no -- it is an ever fixed mark, which looks on tempests and is not shaken."
Waterwheel -- that comment is very deep. I'm with you,
Here's another thought:
"Love is patient, love is kind,
It is not jealous, nor snobbish.
Love is never rude, self-seeking, or prone to anger"
"Love doesn't brood over hurts,
It doesn't rejoice in wrong things, but delights in the truth
Love never fails.
It hopes all things, believes all things, bears all things, endures all things."
Shakespeare's take:
"Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds.
Oh no -- it is an ever fixed mark, which looks on tempests and is not shaken."
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