What to do about my Gemini gf?

I have the most amazing girlfriend in the world, but (yeah there's always a but) she keeps braking up with me overnight.

There used to be a time when she would do this every other day, then everything was fine for a while until last week when she did it again and now exactly one week later she's doing it again.
Known reasons for breaking up: I'm going to kill her and her obsession with this one woman, which in turn leads to a multitude of reason such as: I don't love her, I'm cheating on her, she's a rebound, and so on and so on...

I already had to delete my old dxp account because she kept reading old posts about this woman. Like last week, dxp had apparently made some posts where I was talking about this woman visible again, with a timestamp of 3 months ago. *sigh* So dxp fucks up and I'm unfaithful...

Now of course she can't read that shit anymore, so she decided to read my facebook posts. She has already gone through them god knows how many times, read every single thing, but well she did manage to find something "new" (not new, because she already talked about it a some time ago). Only a few days ago she asked me when I saw this woman for the last time. (to which she already knew the answer, but what the hell) Which was on the 1st of May when I saw her at a racing event where my friend kept talking to her. When we were heading to the showers (we had a beer first after the race) he asked her if she was going to hang around, to which she replied: "I don't know, I'm already starting to get drunk", to which I saw my chance to get back to her one last time, so I said: "I've never known you in any other way" (probably not the exact same wording, but well yeah, it pretty much came down to me calling her a drunk) after which I head of to the showers. She knew this occured then, I said it again a few days ago and it probably came up a few times inbetween.

Yet now I lied to her, because I said I hadn't talked to this woman since September last year... (whut?) But I now was flirting with this woman in March. So now I'm cheating on her again and I can't be faithful... I had to look it up myself and I found the only thing she could be referring to. Just posting what I wrote won't make a lot of sense so I will give the full story: so in January I was talking to a friend of mine, who's a restaurant owner, about his dessert creations. I asked him if he could make one for me, to which he started drawing and writing on a beer coaster. In March I went to eat in his restaurant and he made it for me. So I posted a picture of the coaster with the caption "Started like this...", then a picture of the dessert with the caption "Ended up like this today *drool* [this woman's name in a tag] Now that you're back, this is what it became 😉" I had also tagged another person in this message (which had failed, but tagged them later on). Now the reason why I tagged these two people is because I had talked to them about it. (duh?)

And the "now that you're back" refers to the fact that the week prior to this event she was harassing me about having blocked her on fb, while she was the one that had blocked me.

I know she's insecure, so that's not what I'm asking. I'm also not looking for bullshit reactions genre "she's a bitch", "she's emotionally abusive",... I know some of you guys would rather walk away because you lack the stength to deal with this, but I don't run when shit hits the fence, I stand my ground. I even read something last week which holds more truth than some of the bullshit I've read on this site: "These may seem like perfectly good reasons to avoid her like the plague, but that would be a mistake. This woman has a whole lot to offer—she just needs to feel safe first. What this woman needs is a strong man, who is not afraid of her fear. A man who can take it on and, in time, help her to dissolve it. A man who will make her feel safe enough to reveal her hidden depths and to love with all her heart."

So my question to you is how do I take it on, how do I make her feel safe? Because I'm absolutely clueless on how to take away her fears.

Oh and for all of you who think I might be cheating: "to which I saw my chance to get back to her one last time" this should of course been "to which I saw my chance to get back AT her one last time". And we've only known each other since the end of April and been in a relationship since June.

Oh and there's also nothing leading up to it, like she sends me texts filled with hearts, saying she loves me and misses me before I fall asleep or while I'm sleeping, but then when I wake up she breaks up with me...

And a few days ago when she asked me when I last saw this woman she also said that with every boyfriend she picks out one woman who they've been with and then does this for six months, to which she proceeded in listing the names of all of these women.

Are you a Cancer?

I won't tell you to break up with her, I'm not like "those" DPX'ers at all. That phrase you said about making her safe is right on point.
I admit doing what she's doing sometimes. I love my fiance, he's a Gemini, and we break up with each other often, only for it to last a few hours and go back to being loving again.
The reason we do that, is a defense mechanism. You wish to end the pain you feel, and you wish for the person to fight for you.
Like testing them.

Honestly, your story is hard to follow but, if you care about that woman, the one you really wanna be with, get your shit together and stop tagging exes on insta. Who cares if you talked to her about some cake.
Your girlfriend is insecure, you need to help her overcome it. This means, don't give her things she can use to feed her insecurities.
(No, don't ditch her, work on the issue with her. Fuck everyone who will tell you to ditch her, they fucking suck)
You have to be patient.
Ask her why she's insecure, like. Talk to her. Understand what's causing it. And then, do the right thing to make her feel like she's the only girl you love.
Have female friends, I'm not saying stop talking to women, but put your focus on her.

And the break up everyday thing? Ignore it. Next time she does it? Tell her "I don't care, you're my girlfriend. You're staying it"
She's going to love it.

Posted by ashley1734
Are you a Cancer?

No, I am in fact a Gemini myself.

Posted by MyLittleUniverse
I won't tell you to break up with her, I'm not like "those" DPX'ers at all. That phrase you said about making her safe is right on point.
I admit doing what she's doing sometimes. I love my fiance, he's a Gemini, and we break up with each other often, only for it to last a few hours and go back to being loving again.
The reason we do that, is a defense mechanism. You wish to end the pain you feel, and you wish for the person to fight for you.
Like testing them.

Honestly, your story is hard to follow but, if you care about that woman, the one you really wanna be with, get your shit together and stop tagging exes on insta. Who cares if you talked to her about some cake.
Your girlfriend is insecure, you need to help her overcome it. This means, don't give her things she can use to feed her insecurities.
(No, don't ditch her, work on the issue with her. Fuck everyone who will tell you to ditch her, they fucking suck)
You have to be patient.
Ask her why she's insecure, like. Talk to her. Understand what's causing it. And then, do the right thing to make her feel like she's the only girl you love.
Have female friends, I'm not saying stop talking to women, but put your focus on her.

And the break up everyday thing? Ignore it. Next time she does it? Tell her "I don't care, you're my girlfriend. You're staying it"
She's going to love it.

Yeah ofc, Gems need that butting heads sometimes and then they'll kiss and make up and forget all about it.
I'm sorry, after reading it myself I had difficulty understanding it myself, I was trying to get as much info in as little space as possible.
Tagging exes on insta? It's not an ex, it's a post on FB and it was like from before I even knew my gf...


Lol I've tried that approach, by saying that I won't let her break up with me and she kinda like liked it, but yeah, when she does it just gets me down... :/

It's hard to talk to her about that shit, she just wants to keep to herself about it. Uhm I don't really talk a lot to people, so yeah I don't have to stop talking to women cause I don't really do it anyway. :p My focus is always on her. But I just don't know what I can still do, cause I've already done so many things. Like, I'm running out of things I can still do, you know... And like I doubt that having a camera on my ass 24/7 for her to watch me would make a difference, so yeah how do you take away someone's fears?