Are Leo's really as bad as you all say?

I am a female Cancer/Leo Cusp and ive come to the conclusion the past year that I have not only outgrown the bad annoying aspects of my cancer sign for the most part, but I have embraced all the good parts about what I thought a leo was-warm, confident, loving, sensual, sexual, even emotionally deep, depending on who you talk to. I have been proud of myself lately to call myself a leo, until I read things like: leos dont like having deep conversations, they befriend easily, they constantly want compliments, they want things to be happy all the time, they are selfish...ouch!!! Maybe its my cancer side thats getting all upset about it, but truthfully, isnt there more to leo's than meet the eye? dont they possess good qualities?

Hi Cusp31! Sure...ALL people possess good qualities and they also possess the opposite - and this is what brings all of us to learning about who we are and what we want to be. Each one of us is on a different learning curve...example, many years ago when I discovered astrology, I began to study my sign - the pos. and the neg. I saw where my neg. traits came into play and what I needed to change about myself. I have a Leo girlfriend and I have a Leo malefriend. Both are sooooo different. He is kind, caring, thoughtful, keeps his word, respectful, honours our friendship and is a great listener. She? can be very self centered, disrespectful at times to me and others..it is all about her - her time schedule, her place of choice for dinner, she chooses the movies...yada, yada. I have had a few discussions with her expressing my thoughts. She is NOT comfortable sharing her feelings, has not ever had a really close friend (except for me), she is very stubborn. Our 7 yr. friendship has changed...as most do when there is no sharing of oneself. I was no longer enjoying our time together so I chose to move on to create better relationships for me. I don't know if these are her "leo traits" that have emerged but it is her nonetheless.

In all reality...sign or no sign, how we are treated by someone makes a big difference in the value of a real friend. We don't remember days...we remember moments.

thanks freebird for responding and sharing your story. But see thats what im afraid of, is coming across someone who is self centered because ive had enough of that, and actually i wondered what it would be like to get involved with another leo. but i wonder if that would be a bad nightmare, or a fairy tale. thats what they say anyway. it really is a problem for me. i have an obsession with astrology and even though it cant make or break a person, it can be an excellent starting point and with so much truth in it, its hard to ignore it.

Cuspy...try not to be afraid of the "UNKNOWN" - Life is such a wonderful adventure. I believe if one goes into a relationship with NO expectations of how the other "should" be and instead, let the relationship unfold naturally it will be an experience that both will be learning from. There are no guarantees that any relationship will last...after all, everything is temporary. Learn to enjoy each person for who they are...if you get to that point and it is no longer fun...perhaps it is time to make a change. Who wants to stay in a relationship that is no fun? I feel that the best thing each one of us can do is be the best that we are in each moment that we are with someone...

BTW...my male Leo friend would make a GREAT boyfriend for someone....they are out there....ask for one and you will get him - just believe! Remember Peter Pan?

Bestest Wishes to you, Cuspy!

Who ever said I didn't like Leos. My predicament is that I can hate all of the bad Leo traits and still love their Kingliness! I love the Leo that's in me and so I love the Leo that's in everybody else! And I forgive the Lion in me when it moves wrongly, so I do the same with anyone else. Leos are Cool.

Hey Cusp31. I too am on the caner/leo cusp (july 23rd), and I understand what you are going through. First of all, you and I are both ruled by the sun and the moon. I would advise you, in case you don't already know, to do some research into your moon sign. That tells us about our true inner selves. My moon is in Aries, and there are some traits that I don't like about that, but at the same time, I acknowledge them, and do what I best to overcome them. However, it is still a part of who you are. That's the important thing to remember, knowing who you are. I agree with freebird, you it's OK to go into the unknown, it makes life more thrilling. When beginning a relationship, you have to go into it w/ no expectations. If in the end, you feel your needs aren't being met, and it is no longer pleasurable for you, you have to move on. You can't fault yourself for being true to who you are and what you want. If you never undervalue yourself, you will find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Relationships involve compromise and caring. But when all that goes out the window, and you KNOW that you gave it your best shot, it's time to move on.

Hope I am not being too personal OFA but I am just wondering why you did not share your feelings with your Leo pal about how you were feeling? Why quietly stop talking to him? I'd be totally confused if I were him...wondering what happened?

BTW - I do know what you mean about the Leo constantly complimenting you. I too have a Leo pal in my life (just a pal) and he compliments me ALL the time. I did tell him thank you but....I do not NEED to be complimented like that - Leos themselves LOVE to be complimented so they feel that others need that as well and that is why they do that.

'trying to make everyone around them as happy and shiny as they are'

Hmm never thought about it in that way, that's a fresh and appreciated perspective of them for me.

I reeeallly don't believe in bringing a Leo down, even just a little, because they DO try, and they try hard. They don't deserve negativity for trying too hard, sure they'll get on some peoples nerves, but like I said they don't deserve anyone's sharp tongue. They always seem to be working toward the greater good (in a way that even a Capricorn, the working sign, could be proud of). So in my case, no, this Scorpio can get along with any Leo juuust fine.

Hey OFA. I'm a leo, and I feel like I must clear the "air" a little. I'm a female, and leo males are a little bit different. But nonetheless, we are all misunderstood. I am extremely comfortable in my skin, and I tend to do better for myself when I'm single. However, I do get lonely sometimes, and I would like to be in a relationship. I don't consider myself clingy, when involved. I don't need to talk my sweetie 5 times a day, and I don't need to see him all the time, either. However, we just want to feel like we are on your radar. As far as him complimenting you all the time, you should know that he complimented you only because he wanted to. It wasn't so that you would like him more, it wasn't so that you would know how he felt. Just like you told him he had beautiful eyes, cuz he did, he would compliment you for the same reason. No offense, but I'm so tired of hearing that leos are clingy and want attention and compliments. It would be nice, especially if there is an equal balance, but it's not necessary. I think that all leo's just want to be treated with the same courteousy, respect and understanding that we would give you. We really are not that complicated.

Leos are not complicated, they are the most direct and pure ppl I know.

I don't like leo men. But what I have noticed is that at least the leos I know are very truly gifted and talented. They can really sing, compose their own beautiful songs and poems, are passionate and truly romantic. It's just the annoyance factor...

Leos are GREAT!! They're so uncomplicated...so easy to understand that I sometimes find it refreshing...what I like best about Leos is that they want to make people around them HAPPY!What's annoying is that they love to give advice whether you want it or not.

OFA...sometimes your comments about leo's are, suprising to say the least LOL! mmm...every leo is different. Everyone has their own opinion based on their own experiences. I guess the advice thing is true, but me personally...I will only give it if asked. If I'm not asked for advice, I'll usually simply just make suggestions (If I feel the conversation is open enough for me to do so). What I don't understand is that if we are completely direct and open (which we are) than what makes us so complicated? Also, what's the deal with us trying to hard to please everyone? That's bull*% $ #, no offense. Leo's are naturally giving. I know that that sounds a bit, arrogant, but it's the truth. If you think about it, you would have to agree. Thus, we don't TRY to please anyone. If we want to do something nice, or make you happy, we do so because it just comes naturally...not because we feel like we have to, and not because we necessarily want to...just because. I think that I might have said this before, but because we are "that way," we expect to be treated "that way." Of course that doesn't mean buy us nice things, compliment us 24-7 or pay us constant attention (the constant attention would, personally, drive me nuts!) It just means be considerate of our own needs. We can be stubborn, and selfish. Personally, If I happen to be acting that way, I would rather you point it out to me than allow me to continue acting like a biatch. If I'm going to be direct and open w/ you...I expect the same in return. All these things go for any kind of relationship...not just those that invovle leos.

Hey OFA, i just began talking to a leo male myself, but i've liked him for about 3 months, I gave him my number and when i didn't hear from him, i tended to forget about him. Surprisingly he called me & it was a four day in a row thing. One day he paged, then the following 3 days he called...hmmmm!!! What's that about?!. We finally went out the day after his last call but I haven't heard from him for about 3 days now. Confused!! Again what's that about? Since you've been with a gentle and caring leo, i'm wondering if you have any insight to how they go about 1st stage in getting the girl. To me, it's hard to tell if he's interested at this point.

On another note: I personally would'nt mind the compliments since I'm a LIONESS myself. We give compliments freely because it makes us feel good and you really have to be a person that deserves them...not just randomly handed to you. It sounds like you had a good thing.
Also the people I've been with in the past, I just like to buy them gifts, treat to nice dinners, and make sure they shine as much as I do 🙂....just kidding, but seriously!