loreleila
@loreleila
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Are leos stubborn?
It's always been a problem for me. I'm working on it but I like to have things my way, but I'm learning to compromise more. I would say give him options like we can go the following weekend or do something else instead. We're not good at being told no with no back up options. Love is suppose to be about compromise. So just talk to him and compromise.
Posted by loreleila
It's a great relationship overall, but here's the thing: we're both terribly stubborn.
This wasn't a big deal at first, but lately we've been getting into a lot of bickering because neither of us want to give in and both of us want to have it our way.
This is EXACTLY what I went through with a Leo before and it's very exhausting. They swear they are never wrong and they do more talking than listening. What's your sign by the way?
Lol I'm a leo. That's why I understand. My ex said the same thing about me. It's not right and the older I get I understand but sometimes it's second nature too. But I get it. I have a leo guy friend and he and I bump heads all the time. This is why we barely see one another because we're too alike I guess. I have a 4hr max time around him before I her irritated. Example: he and I we're suppose to go eat one night. I guess I took to long because he started sending me a million smart ass text messages about how slow I am. I was cool until he called talking butter. Mind you I'm in the car on the way. He got smart and said I'm about to cancel on your ass. I said treetrunk it I can go home. He said RAINCHECK THEN!! Lmao. I said cool and went back home. Both stubborn. I haven't called his ass since that was a month ago I believe.
That could have been settled so much better. But we Never angry for too long. He could call right now and it would be all good. I say all that to say. Like every sign I guess it's a way to deal with each sign especially if they don't see the problem within themselves and maybe he don't. I understand it's frustrating because many ppl who deal with me hate it. Sometimes with us we need to get it out and maybe just talk and say hey you're making me feel like this and we both want to be happy so we need to compromise it's not always about you. Maybe that will work. I feel we're reasonable people if something is explained properly since we love debating you need to approach it like that.
That could have been settled so much better. But we Never angry for too long. He could call right now and it would be all good. I say all that to say. Like every sign I guess it's a way to deal with each sign especially if they don't see the problem within themselves and maybe he don't. I understand it's frustrating because many ppl who deal with me hate it. Sometimes with us we need to get it out and maybe just talk and say hey you're making me feel like this and we both want to be happy so we need to compromise it's not always about you. Maybe that will work. I feel we're reasonable people if something is explained properly since we love debating you need to approach it like that.
Posted by MIZUNDERSTOOD
Lol I'm a leo. That's why I understand. My ex said the same thing about me. It's not right and the older I get I understand but sometimes it's second nature too. But I get it. I have a leo guy friend and he and I bump heads all the time. This is why we barely see one another because we're too alike I guess. I have a 4hr max time around him before I her irritated. Example: he and I we're suppose to go eat one night. I guess I took to long because he started sending me a million smart ass text messages about how slow I am. I was cool until he called talking butter. Mind you I'm in the car on the way. He got smart and said I'm about to cancel on your ass. I said treetrunk it I can go home. He said RAINCHECK THEN!! Lmao. I said cool and went back home. Both stubborn. I haven't called his ass since that was a month ago I believe.
That could have been settled so much better. But we Never angry for too long. He could call right now and it would be all good. I say all that to say. Like every sign I guess it's a way to deal with each sign especially if they don't see the problem within themselves and maybe he don't. I understand it's frustrating because many ppl who deal with me hate it. Sometimes with us we need to get it out and maybe just talk and say hey you're making me feel like this and we both want to be happy so we need to compromise it's not always about you. Maybe that will work. I feel we're reasonable people if something is explained properly since we love debating you need to approach it like that.
Lol! Oh ok. I'm a Pisces but sometimes I feel like I act more like a fire sign. Idk if it's my Aries ascendent or what but I am very stubborn and I don't back down and Leo men don't either. I've noticed that Leo guys do like to debate and argue, but as soon as they feel like they're losing, they run away and act like you're "too much drama". It's hilarious to me. But if you and he went a whole month without talking over something so petty, I personally wouldn't waste my time on someone like that. That just shows how he really feels about you and you don't seem really important in his eyes. Idk. But ya'll both should let those ridiculous egos and pride go. It's really gonna get you no where. I'm telling you. Lol!
Posted by mindofaquariusPosted by missnia08Posted by loreleila
It's a great relationship overall, but here's the thing: we're both terribly stubborn.
This wasn't a big deal at first, but lately we've been getting into a lot of bickering because neither of us want to give in and both of us want to have it our way.
This is EXACTLY what I went through with a Leo before and it's very exhausting. They swear they are never wrong and they do more talking than listening. What's your sign by the way?
dead on -.-click to expand
*high five* 🙂
Posted by MIZUNDERSTOOD
We're not good at being told no with no back up options. Love is suppose to be about compromise. So just talk to him and compromise.
Ohh that's a good idea; I've noticed that too but it's still pretty random, sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't. I guess it comes down to how much he likes the backup options 😛
Posted by MIZUNDERSTOOD
Lol I'm a leo. That's why I understand. My ex said the same thing about me. It's not right and the older I get I understand but sometimes it's second nature too. But I get it. I have a leo guy friend and he and I bump heads all the time. This is why we barely see one another because we're too alike I guess. I have a 4hr max time around him before I her irritated. Example: he and I we're suppose to go eat one night. I guess I took to long because he started sending me a million smart ass text messages about how slow I am. I was cool until he called talking butter. Mind you I'm in the car on the way. He got smart and said I'm about to cancel on your ass. I said treetrunk it I can go home. He said RAINCHECK THEN!! Lmao. I said cool and went back home. Both stubborn. I haven't called his ass since that was a month ago I believe.
That's funny because that's exactly what happens between us. Of course, under different situations, but it's pretty much the same thing and reactions. I've learned that if instead of getting just getting smart at him, I mix up whatever I'm going to say with some affectionate/ego boosting remark, we usually just end up having a good laugh. Lucky for me, he has a happy-lucky saggi moon, which comes with a great sense of humor 🙂 (Most of the time)
But yeah it's good that at least imo you guys don't stay mad for too long, (neither do I), so we usually make up pretty quickly after any bicker. It does get to be too much sometimes though.
This is EXACTLY what I went through with a Leo before and it's very exhausting. They swear they are never wrong and they do more talking than listening. What's your sign by the way?click to expand
I'm a cancer. Ah!! He does talk a lot 🙂 But it'd be unfair if I said he doesn't listen, I think that he just has a harder time than I me when it comes to backing down. I can't speak for all Leos though, my ex was a Leo rising and oh my... 🙂
Posted by loreleila
... lets just say (as an example) he wanted to go to the movies and for some reason we can't. How do I get him to stop sulking and understand we can go to the movies tomorrow? Is it possible to "negotiate" with you?
I'm confused-- what do you mean "we can't"?
What is the reasoning?
Something like-- we can't because we have to pay the _____ bill, or we have a prior commitment?
Or is it because you don't want to go that day?
Only the latter would require "negotiation"-- adults should understand the first two, without sulking.
And yes, I've dated someone who would not have understood the first two, though they were not Leos.
Frustrating. :/
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by loreleila
... lets just say (as an example) he wanted to go to the movies and for some reason we can't. How do I get him to stop sulking and understand we can go to the movies tomorrow? Is it possible to "negotiate" with you?click to expand
I'm confused-- what do you mean "we can't"?
What is the reasoning?
Something like-- we can't because we have to pay the _____ bill, or we have a prior commitment?
Or is it because you don't want to go that day?
Only the latter would require "negotiation"-- adults should understand the first two, without sulking.
And yes, I've dated someone who would not have understood the first two, though they were not Leos.
Frustrating. :/
No not at all.
Posted by MIZUNDERSTOODPosted by MontgomeryPosted by loreleila
... lets just say (as an example) he wanted to go to the movies and for some reason we can't. How do I get him to stop sulking and understand we can go to the movies tomorrow? Is it possible to "negotiate" with you?
I'm confused-- what do you mean "we can't"?
What is the reasoning?
Something like-- we can't because we have to pay the _____ bill, or we have a prior commitment?
Or is it because you don't want to go that day?
Only the latter would require "negotiation"-- adults should understand the first two, without sulking.
And yes, I've dated someone who would not have understood the first two, though they were not Leos.
Frustrating. :/
Lmao!!!!! I'm the same way. I wanted to ask the same questions. I ask a million of them. You can't say no and think it's not followed with questions that will make us angrier. When my ex used to change plans on me, yeah it's a problem ...
I hate getting prepared for something mentally and physically and then plans change. I don't think that's stubborn that's being considerate to me.click to expand
And you just touched on one of my all-time pet peeves, and if you want to see me inflamed-- that's the way to do it.
One of the ex-Leos used to do that to me, regularly and I fully believe he did it on purpose-- for control.
I started taking my own car when we had plans, and just meeting him places because he was so fond of backing out at the last minute.
Oh that *still* makes me mad! lolol
And yes, it's terribly inconsiderate.
Short answer: yes.
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This wasn't a big deal at first, but lately we've been getting into a lot of bickering because neither of us want to give in and both of us want to have it our way.
I've mentioned this to him, and I've been trying to be a lot more flexible and have also let him get away with things that weren't really that important to me. However even though he agrees on the fact that we're both hard-headed, he doesn't seem to be making any effort to minimize it and he's pretty much "my way or the highway".
So Leos, what's a good way to get you to be a little more flexible? I'm not trying to change his mind btw, but lets just say (as an example) he wanted to go to the movies and for some reason we can't. How do I get him to stop sulking and understand we can go to the movies tomorrow? Is it possible to "negotiate" with you?