Aries Girl Wants Leo Man to Forgive Her

I became fast friends with a Leo man at the last place I worked. Being an Aries girl the connection was inevitable. I was in charge of marketing and he worked in a supporting role with me. I was under a lot of pressure and stress because of work and became frustrated with my role and the bs that was going on and left abruptly. It was mutual between my boss and myself as my boss became intimated by me as I was over qualified for the position.

I sent an email to my Leo man explaining what I went through the last few days of work and sincerely apologized to him for any miscommunication or cease in communication. He didn't respond to my email but I found out that he ended up forwarding the email to 4 others in the office.

What kills me is that during my tenure there I constantly praised him and another co-worker to the partners and acted as a mentor. I even had the other co-worker's back to the point where I saved him from losing his job twice. (I'm not referring to the Leo here.) In addition to this, I acted as a buffer between the source of office stress with my Leo friend at times and am floored that nothing was reciprocated when I felt discouraged. I think he was taken back by my level of frustration which as I mentioned I explained in the email I sent him and apologized for it.

A few days after leaving my job, he deleted me from Facebook. That's what prompted me to send the email apology. Honestly I think that his lack of response and deleting me from FB is quite extreme. I just wanted a chance to explain what happened to gain another Leo man's perspective on this. I didn't cheat, we weren't dating and I didn't damage his pride or maybe I did as I'm not quite sure if a friendship with him is worth pursuing at this time especially since we didn't know each other for very long.

His birthday is coming up in 2 days and I want to send him a text wishing him a happy birthday but don't want him thinking poorly of me for reaching out again only to receive no response from him again.

Should I even bother?

I became fast friends with a Leo man at the last place I worked. Being an Aries girl the connection was inevitable. I was in charge of marketing and he worked in a supporting role with me. I was under a lot of pressure and stress because of work and became frustrated with my role and the bs that was going on and left abruptly. It was mutual between my boss and myself as my boss became intimated by me as I was over qualified for the position.

I sent an email to my Leo man explaining what I went through the last few days of work and sincerely apologized to him for any miscommunication or cease in communication. He didn't respond to my email but I found out that he ended up forwarding the email to 4 others in the office.

What kills me is that during my tenure there I constantly praised him and another co-worker to the partners and acted as a mentor. I even had the other co-worker's back to the point where I saved him from losing his job twice. (I'm not referring to the Leo here.) In addition to this, I acted as a buffer between the source of office stress with my Leo friend at times and am floored that nothing was reciprocated when I felt discouraged. I think he was taken back by my level of frustration which as I mentioned I explained in the email I sent him and apologized for it.

A few days after leaving my job, he deleted me from Facebook. That's what prompted me to send the email apology. Honestly I think that his lack of response and deleting me from FB is quite extreme. I just wanted a chance to explain what happened to gain another Leo man's perspective on this. I didn't cheat, we weren't dating and I didn't damage his pride or maybe I did as I'm not quite sure if a friendship with him is worth pursuing at this time especially since we didn't know each other for very long.

His birthday is coming up in 2 days and I want to send him a text wishing him a happy birthday but don't want him thinking poorly of me for reaching out again only to receive no response from him again.

Should I even bother?

Thanks for the advice. I hope he's still not upset with me. It's been almost 2 months since I sent the email and I haven't contacted him since.

if u did nothing wrong, don't forgive him. i don't see u doing anything wrong. if he's ignoring u and forwarding your private msg to 4 co-workers..he just wants people to feel bad for him. forget this guy. don't say happy bday to him.

I don't understand this post...Please correct me if I'm reading this the wrong way.

You did nothing to this guy but take him under your wing help him learn the ropes, be a mentor, look out for him. You send an email and he sends it out to 4 other people in the office (embarrassing you, attempting to damage your reputation) He deleted you from Facebook and thus you want to email him and say happy birthday...Oy Vey

What I don't get is why don't you feel humiliated and angry at this guy? You clearly was there for him despite the stress issue and this is how he treats you by cutting you completely off and attempting to embarrass the hell out of you via your old job.

Ungrateful little snot, I don't suggest you continue to reach out to him unless you don't mind looking like you have no self respect and your mentally challenged and desperately in love and needy.

Well said! I needed to hear some other POVs and get shaken up LOL. I will definitely not be in touch with him.

When I saw that he forwarded my email I was very humiliated and angry. I have not contacted him in 2 months since I sent the email and hadn't planned on it. He does not know that I know that he sent that email.

The back story on this has given me time to reflect on our friendship. He used to flirt with me relentlessly and at first I used to feel sorry for him because he was so bad at it and I thought something was wrong with him. LOL. What he lacks in the looks department he makes up for in charisma and charm. Please picture Katherine Heigl and Seth Rogan in Knocked Up just to give you an idea of what I'm referring to here.

We used to spend a lot of time together at work and outside of work along with two other co-workers and privately he was very shy and VERY respectful. I used to be extremely careful with dealing with him because I could not reciprocate his feelings due to my being in a committed relationship. I knew he started developing feelings for me. The reason why I'm asking for advice is because he got really upset with me because I deleted him from LinkedIn because I'm wrapping up a lawsuit against a former employer and at the advice of my attorney took down my position and company info. along with deleted my co-workers so my former employer's attorney wouldn't go looking for my current employer to tell about the lawsuit.

He and I were also supposed to work an event together and I told him he didn't have to spend his Saturday working the event I would take care of it myself. The day before the event, I went to deliver marketing materials and he was helping with the set-up and I didn't ignore him but was aloof towards him which I could sense that he was upset. Following his return to the office I sat down with him in his office and asked him how the previous day was as I was off site all day and hadn't seen him and wanted to explain that I didn't want him wasting his Saturday and was thinking about him. He questioned my decision for not wanting him there and I just told him that it would be handled. I left that day without saying goodbye but later texted him to have a good weekend which he responded for me to do as well.

There was quite a bit that happened within a few days and communication break down was a huge part of it and it's mostly my fault because I was upset by something that our co-worker told me about my Leo that I should have just asked him myself. Instead I was hurt and avoided him all together which I know only confused him.

After sharing the story with friends, their POV is that the incident that upset me wasn't his decision but was instigated by the other co-worker. My friends contend that the attention my Leo showered me with before everything happened doesn't fit with what got me upset in the first place and to give my Leo the benefit of the doubt.

Now that I am reading Valeria25's post I'm wanting to wish him a happy birthday. LOL! So confusing. 🙂

Perception is reality and his perception about what happened was cause for me to take a step back and look at how everything played out.

I really appreciate tiki and delishh's posts but want to make it clear that there was some misunderstandings, mis-communication and hurt feelings and my over reaction to certain things to give a better understanding. I would be remiss if I played the victim here by not sharing more of the story.

I have been having such a fantastic summer and am happy and am now working for a great company and want to simply send a text to wish him a happy birthday. If it sparks a response then you can be sure that I will certainly be addressing the issue of sending out the email and schooling him in that area along with making a couple more points to establish the lines of respect with him.

I've obviously gone to great lengths for advice on this one because I value his friendship or at least I did.

Nah drop it, drop it as in drop the drama already, it's annoying...Just let it go, come back to him later when everything has simmered over...I'm not disqualifying Valeria's advice at all just to make that clear, everyone's opinions are important.

My style is I cut through the bullshit and deal with things now, having background info helps but I deal with were a woman is now with a man, I don't allow the past to sway me too much. I'm interested in knowing what you were told about the leo that made you feel you needed to distance yourself....Was it about another woman?

Your post confuse me quite frankly b/c there is a ton of emotional drama that was occurring with you and it's possible that he felt the same way about your erratic emotional behavior and cut you off....I say get stabilized first, get your emotions in check and then extend your friendship, let all of the icky confusing stuff die out.

Do what feels right for you...You will see by his response or lack of response to your happy birthday text were he stands at the moment, if he doesn't reply or he replies with little to no enthusiasm, move on and come back to it later to see if he's open to connect.

Also to say happy birthday and then go into the previous drama from the past is quite frankly a little nutty IMO...I dunno but I think as an Aries your nature is to be slightly impulsive and overly dramatic and given that leo has that same kind of nature you overwhelm him and he's just not that into it but hey your an Aries, nothing can hold an Aries back once the mind is made up, again do what feels appropriate for you. Also please don't get offended, your emotional level seems to be a bit immature and distant and yet you have a ton of excuses why your that way, you offend the man and then want to be his friend...I don't think he's going to want to pursue anything given your inability to be open when you can clearly see it's needed as to not cause the other person conflict. He felt burned and he burned you. I'm not saying never reach out to him but use tact and wait a while, let it blow over...Patience is needed

Good luck!

He's an early August leo, I actually know someone with the same birth date, let's just say he's a mess, maybe that's why they are so attracted to one another. They forgive easily but if she pushes too hard, too much he will pull out his claws and swipe her really hard to let her know he's KING...

Thanks again everyone for such great advice. Yes, Tiki I have realized this immaturity in myself 😉! It's one of the reasons I felt compelled to extend an olive branch in the first place along with shedding some light on why I reacted the way I did. It took a lot for me to do this but I felt that I would regret not showing this side of myself to my Leo.

I hadn't given it a second thought to engage in anything but a happy birthday message regardless of the response. He hasn't heard from me since I sent the email.

My first love was a Leo and he used to commend me on giving him his space and stepping back. He admitted it afforded him the opportunity to reflect on what happened. Hopefully the last couple of months along with my well wishes will have the same affect on 8/3 Leo. If it does not then I'm not interested in his forgiveness.

Since we live close to each other and are bound to run into one another, it affords me the confidence to know that I did everything to make things right.

Understanding that Aries and Leos are electric together and that Aries have a tendency to upset their Leos, we also know how to charm them back. Whether I charm him back or not, I'll have no regrets and the upper hand if and when we run into each other. I'm not going to be embarrassed that he shared an email I sent him. I have too many great things going on for me not to move past it.

hi Sunny,
It doesnt make a difference whether he is a leo or any other sign.He disrespected u by forwarding ur emails to 4 other people.He deleted u from Fb pretty much showing u that u dont matter to him. If a guy disrespects u,why do u still want to bother abt sending him a birthday wish? If he genuinely cared abt u,he wud never delete u and definitely not forward ur email to other people.I just think u shd think twice and not subject urself to further embarassment.what if he forwards ur birthday greeting to the entire office? tht wud b more humiliating for u in the long run.2 mths is a long time to keep anger.I dont think he is sulking or anything.I think he is just going on with his life and u shd do likewise.Sorry,its just a very unbiased opinion here.

Hi Everyone!

Thank you all for your feedback. I've decided not to pursue it. I'm done rationalizing why he did what he did after my explanation and all things considered it was ridiculous and I would give the same advice not to send well wishes if it was someone else.

Hope everyone is having a wonderful summer! I'm about to enjoy the rest of mine. 1 more week until it's back to work for me. 🙂

OXO ~ Sunny

Thanks Valeria. I don't mind the effort at all. I think that's the beauty of the Leo/Aries relationship.

I got a text from him yesterday. Friday the 13th of all days, HA! He just texted hi. I responded to him later in the evening and he told me he saw me out on Thursday which is true I had dinner with a guy friend. The gist of everything was that I said why didn't you come over and say hello and his response was that he thought I saw him and I looked like I'd never met him before in my life. I never saw him. Must of been having too much fun in my own little world.

At any rate, I feel better that the contact is there and that I didn't have to initiate. Funny how things happen. He saw me and perceived that I had seen him and to him I could have cared less.