Cancer woman asks IS THIS LEO MALE LOVE

I met this Leo at a bar where I was singing. He was with his musician friends. He is a musician. My Leo male and I had a "sexual" relationship for two years. I had no interest in him beyond that. I had a boyfriend (Capricorn) but my relationship with him was coming to a close. My Leo constantly pursued me (for great sex only) at times I would give in. We would get together, smoke, drink and you know the rest. Other times I would not even bother to answer his calls.

All that changed 3 months ago. I discovered that he wanted a more serious relationship. I was a little hesitant but said OK. I discovered surprisingly that my Leo was really an honest, open, sensitive man. He was different from any man I had ever met (including my ex-husband, Libra) he brought out the lover in me, and as a cancer I immediately began to praise and stroke his ego, whenever we were together I never left any doubt in his mind that he was the apple of my eye. A short time later he told me he loved me...and I fell in love....that's when the sh*t hit the fan.

He did a 180 degree turn, first, what brought us together in the first place, stopped within weeks (no sex, no drink, no smoke) however this only applies to me NOT TO HIM. And the Sex, forget about it...that is "the last thing on his mind cause he has soooo many other problems" (BULLSH*T).

He became much more controlling. He has met, by his request, almost all of my family, and he has let me know that it's time for me to meet his. He now dictates this relationship. I now have rules that I must follow. He never takes any blame for any problem in this relationship. When he says "we" need to work on this, he means "I" need to work on "me". HE FORGOT MY BIRTHDAY ( A F*CKING NO NO WITH A CANCER), his favorite aunt died that week so I privately forgave him and said nothing but as a cancer I will never forget it. We spend some time privately (no sex), and we talk throughout the day, everyday.

Don?t get me wrong, I still LOVE my LEO man and his controlling ways (I am a cancer girl after all) but the change was a surprise to me. A trusted male Leo friend told me that my Leo man has put me on his Pedestal and that I have gone from the whore to the virgin with him and that he was getting me ready to be either part of or at least involved with his family.

IS THIS TRUE AND IS THIS HOW LEO MALES LOVE?

As for the sex, I think he "caught" something and does not want to share it with me. Please advise!!

"A trusted male Leo friend told me that my Leo man has put me on his Pedestal and that I have gone from the whore to the virgin with him and that he was getting me ready to be either part of or at least involved with his family."

Listen to your Leo friend. He probably knows more about the situation than anyone here would. It does sound like that's exactly what happened. You're now officially a part of his "world". Any criticism he gives you, and any domineering behavior he shows, it is probably because he believes it's for your own good, or for the good of the relationship (even though he might be better off listening to you on these matters). I am not condoning this type of behavior, only trying to provide an explanation.

"HE FORGOT MY BIRTHDAY"

You say that's a no-no with Cancers; well it's a no-no with most people.
It's difficult to tell from your post whether he is worth your time/energy. To answer the question, though, those are definitely signs of him having serious feelings for you.

When he says "we" need to work on this, he means "I" need to work on "me".

I forgot about this part. It's a definite ego thing. Leos are usually pretty bad at stepping outside of a situation and saying, "Ok. Maybe I messed up," or, "Maybe it was my fault." Pride and emotion can cloud a Leo's judgment during a dispute.

But Cancers are usually pretty subtle and tactful. The one I was involved with could make my errors obvious without throwing them in my face -- and I think that's important, because a Leo's ego is easily bruised. You might be able to get through to him, if it really bothers you.

Thanks very much for the input, archer and wheelhomies.

I can say that I am suprised by this Leo Cancer relationship. I had always assumed that Leo was to overbearing for emotional cancer, but I must admit my LEO has taught me a few things. I AM A TRUE CANCER. Althought I may not show it, he can tell when I am about to get emotional. He has this keen ability to calm me down and get me to talk about everyting including this relationship. One of his rules is "If you have a problem with us then talk to me, we will work it out!"

I have come to realize that althought he has a brave "surface" I know that he is easily hurt, and the brave front he puts on is just that..a front. This is why I do not hesitate letting him know how special he is.

I know that I will probably need to do this for years to come, but at least he will be in my life for years to come!

So thanks again!!

NOW I HAVE TO GO TO THE CANCER MESSAGE BOARD AND EXPLAIN WHY CANCER WOMEN ARE SOOOOOOOOOOOOO CRAZY/MOODY/SENSITIVE.

Leo men have many faults but the beautiful part of them that you take for granted until you meet others, is that they are communicators. You always know where you stand with them. They go out of their way to make you feel important. You never have to doubt how he feels about you because he will you either way, good or bad. Enjoy it!

u know people totally forgot "the caught something" part. What did he catch by the way?

I've never dated a Leo male, but it sounds like you have one dominant man there. LWC usually gives good Leo male advice.

Maybe considering he had a death in the family the week of your birthday, forgetting it should be overlooked at least this one time. I would imagine it would be hard to celebrate anything. So, forgiving him is good. Forgetting should be attempted hopefully. It doesn't sound like he was trying to hurt you.

I'm with Daemon on this part...

.......As for the sex, I think he "caught" something and does not want to share it with me........

Is he seeing other people?

Based on that 2nd post it sounds like you still love him anyways. So I guess it's all about what you are willing to put up with. Good luck hun : )

.......As for the sex, I think he "caught" something and does not want to share it with me........

Is he seeing other people?

The "caught" refers to an STD. We practiced "safe sex" until we became serious. I give blood once a year so I receive mandatory HIV tests. So far, so good.

I hate to write this but when it comes to fidelity I don't think most men can be truly faithful. Since we are dating (not married) and this level of our relationship is new, it's hard for me to believe.

Don't get me wrong, I believe that you can separate sex from love, and althought I don't know about fidelity, I do believe that a man can have a "one night stand" and still love his partner. I don't condone the behaviour, I just like to be realistic about it.

I don't care if my man finds another woman attractive or gets visually aroused by another woman. I told my Leo love when we decided to be serious, "I don't care where you get your appetite...as long as you EAT with me"

He says he is not (having sex outside of this relationship), but I don't know. He has told me why we are not active now but I'm not buying it!

Sorry I meant most men CAN'T truly be faithful.....

It does sound like he's a little overbearing, maybe he's trying to slow down the drinking and smoking so you two can move to a more meaningful relationship. I think you are long overdue for a serious discussion, you need to stand up for yourself so that he respects you. And definitely tell him that forgetting your birthday is a NO-NO.

As for the no sex, I guess you need to take his word that he's not cheating and is just preoccupied. It kind of sounds like he's lost some attraction for you because you won't speak your mind about other things. Give him some tough love and tell him exactly what you will and won't put up with. Don't worry about hurting his feelings, he can handle it and will respect you more for doing so.

Ok Softshell...thats great you are getting tested for HIV, but there are sooooo many other STD's you can get.

My suggestion, do not have sex again with him until you are both tested for EVERYTHING and get a clean bill of health. He could easily have something but got it from a previous realtionship.