Disappearing acts from a leo!

I read somewhere on this board that leos tent to disappeare when they need to think about commitments or important desitions.

Why else would they diappear/not contact you for a longer then usual time frame?

Fill me with knowledge so that I can prepare myself for this type of act and not get upset or pull away when or if it happens.. Or if its happening now!

Thanks to those who take the time to give me some information I truely appretiate it.. 🙂

I need your help with something..
After I saw him on thursday he said good night to me. And nothing since. No call no text. I called him this morning to see how his weekend was and he didnt answer. He has never done this usually if I call him or text him he calls me within 5 min, I have now waited all day it is 12 in the morning and still nothing..... Do you think I should worry. He knew that I was busy this weekend and I know that he was busy this weekend but to have nothing at all, all weekend, He has never gone more then 2 days without contact in some form.....

Should I worry or just wait?

Thanks in advance..

i'll just give in my opinion...
I think its very typical of a leo male to do something like this. They pamper you with affection and then they do a disspaearing act. But its not necessarily a bad thing. leo guys need space, and time to do their own thing. don't take it personally, I don't think not speaking for a couple of days indicates that he's not into you. he's just focusing on other things right now. You should just focus on yourself at this time, don't worry about him just do your thing. he'll respond to your call/text eventually. leo will appreciate the fact that you have your own life and respect you even more for going with the flow? even if you are puzzled by this, don't show it to him. unless this was an emergency, theres no reason to get worked up.

how long have you been seeing him for ,i would leave him alone for a while maybe he has got a problem or is busy or something,if i have a problem i need to be on my own for a while,then suddenly i realise i need to be in touch and contact people again.all men retreat to their cave once in awhile you have to leave them alone,and get on with your life,if you mean anything to him he will be in touch again.

Thank you.

Firebabe- We have been talking since Dec,26.2007 I guess dating for 3 weeks...
He has never gone this long without contact before. I know he had a big all weekend party to go to so Im really hoping he is okay and safe.... Oh well Im sure he will call.... And yes everybody I have been going on with my life. I wont stand by the phone I refuse to do that to myself. Plus I have way too many things to do...

WAN- So I guess I should get used to this stuff then.. If I want him in my life??

Im really hoping he is okay and safe....

Don't even start to think like this! You're not his momma! 😉

I wouldn't worry about it. I wouldn't even bother contacting. He'll contact you when he gets around to it. That's the beautiful thing with us Leos... We will always seek you out if we're interested in you and you've pulled back a little. Don't worry that this disappearing act is similar to that of a cap (though you said you never experienced this with your ex). Again, I wouldn't even stress.

Thanks LWCA/Chocolate. He did call me this morning. He had a rough drinking weekend. He is at home recovering. And the worry part is in my nature if I care about someone. Its not a mommy thing I just worry I am a gemini thats what I do. I worry about non schelont things that dont need to be worried about.... Im working on it...
But yes I totally agree with you he is a big boy I do Not need to worry about him. And yes I have relized that he is very interested in me at this point. He is suffering from alcohol poisening. Hehe. I dont understand why people do that to themselves but who am I to say anything I dont drink.. Period..

You did however make me feel better knowing this info about the Lions... I just need to relax.....

Patients is not a strong point with me. Im also working on that. But I do however keep thinking to myself that good things are worth waiting for. And he definitly is a good thing. So I just need to relax....

Thank you.... If you ever need advise with a gem or anyone for that matter, let me know. Cause you guys are helping me to learn patients. Your great people. Thanks again.

I'm glad yours called. It's been two weeks since I heard from mine. I have no idea what is going on with him. He told me he loved me and then ran away. Typical Cat. I have had to start dating other people and move on. The funny thing is I know he is thinking about me because I can see that he often looks at a newsletter that I sent out for my business that has my picture on it. I have a feeling I will hear from him again, but I also have the feeling that by the time I do I will have already moved on and not be able to trust him again.

GSlove- He will call. But when he does the choice is yours. They do tend to scare themselves off but I dont think thats a leo thing I think its a man thing. But always remember "Good things are worth waiting for". Whether it be your leo friend or another man. Woman need to patient with men. Just like some men have to be patient with woman.

FF- not calling me for 3 days is not unexceptable. We are NOT married, I dont own him and he doesnt own me.... Relax. Everything is okay. He is a good man. Trust and patients. Now I know why you didnt stay with your leo. (That is NOT an insult so please don't take it that way.)

Proverb- Thats too funny. 🙂 But its probably true. Twin #2 hides from commitment. You just need to learn how to get over it.... Commitment can be fun too.

FF- I agree with the not knowing someone part. I to have been played by a leo. I met him we hit it off from the very begining it was great love at first site I guess you can call it. But I always knew he was hidding something.

3 weeks later to my suprised his secrets came out. He was married and had a child with his wife and he lived with her. So absolutly everything I knew about him was a lie...

This new leo Im seeing has given skeltons from his closet. Many of them to... But scientifically it takes men 4 years to really know someone.
But for me I didnt take the first experience as they all are like that because they are not.
I like what I get now we will see if I feel the same way in a few months or maybe even a few years. Time will tell. But at least Im giving the second lion a chance. And you can not hold someone past against them we all make mistakes that is why it is called Living and learning the hard way. The past is the past... Leave it there if a person decides to share there past with you feel privlaged because me I leave there and its gone I take the knowledge with me but not the tears.

That is one huge reason why I cant stand all these f-in people who say Oh I have been hurt in the past.... So who f-in cares everyone has been hurt learn from it and move the heck on. No two people are the same. they maybe alike in many ways but they are never the same.....

A relationship is taking the good with the bad. If you love that 95% of a person but absolutly can not handle the 5% THEN MOVE ON. If you can handle that 5% of bad then you got yourself a great catch...

Also where I live the girls here are sluts. No respect lets see what I can get out of this guy type people so whan I come along. Inosent looking for love they run because of those trashy girls who have now ruined this perfect individual...

That is why I say woman are worse then men.... Because all they are looking for is who has more money and what can I get this poor sucker to buy for me....

The undeserving girls get the good guys and ruin them..

My leo told me something that I will probably carry with me for the rest of my life now. I said they are plenty fish in the sea. He said ya but the ocean is polluted. And I had no idea how true that statement was untill I sat down and thought about how most woman treat men really bad because of that one guy who broke there heart.

Sad but soo true.

Yep and I find them all. Yay.... Can I ask you lions something.
When you meet someone you really like, and you put your heart into it do they run from you?
And the people you treat like shit come back for more?

That is what my life is like. The ones I want run away and the once I dont want come back all the freaken time..... As soon as I start to care about someone then its over. But if I dont care about that person they want more...

Whats wrong with people?

I'm the same as LeoAqua, if I don't like you or you annoy me I will totally ignore you and disappear on you with no explanation.

Ok well here is his chart. Tell me more if you know what it means?
Thanks.

Sun Leo 18.18
Moon Sagittarius 23.58
Mercury Leo 19.11
Venus Virgo 21.02
Mars Cancer 15.47
Jupiter Libra 7.47
Saturn Libra 6.28
Uranus Scorpio 26.04
Neptune Sagittarius 22.14 R
Pluto Libra 22.00
Lilith Scorpio 25.00
Asc node Leo

Wow thank you. That explains a couple of things.

Wow thank you. That explains a couple of things.

Leo's will disappear on you if they feel you are playing games with them or you are asking more from them than you are willing to give. Once a Leo disappers from your life whether they like you, love you whatever the case may be, you can say it is pretty much over and they don't turn around and fall into too many of the same "traps" more than one time.

I will disappear from someone's life if I feel they have been decietful or I feel he/she have betrayed me and even if I LOVE the person and they are continuously on my mind, it will be very HARD for them to get me to be the loving person I was to in the beginning. Leo's usually don't hold grudges they tend to walk away with no return.

Gemini's and Leo's make a great pairing but please by all means don't backstab him.

Hmm interesting because I can hold a grudge like you wouldn't believe.

My leo disappeared after some problems we were having. Me calling his ex ect. Lol! along with something totally messed up he did to me which I have gotten over but....he resurfaces after 3 1/2 months...he has sent me several emails (because I haven't taken his calls) saying that he needs to talk to me...calling me sweetheart and saying that he misses me! I feel vindicated because I always knew I'd hear from him again but I'm not sure if we can still have something as he has hurt me deeply.

Should I call him? What do I do?

The obvious answer is no but I do still feel something for him. Need help, don't I??

This is also the guy who I told that I loved him and about 2 weeks later he was gone only to hear from him now 3 1/2 months later! WTF— I knew he would miss me...the catering to him, cooking for him, the sex!!! I knew it! But I'm not sure if I want to open that can again... part of me does though...He had such a magnetism about him. I know he was depressed at the time we were together. Does him resurfacing me he has worked through these problems?

Krobe "Gemini's and Leo's make a great pairing but please by all means don't backstab him."
Idont want to back tab him I just to get to know him better, And it may seem like Im playing games ith him only because I want him to come to me. I dont want to chase him that will only make him go away from boardum.

Chocolate "are u being truthful and sincere about who you are—?" Not really I have alot more feelings in me that he might see he might not see. I dont want to scare him of with my effection. Cause I have more to give I just dontwant him to think Im klingy and needy because Im not. If thisdoes work out though Im sure mr. leo wont ever feel unloved by me.

Meme Keep waiting for him to contact you. But realistically if he did that to you once he will probably do it again.


I dont neccessarily think Im playing games I just want to know if he is in this with me, I dont want to be the one all the time initiating the contact it makes me feel unwanted.
Also most of the time he is busy and doesnt answer his phone I hate interupting him at work...

Gemini,
LOL, let's get one thing clear. One can play games with Leo men. Who are we kidding? They love the drama and the passion that comes with trying to figure out what game is being played. Save the honesty and direct approaches for more boring signs but Leo men are all about the intrigue and the mystery.

Meme...my guess is that after you guys parted ways, he moved on to other folks, had his fun, then did a comparison...and came up short with what he has now. OR...he's been rejected by other women and decided to come back. Leo men don't stay alone for that long. How does that phrase go?? "If not you, someone else."

I do agree with whoever said that once a Leo disappears, it's usually for good. I don't think we're a sign that typically retreats to "think about things." We put up with a lot before we finally walk away. Most of the time, it's for good.

they will often times disappear or act uninterested because they want you to chase them, but will tell people that you are "bugging them" or "on their jock" when it's really not like that, at all..!!

Retreat- no he didnt disappear. He just waits days in between. So now Im not ansering the phone. I will call him next week or I will call him tomorrow if he calls again tonight. He knows I have tonight off so he is probably going to want to know what Im doing! I hope... I will let you all know what happens...

I decided that I won't contact him. I agree with Chocolate! He wants to get some!!! I know I got that fiyah! (Lmao) It's not like he's trying to apologize or anything...I will miss him alot, however! Dammit man! All of that sexy going to waste!!! :

"I do agree with whoever said that once a Leo disappears, it's usually for good. I don't think we're a sign that typically retreats to "think about things." We put up with a lot before we finally walk away. Most of the time, it's for good."


Oh so true LWCAA! I just really disappear or stop contact someone if I feel him/her betrayed me or really hurted me. But once I do it's for good, I don't look back.

MeMe he sounds like a real catch? Sarcazum...

Chocolate-- He called and I didnt answer again so I got his msg that he left me and and it was worry in his voice so I called him back 30 min after and he was mad and yes he is possessive.... Which like I said before it doesnt bother me. But I definitly got my point across to him.

He told me that this week has been really bad for him and he was protecting me by not calling because he would have taken it out on me. So I said well you could have text and he paused and said ya but I didnt with guilt in his voice.
I do believe I have him. Now I just have to be patient and wait for him to come around more and more. He said he would call tomorrow he really wants me to call him. He is always inviting the phone calls for eg. When ever you want give me a call doesnt matter when you can just call... OR why dont you call me tomorrow or when you get off work.. Then he will pause and say IF you want.... What is up with that. Im making him come to me and he really wants me to go to him...—? Im puzzled but very intreaged at the same time...
At least now I know he wants me in his life...

Thanks for helping me out. Its like aa world wide support group in here. We all care about eachother....

Keep your heart and your minds open and you never know how many people you can truely help in your lifetime....

Chocolate- Thank you very much. He definilty does have a place in his heart for me. He is very insistant that I call him. Then he doesnt answer. It drives me nuts. But im being patient with him cause i know he is busy....

As to the calling when he is mad thats fine cause i really dont want to fight with him its too soon... 🙂

He wants me to come over tomorrow to see him so I will see what time he calls at.... Cause if its to late forget it....

So have you ever dated a gemini before...

Chocolate you are a lucky lady to have such good friends. LOL.

Prince I find that they cant say no. Thats why things go wrong for mine anyways. He has way too many things on the go all at once and all the time. For once I would like to spend the day (the whole day) with him just relaxing and enjoying each other. Im sure it will happen if i wait..

Leoaqua- I argree with you about me showing him now. He is very addiment on me calling him now. Last night I was supposed to call him but I got home to late so I text him appoligizing and good night. Then this morning I texy him again "Good morning sunshine I hope you have a good day.

I also think your right about him just being busy. Thats why he doesnt answer his phone. I need to stop getting irritated by this because he does call me back. So I have nothing to worry about.

I think Im going to text him later that I want to see him tonight, see if he fits me in or not.. I think he will because he wants to see me to..
Thank you for your great insite.

LeoAqua- I like your advise. We havent really been in contact this week. He has called me and I have called him but not alot of talking. The part timer at my part time job keeps calling me in to cover her shifts. So when he calls Im at work. Also he has been really sick so when I call him back he is usually sleeping. (I hope).

He is a good guy. He called tuesday told me what he was up to. Yesterday nothing. And this morning I sent him a text msg saying Happy v-day i hope your day is awsome.
Nothing yet. He is at work so I cant expect anything from him.

I really dont know whats going to happen tonight. I dont want to tell him that i want to see him tonight because what if he has other plans already? I can take anymore rejection from people. Im breaken down on the rejection dept. SO I just dont ask anymore.

If he calls I will be more then happy to meet up with him. Start over again. But if he doesnt that wont bother me either.

I think it was chocolate who said this but it was totally true the longer you wait to talk to someone the less you have to say. Dont know why but when I talked to him on tuesday I felt there was alot of silence from both of us. Then I had to answer the phone so I told him I would call him back when I was finish work.. He didnt answer.

I am at the point where it doesnt matter anymore. How can you keep your feelings for someone you never see. Sure distance makes the heart grow founder but thats after you love someone. Not when your dating them. Absents makes the feelings fade away.
When you meet someone interesting your usually spend every second you can with that person. Not us. Im always waiting for him to ask me. He is always busy and for the past 2 weeks I have been busy everytime he calls. But the days he doesnt call Im waiting and wanting him to call. Oh well I guess the saying is when it rains it poors. All I know is for today being Stupid cupid day Im not expecting anything because I cant handle disappointment at this stage in the growing friendship.

Its better to expect nothing that why no one gets hurt and if something does happen your more excited that it did...

SO Happy Valentines day everyone. And to all the single people, dont worry tomorrow is a better day. Thats what I keep thinking.

Oh and FF can I come on the bus to with all the leo females I bet there more fun to hang out with then the males. At least they wont drive me crazy. LOL

FF Thank you I want to come on the bus 🙂

Also the leo dude I have been blowing him off. I dont really know if Im diggen this shit anymore. Sure at first it was fun. But it has been 2 weeks. Where is the fun in that.. NONE>>>>>>

We havent even had time to talk on the phone for more then 3 min...... Its crappy....

I have to get used to being alone, I am having a hard time finding someone compatible. Sorry leos if he comes back on a regular basis then I will give it another try if not. No loss no gain... Well besides the great sex. That was fun.. But aaahhh...


Scorpio text me this morning though... Go figure.... He is so interested.. But the feeling is not mutual. So did the taurus I was talking to in August he made time to text me this morning. Oh and the crazy aries I met just before the leo. BUT the leo hasnt called. I dont expect him to call. If he does woo hoo but if not thats cool too....
Lifes a Beotch you just have to deal with the punches.......

Sorry all im bumed today...... Like I said stupid cupid....
Talk to youall when Im happier.... 😢

Life has a silly way of kicking you when your already down...... POOP.

Thanks all he finally text me back saying he wasnt feeling well so I sent him one back saying does that mean you dont wan tme to come down and see you or does that meen that you have plans. So he sent me a rude one back saying im sick im staying home to rest. So I didnt send anything back..

I think Im going to chose the easy way out of this one..... Sorry leo's. I still love ya.

FF- He is trailing me behind, Im not going to bother anymore. And NO Im far from desperate. I do have alot of different signs around me. My most favorite would have to be the cap man. I have known him for 7 months now and he has been interested but I have been very careful because of my ex cap.. But now we have been hanging out and he is fantastic. I like to leave my options open though untill Im sure I want a future with one of these guys. My sound bad but the only one I have been intimate with was the leo and it was great well it lasted.

The leo male is very high maintanence they are too unpredictable. Well he was predictable but in a bad way...

Thanks ladies you have have been great. I have gotten great advise. Keep helping people.


Oh and FF I have dated 2 sag's in my life both crap. My astro chart tells me to stay away from them. I also have 3 caps 2 scorps 3 gems in my chart. So I have a very strong personality. I think that is why I attract Capricorns so well. They are all around me.

And my bestest and longest relationship was a cap. No regrets. Just didnt turn out the way I had seen it. Oh well. The past is the past.

Well, ALL I can say is Gemini's and Leo's do get along well together UNLESS the Gemini is playing minds games. Leo's do not like mind games and it frustrates us to the point of walking away from you until you realize we are not going to continue to chase you. Well Leo women don't like chasing men but I don't know about Leo men. They may LOVE to chase women or men.

A Leo will have other things to do and if he CALLS or me for that matter 1 time and you ignore me, I won't call you too many more times esp if you don't call me back. If I am putting in the effort, I expect the same in return or bye. I will either try to wait until you come around or take it you are just not too interested and move on to the next available person. We LOVE AVAILABLE mates, not unavailable. We want what we can HAVE and will not put in time or effort on someone who blantly makes us feel like we have to put in way more work or devotion than the other person is putting in. If you put in, you will get back but don't put in too much work in the beginning.

If a man continues to play mind games with me and play on my intelligence, I will let him go with no return. We want what is available to us, whoever made up man only wants what he cannot have or a man only wants what is unavailable to him lied. You have to tell him that you WANT him here and you are not going to tolerate his back and forth behavior or just leave you alone. Tell him he is hurting YOU and he will quit. If you continually ignore him, he will go ahead on. We don't like to put in any type of effort to be ignored. It has nothing to do with being rejected, it is more like why bother someone who doesn't want or cherish the love I am trying to share with them. We don't like being taking for granted. That won't suit well with a Leo woman, I don't know about Leo men.

Cancerbuddy, your Leo will constantly show you love once he feels comfortable. You have to make us feel comfortable, we don't want to be bothered with people who play too hard to get. If he isn't putting in any work, then yes, be hard to get. If he is willing to put in the effort to be with you and you ignore him, he will walk away. Not to much cat and mouse. You either want me in your life or you don't.

Well Leo told me today that he is not looking for a relationship.... He likes my company and he doesnt want to lead me on. It was an interesting conversation.

FF- for me caps are the best. They are hard to get at the begining but once you got them you got them... They are amazing.

Gemini- yes they are all fun thats it.
Cancer- men to emotional for me..
Sag- No freaken way... Dont get along at all. I have dated 2.
Virgo- only ever met one and he was an ass to his girl.
Aqua- they want you to fight for them Im not doin it. Great in bed though. Fun to be around they are alway competing though.
Pisces- never dated one but I work with 4 and they are cool. Dont think I could date one though we would fight too much
Scorpio- Talking to 1 and he is nuts..... Always giving me shit for everything. I cant deal with that. But he is super nice when he is not mad at me.
Leo - Fun
Tarus- I know a couple that want me. Very romantic and freaky dont know if I would date him though. To agressive for me.
Caps- Love them.
Aries- I know one he used to text me everyday. But then he stopped cause I was always busy. But dont know what would happen.

See thats the thing scorp guy was never a tard he is very smart and he has always been really nice to me. He was never in it for the sex either. He is not ugly but he is not great to look at either. He was wonderful untill some stuff went down with me family and I kinda egnored him for a couple of days, then he biched me out for being night and day. One day your hot the next your cold. thats who I am. My grandmother is on her death bed right now so I stopped coming out and answering my phone. This was before the leo started calling me.
But it was great being around him, I thought maybe if we took things slow we could make it work.. Then he pulled the argument shit on me and didnt back down when I told him to. So after that I told him I just wanted to be friends with him. So he started calling me everyday, before that he didnt call me at all. I was the one that called him everyday untill my grandmother went into the hospital. That is when I didnt call him for 3 days and when I did he invited me over and I got an ear full... So anyhow he started calling everyday and anoying me like crazy. So I told him you really dont have to call me this much Im a big girl I can handle myself he didnt stop. So I started egnoring him and he was stil nice and all asking me how my grandmother was if I would like to come over for dinner and stuff.. Then he started getting his sister in law to call me. So I felt like complete shit because these people are soo nice. but he doesnt give me the space I require. If he wouldnt have biched at me in the first place Im sure we would have been an item by now.. But he tryed putting me in my place. So I got scared and ran.

He is still really nice he checks up on me once in a while to see how Im doing and how my grandma is.. Its all cool untill he actualy gets me face to face and then he gives me an ear full...

So for now Im going to stick it with the cap see where it takes me as friends. And ya. I will let yall know what happens... As far as the leo stands. He is now the past.

Thank ladies, I will enjoy my cappy.

Kroebe - there has been no mind games, no cat and mouse with the Leo. I have been there, offered my time and help in a crisis he was going thru - called him to make sure he is ok - etc etc - and not much return. Sad... he knows the deal, he knows I am not a typcal a-hold of a guy, but a good, quality one - he knows that, AND he feels it!

I am not asking to be chased - all I would like is a little initiative from him. Maybe he doesnt want this, maybe he is not ready, maybe he is still looking - who knows?

He is passing up a wonderful opportunity, trust me, because he really doesnt know what the hell he wants, AND is afraid to try!

Well there may be the problem. He doesn't WANT you to help him sort through his problem. He may think of you as kind of doormatish. I am not saying it to be mean you know I love YOU! Leo's love the challenge of dealing with their own problems for some odd reason. Even if we KNOW you will help or give to us, we will still not ask you. He likes you and he "thinks" about you alot. I am willing to guarantee. If he didn't like YOU, he would call you ALOT and he wouldn't care were the relationship is going because he wouldn't care about you. If he is being patient, he is monitoring your behavior before he gives in his "heart" to you. He wants to make sure you want the same thing. Period.

If you two are not on the same page, he will move on. He wants you to initiate but don't offer to many hands in the beginning. Leo's GIVE, and they GIVE big! They love to give and share and he doesn't want you to think he is that easy or desperate. I am willing to bet you this is the case.

Run fast because he will open up and I am willing to be you run. LOL!

LeoAqua,

Oh don't argue with Leokitten! If you are happy in your current relationship with you are HAPPY! Just be happy! happy! happy!.

Leokitten is Happy too! Congruts to her she is in love!

Chocolate-- you are very right about gem men being liers and they stink to be in a relationship too. I am a gem and I would NEVER date one ever again. And yes if I met one that was interested in me I would run the other way baby.. Gem girl totally different well at least I know I am Im not the typical gem though. I like to stay home and chill with loved ones. I dont like being the centre of attention although I find that it happens more ofter then I like but hay what can I do. The ladies I work with say I look inisent and they want to protect me. They are all earth signs though. It funny I am the only gemini in my building the rest are earth and water signs. It works for me because I get along with all of them. It makes my job more enjoyable A gem used to work with us she is on mat leave though. I found that she was more up and down then I ever was. WOW.. It suprised the socks off me how 2 sided she was.

LeoAqua- the only aqua man I now of is very fun. He is a ladies man. He calls himself the rent a date. I feel foe him. Good enough to have sex with but not good enough to have a relationship with.. He is awsome though...
I now another aqua girl she is wicked we used to hang out all the time. Now our scheduals dont line up very much but we still keep in touch.
I am happy for you that you found happiness.

krobe...is a person happy if every week they are posting fretful threads on the state of their relationship and "what does this mean?" "how can we have sex"" "am i his gf?"

now..you may think i am a bad person for pointing that out...but isn't the posting symptomatic of something else? shouldn't it cause someone to pause and reflect

Yeah, Leokitten I know exactly how you feel about the situation of BS! You always hear me say that you are right and you make alot of sense to me but sometimes other less mature women cannot pick up how we manage to keep good men in our lives and remain happy in relationships and they fret. I don't know, I am happy alot and I guess women think they we are very bitter on these boards to them when we are truly just blunt out telling them to be happy with themselves and ANY man can love you. If you are closed off and bitter acting like a cactus and you don't need any water on your beautiful flowers then a man will treat you as a dead cactus. Women cannot seem to understand, men love a happy woman. If he is unhappy, miserable, depressed or anything your happiness will shine through and he will basically love to be around you because you rely on yourself for happiness, not him.
I guess our tongues are to blunt!

"The best rose-bush, after all, is not that which has the fewest thorns, but that which bears the finest roses". ~Henry Van Dyke


sorry for the intrusion on your thread gemini_82grl...

LeoAqua - (if you get a chance to read this) i remember the first time that leokitten and i interacted here on these boards. naturally, she rubbed me the wrong way. however, it didn't take me long to realize that she is a very intelligent woman. therefore, i respect her as a fellow poster and even like her. i hate someone disagreeing with me or picking me apart just as much as the next person, but sometimes it's good to listen. not that you have to mindlessly accept any criticism you get, because that would be foolish; but sometimes thinking about things others point out can help people see or realize things they wouldn't on their own.

no probs 😉

and yeah - i saw the post on the aqua board

it's nice to hear what you want to hear but not always realistic or helpful to you in the long run. kitten's posts aren't meant to pick anyone apart.....they are no-nonsense (blunt) and sobering observations that we may not want to hear at the time. she is not bitter.....she is just being honest with you.

i agree that relationships are NOT defined by sun signs. it comes down to you and what you want and expect out of a relationship. do you intend to be true to yourself?