Disappearing acts from a leo! (Page 2)

LeoAqua, you truly have to look past LK's harsh approach, she has plenty virgo in her chart so her method of picking things apart, analyzing and being critical is REAL lol, she can't help it but she makes very valid points, some relationships are jus not worth losing yourself in, if you find yourself frustrated after 7 months that should be a sign to sit down and reflect on those issues and how your going to deal with them, lack of anything in a relationship isn't going to go away or change drasticaly down the line. I personally and I know there are some that will say it's normal, don't feel it's normal when a man isn't burning up energy through sex with his woman unless he's dipping around somewhere else or really not that into the woman on a sexual level. I know a few Aqua men and they get some each and every time they can lol.

I know you come here for support and I hope that your getting some things off your chest and gaining a better understanding of whats going on between you and your man. He may not be a compatible fit for you and I think LK was trying to get you to question that instead of spending a surmountable amount of time trying to figure him out and make the relationship fit, in most cases if you have to do that then thats a RED flag that you 2 have different love languages and your energies are not compatible with one another which is causing a break down in the relationship.

Things should flow naturally especially within the first year, if your already having issues with sex and communication then he may not be the person you should INVEST so much time and energy on, thats why it's important for women to keep there options open when dating b/c some find it hard to let go of a relationship that isn't suited for her and isn't flowing in the right direction.

By all means if you feel he's worth it then do what you have to do but i'm sure you could finda a more compatible less complicated man to fit YOU, there are men that truly aren't hard work out there.

"see the problem is, so many woman use that excuse to continue on in relationships that actually do nothing for them. whereas, if we were all honest, and more women were not desparate (not saying you are before you get all annoyed) to be in a relationship with a man as a measure of self worth, we would see some people are just not compatible beyond friends or short term dating...there is no need for EVERY relationship to be THE relationship. when you cannot communicate, when you are constantly frustrated, when you are not getting your needs met, when you have insecurity...these are all factors that should be warning signs that something is not working. now, you can say "we can work on all of this and it will be better" but the problem is usually it is only the woman who decides she needs to do the working on it part. therefore, the woman starts changing her behavior to suit the relationship and "make it work"....this is a recipe for a mess."

As I have matured I find this statement is true and pretty much sums it all up, it truly is at the end a recipe for mess and most men will not respect a woman that has changed who she is to suit the relationship, he may stay in it but he will not give her the respect that she desires, if it's truly a situation were the woman is changing ALL the time and transforming to appease the relationship she will be highly disappointed b/c most men treat women as stepping stones, her worth in his eyes jus dropped down 100% once she begins to alter herself, it's a lose lose situation.

I say get out...get out fast!! Even pain and complication can become an addiction, jus let go if he's not giving you the energy to love him.

I don't know Leokitten, you are blunt and honest and honesty to some women is very brutal. They see what they want to see and it is nothing you can do or say that will change it. You know I can relate to the cattiness of someone trying to post a whole post pertaining to you and your honesty. It hurts others to see others happy.

I say if a woman wants to conquer the frustration of being frustrated. Let her.

true, we do know how it will all end don't we...so....

Yeah I live in a world of reality, I don't do imaginary relationship and I don't even try kidding myself, I end it as...bye! Next! No time or patience will give me what I need or want.

LeoAqua I wish you the best of luck, I don't know anything about your story but what you post on these boards. If you are not offended by criticism then let go of it and have a happy day with your man. You know what you want and deserve and no one else should tell you what to do when it comes to your life. GOOD LUCK with your man.

I don't even know your story but I wish you luck!

LeoAqua,

Why defend yourself so much? I wouldn't even bother. Keep posting the good things and the bad things all you want and don't take any of the advice personally. I tend to be similar to LK when I give advice but as I'm sure we've all seen on this board, no one really takes any of it to heart. Hell, for all any of us know, advice given could be wrong. We've seen many instances where people defend their relationship and defend their actions only to discover that they didn't get the result they wanted (see Capricorn board) and rare instances where the person gets what they want.

It was a promise I made to myself at the end of my previous relationship...I'm Leo afterall - not likely to make the same mistakes twice, wouldn't jump into the same fire twice!!

No, Leos might not jump into the same fire twice but we are capable of jumping into another burning and agonizing fire should we fall deeply for a person. I'll use myself as an example. Ran from a Leo that just brought on too much heat, was too verbose, and was extremely confrontational. Ran towards a Cap who was the polar opposite and find that there are a whole different set of issues altogether, just as extreme but not the same.

Ran towards a Cap who was the polar opposite and find that there are a whole different set of issues altogether, just as extreme but not the same.

Yeah but you know you like it 🙂

LOL, not right now, Krobe. Not right now. Having someone who avoids conflict/confrontation at all costs SUCKS. I think my cap is on the extreme side! Things seem good with you and your cap, which is great. Glad to see you're happy 😉

"LK.......i hate to see ur KRAZY arse in court..."

lol! i think it would be quite the sight to behold 😉

hi choco! how are you lovely?

Per my experience with my leo, no they don't disappear for long periods of time UNLESS something is going in his life that he doesn't want to share with you ie heavy stress, work issues, child support issues, too many women issues, also if a mate hurt her lion's pride in some way or the relationship overall isn't working for him then yes he will disappear, I'm sure others can elaborate but no, even when my leo is super angry he will come to me once he's cooled down or he's ready to fight it out some more in some way or another. I just haven't witnessed him leaving for long periods of time, were sorta at it now but he still calls or text, sometimes I will initiate and vice versa, there have been times were I jus didn't wanna deal with him so I would ignore his ass for a few days but from my experience he's up to something if he's ignoring weeks and months there is another undercover lover lol.

Honestly my leo shares his stress issues with me and trust me after awhile a woman gets tired of hearing that BS, so if you have a whiney leo like I have lmao...nip that sh*t in the bud ASAP. So I guess I can back peddle a bit and say if your lion is going thru some kind of emotional or physical turmoil he will either whine to you about it or he will disappear for a few days to figure out what he has to do to fix his situation/deal with his issues but he will not be gone for 5/6/7 days i'm with LK inregards to the disappearing act, no woman should put up with that BS, trust me you don't want him leaning on you to much with his issues b/c a leo male will gangsta lean on your shoulder with his temper tantrums, don't baby him EVER...best make sure you let your lion find his way on his own terms and if he's disappearing longer than 3 days then he's probably creeping, if you want him whip that lion back to the lion's den okay ladies or kick his ass to the curb.

Wait, so is it COMMON for Leo's to dissapear for long periods of time?

Yes, I will disappear if things are not going well in my life. Alot of times it has nothing to do with the other person UNLESS I feel you have decieved me, betrayed me or taken my kindness for a weakness, didn't appreciate my love to you.....etc....etc. I will leave for good depending on the situation.

Leo keeps coming in and out of my life. He is gone for a couple days then he comes back its wierd. Cause I have completely left him alone. He comes to me all the time. I blew him off on the weekend and he apoligized to me for what dont know. This morning he text msged me good morning and he was sorry for being distant with me and he would call me tonight. I really dont care if he does or not. But he is making it very clear he wants me to stay in his life even if it is from afar.

What a wacko. I am sure if things were different with our scheduals it probably would have worked out differently in a better way. Life is funny.....

I just keep answering his phone calls and texting him back. Thats okay for me.

Leoaqua that is an amazing picture you got there....

Leokitten you seem very successful at what you do. Keep up the good work... What kind of lawyer are you?

I recently found out something this weekend about one leo female I know. SHe is soo afraid of getting hurt she wont let any man in her life.. Thats sad.... To be that afraid of falling in love that you dont even give people a chance.

I only disappear when I am sulking or have put on a little bit of weight...😉

The longest I have disappeared was for four months. I only went out for work and to the store. When I was out in public I wore sunglasses indoors and outdoors. My best friend thought I was being stylish, but later she found out what was going on with me.

I didn't want people imposing their ideas on me, nor did I want anyone to see me in that state, I just wanted to be alone.

i only disappear when very very hurt. but i think thats more attributable to my mercury in scorpio.

Help !
I have been texting this guy i knew from high school for 3 months now. He is a leo . He tends to be honest and sensitive and loves affection. During our texting he kind of confessed that he likes me and he liked me since high school. Now here is the dilemma , i live abroad studying a difficult major that requires years if dedication . However he almost finished with his major in another country. so during these 3 months we talked and talked everyday and i started to actually like him. He asked if asked me out multiple times when i come back to my hometown in summer . All of a sudden he became distant , he stopped texting me and just like disappeared... did i do something wrong .. i am a capricorn girl so i tend to doubt alot...