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jjessa
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Hello, I am new to the forum and have a few dating questions for Leos. I am a Virgo female who has recently began dating a wonderful Leo man. I don't know many Leos in my personal life so I am looking for a little insight about what to expect with him. So far things are great. He communicates daily but not a text-all-day kinda guy, very refreshing. When we go out he is very chivalrous and usually pays. I pay occasionally just so that he doesn't feel like I expect him to spend money on me. He usually gives me options and then we discuss where we are going to go. I get the feeling that he prefers to make the decisions and be in control. This is not an issue for me now because he considers my input but does make the final decision. He also likes to push me to my limits. I typically know what I do and do not want to try but since meeting him I have done several things that I never thought that I wanted to do and I have had a good time! All of this is a good contrast to my personality. I am usually the one in control, sometimes that gets to be so mundane. Is control a huge issue for Leos? Is this normal behavior or will it turn into something demanding? Are Leos typically jealous types? I have noticed that in conversation when I have mentioned my male office mate he flinched a little. Is jealousy something I need to be cautious of? We haven't been dating long (3 weeks) but have spent quite a bit of time together in this short span. He is very physically affectionate but there has been no mention of relationship status or emotional connection. How do Leos deal with emotions? What are non-verbal clues to his level of romantic interest? And finally, SEX. He is a machine! I am having a hard time keeping up with him, is this something that will make him lose interest or do I have time to work on it? Thanks so much to anyone who reads this ridiculously long post and take the time to reply.
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okluvu2
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Hi jjessa! I'm new here too but welcome!

It's not so much control as it is ego. Ego is a HUGE issue for Leos, so if you challenge their egos, they won't like it very much. If you embarrass them, their egos are hurt. They are resilient, but if this goes on too long they will want to leave! So if he is immature, it's a control AND ego issue, otherwise, he probably doesnt get off on trying to control you, so long as you compliment him (like your presence and mannerisms compliment his).

Leos are soooo jealous! But he might not EVER admit it! He was probably jealous of you just glancing at your office mate from the moment he realized he had feelings for you. Heck, even if he DIDN'T have feelings for you but he thought you had feelings for him, he'd be jealous of you forming a single thought about the office mate! 😆

Even though he hasn't said anything about relationship status, it sounds like he really likes you and you must be at the forefront of his mind throughout the day if he's physically affectionate. Leos love to be touchy when they're really interested. And you're a virgo so he probably can't get enough of your innocent vibe! 😉

Based on the previous statement, I don't think you have anything to worry about regarding the lovemaking. If/Since he is really into you, you have pleeeenty of time. Leos may be impatient but they are very loyal and will wait, because he sees your potential (potential to let him make you weak in the knees and literally praise his name for turning you into a wild animal and eternal lover).
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Nala
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Posted by Jynja
Wait, do you mean that you met each other 3 weeks ago?

If so, girl you're fast. When did he get the chance to chase you and woo you? Oh well, if things are going great... Yay!



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He is going to lose interest if you don't do something different.

You said, he makes the decisions, picks the places you go yada yada yada and giving up the goods after how long? You said you have been dating for 3 weeks but you didn't say how long before you did THAT !

Anyway, what's done is done. A few of us have been here a few 24 hours and have witnessed this play out time and time again.

Leo men and women for that matter are all in from the beginning. We are like the other Fire signs (Aries and Sags) Fires rage and then they die. It's really that simple. You know the expression add fuel to the fire. Well, it is true if you do not fuel the fire it will die.

We like bright things. Go into the cat section of any pet store and look at how many bright objects are on the shelves. We are ruled by the Sun after all. Try to remain bright, dress bright (not literally) act bright (no doom and gloom) talk bright (intelligently and feisty.)

And yes we are jealous..we pee on trees for a reason. However, keep him jealous. (There is a difference between making him jealous and being disrespectful though) We need to think we have something everyone else wants. It makes us feel special...and we LOVE to feel special. 😉

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jjessa
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Thanks for the replies! The insight will help while I'm trying to figure this one out. Like a typical Virgo I'm trying to get my ducks in a row. We met on an OLD site. It took a while before we were able to meet in person because our schedules conflicted. I have a decently busy social schedule and he has a kid.

Jynja, I gave it up on date 3. I know that's early but he put the moves on me on date 2. I had to break away and make him take me home to avoid giving it up sooner!

Okluvu2, I don't know what it is about that Virgo innocence but it does draw some folks in, but usually doesn't hold up as a major point of attraction.

Nala13, thanks for the advice on fueling the fire. I don't know what I will do but I will try to keep it interesting. Makes me wonder if Virgo/Leo is a good match. I'm naturally routine oriented so spicing it up will take effort on my part. Hope he is willing to put effort in too. We'll see I guess. Things are good so far 🙂
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okluvu2
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Posted by jjessa
I don't know what I will do but I will try to keep it interesting. Makes me wonder if Virgo/Leo is a good match. I'm naturally routine oriented so spicing it up will take effort on my part. Hope he is willing to put effort in too. We'll see I guess. Things are good so far 🙂



Being open to trying new things is good.

But I agree-- hopefully he is willing to put in some effort, too.

Don't feel obligated to "spice things up" just to "keep it interesting"-- he ought to be the one impressing you.

And ultimately-- liking you for who and what you are (as is, Ms Virgo). 🙂
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Nala
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Posted by jjessa


Makes me wonder if Virgo/Leo is a good match. I'm naturally routine oriented so spicing it up will take effort on my part. Hope he is willing to put effort in too. We'll see I guess. Things are good so far 🙂



Routine oriented is a nice way of saying it. I would say boring. My sister is boring, my BFF is boring, my ex was boring, in fact that's why we broke up he never wanted to get off the couch.

Don't get me wrong everday can't be a party and someone has to be grounded and pay the bills and take care of home. That is what Virgos, Caps and Taurus do. You guys are Earth signs and when everything is falling apart I am going to go and look for a Virgo.

When dating though especially in the beginning you will need to do things you don't normally do. Step outside your comfort zone.

He will impress you because it's in his nature to show off whether a little or a lot. All Leos show off. We can't help it. Smoke em if you got em.

Bottom line....all is fair in love and war so do what you gotta do to keep him if you want to. I know one thing for certain and two things for sure....what you won't do another woman will and that's real talk.

I use to take advice from a lot of women. Then one day I started looking at those women. The vast majority who kept telling me to be myself and don't change were going home to empty houses , eating dinner alone and sleeping alone. they seemed to be ok with it. To each his own. I am not ok with it. I need a man. Yup I said it. I need one like people need air and water. I am meant to be part of a pair. So consider the source and act accordingly. There is a reason why single people are single. They can talk that happily single mess all day long. I don't believe it for a minute.

You asked if we are a good match, depends on the chart. A lot of Leos have Virgo placements in their charts and a Lot of Virgos have Leo placements. It could work.

All this was typed pre-coffee so it may come off a little sideways. I like you JJ and I don't even know why. Maybe it's because you came in here acting like you had some sense instead of bashing us or attacking that Leo man of yours. I really hope it works.

Invest in some lingerie and killer heels.
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Posted by jjessa
And finally, SEX. He is a machine! I am having a hard time keeping up with him, is this something that will make him lose interest or do I have time to work on it?



Hi Jjessa! Welcome.

Make him keep his hands off of your body while he watches you do your own thing (if you pick up what I'm putting down). I've noticed that drives men wild in general, regardless of sign.

Experiment! And as always, attention attention attention. Just don't sacrifice your own pleasure.
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Nala
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Posted by Nala13
Smoke em if you got em.

Bottom line....all is fair in love and war
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All this was typed pre-coffee so it may come off a little sideways. ...

Invest in some lingerie and killer heels.



You are fabulous, Nala. 😄

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Aww shucks Mont Mont...now you know I already knew that but thank you very much. I love all of you...You guys are my PRIDE and joy...see what I did there. 😉

My Boo is back ...hey Huntress. I missed you something awful.
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jjessa
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Thanks Nala. All y'all Leos have made me feel welcomed! I just looked up my chart, I'm Leo rising maybe that's why I am interested in the cats. I don't think I'm all that boring but maybe so, I def have a routine at home but I get out and about pretty often. I'm mutable, I do all kinds of things that surprise people but it takes awhile to get comfortable first. And what you said about single women! So true.

I'm really digging this Leo guy. He is definitely a show off, too. He likes to take me on difficult hikes and long bike rides. He seems to like it when I admire his athleticism but I always keep up 🙂 I'm gonna have to work on the bedroom though. I would say that is my weakness so far.
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jjessa
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Ok, point taken. I have been working on my tendency to analyze and dissect. I'm seeing some improvement. But I am still here asking all of these questions 🙂 I think this guy really likes me so I am gonna be myself with a little work on things that these Leos are telling me are important to them.

And for the sex thing...Is 3 weeks really that short of a time? I don't know about the rest of y'all but when you feel it, you just feel it 🙂 We chat for awhile before meeting then 3 dates later it was impossible not to go for it. He was all ready on date 2 (so was I) but I shut it down and made him wait for the next date. It took everything in my power to do so. Maybe I'm wrong but I don't think it's just a wine and dine thing.

He is sexy to me but not in a overly physically attractive way. More like a quiet handsome with an evident roar just beneath the surface. A man is so much more attractive to me when they are quiet on the outside but passionate underneath.

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Posted by jjessa
What about this makes me a player? I don't understand the reasoning here?



Not you. I was referring to what Jynja said about Leo males.

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Posted by jjessa

And for the sex thing...Is 3 weeks really that short of a time?

A man is so much more attractive to me when they are quiet on the outside but passionate underneath.



I just read on your Virgo board thread that you don't really know a lot of Leos. Well, if you look around for a while, you'll realize that Leo men get sex rather easily. A majority of women they meet are willing to give up the goods quickly.

I think, after a while, it gets too easy and thus boring. Imagine you eat chocolate fudge every day... it's bound to get a bit boring after a while. Especially for a dynamic sign like Leo. This is why it seems easier to be very sure about the direction of a relationship before giving a Leo sex.

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