help!! break up with cancer n leo

i just broke up with my gf we have been fighting alot, have been away from each other for about 3 weeks, and im going through a tough time in my life grieving my grandfather whom is gravely ill. i care for her a lot but sometimes it seems like she doesnt care for me as much. i just hope im not being emo and moody. i will appreciate it if our charts are compatible plzz n thanks

my chart

Sun Cancer 13.20
Moon Gemini 26.21
Mercury Leo 5.45
Venus Leo 23.08
Mars Capricorn 18.58 R
Jupiter Pisces 22.47
Saturn Sagittarius 3.53 R
Uranus Sagittarius 19.26 R
Neptune Capricorn 4.11 R
Pluto Scorpio 4.34 R
Lilith Gemini 14.23
Asc node Aries 26.38

her chart

Sun Leo 16.05
Moon Scorpio 4.25
Mercury Virgo 6.01
Venus Virgo 18.46
Mars Virgo 3.13
Jupiter Cancer 1.44
Saturn Capricorn 8.11 R
Uranus Capricorn 1.45 R
Neptune Capricorn 10.06 R
Pluto Scorpio 12.28
Lilith Libra 20.16
Asc node Aquarius 25.41

Just know Leo(women) need to always be first, and anything that has to deal with them needs to be address immediately. It's just their way, their actually very caring. If you been fighting lately, she isn't going to care what els your dealing with in your life because the "issue" with you two need to be handled first. King of jungle, me me me me me me me!

My cousin over-dosed on drugs and died, and my Leo( at the time ) didn't showed any respect for my privacy because she thought I was ignoring her, can't have that now can we! As a Cancer, you need someone who shows a lot more sympathy towards you, you need it, someone is sick in your family. That's my experience with a Leo I knew.

Posted by VcharmMy cousin over-dosed on drugs and died, and my Leo( at the time ) didn't showed any respect for my privacy because she thought I was ignoring her, can't have that now can we! As a Cancer, you need someone who shows a lot more sympathy towards you, you need it, someone is sick in your family. That's my experience with a Leo I knew.

Yes, because every Leo acts like that and places themselves before the SICK AND DYING. Because *obviously* Leos are self absorbed sociopaths who could never care about another individual.

ps: You're an imbecile. This is me being sensitive for your level, Crustacean. Know why? I have no sensitivity or patience for those who don't realize how emotionally self absorbed they really are.

^^The dude is a virgo sun not a crab. It's still a wild generalization based on a sample size of 1.

Cancer and Leo woman? Run for the safety of the tide, dear crab, or else she'll eat you, shell and all! Leo's have no time to indulge self-pity. Oh, they're VERY caring and compassionate, but it's only so the world sees them that way. Self-absorbed are they? Well, no; and yes. Soon this will prove too much for your sensitive soul, then she'll serve you up with butter and lemon.

Yo, totally my bad. Take away the Crustacean and I'll still back it up, though.

Yeah, well he can go deal with that, but doesn't mean he'll be received in any other way than what HE presents.

Posted by Vcharm
Just know Leo(women) need to always be first, and anything that has to deal with them needs to be address immediately. It's just their way, their actually very caring. If you been fighting lately, she isn't going to care what els your dealing with in your life because the "issue" with you two need to be handled first. King of jungle, me me me me me me me!

My cousin over-dosed on drugs and died, and my Leo( at the time ) didn't showed any respect for my privacy because she thought I was ignoring her, can't have that now can we! As a Cancer, you need someone who shows a lot more sympathy towards you, you need it, someone is sick in your family. That's my experience with a Leo I knew.

Let's break this down for a second.

What is wrong with wanting to be first? Do we not reward first place with ribbons and trophies. Does not the valedictorian get to make a speech at graduation. Doesn't the first baby born in the new year get a brief segment on the news. There is nothing worong with wanting to be first.

Your cousin died and I am sorry that happened but that does not mean your girlfriend's feelings were not valid. It is possible to grieve and ignore simultaneously. In fact, that's the way it happens most of the time.

If you want to know if you are compatiable look at the relationship not at the chart. A relationship is what you make it.

Do you have fun? Do you have great communication? If you are intimate, do you enjoy that? There are millions of couples who are together and their charts are not compatiable.

The real question you should ask yourself is whether or not you care enough to try. The charts are merely planetary positions.

@sensitivecrab - Read Nala's words carefully, understand it, think about it and then read it one more time just to be sure. She is giving you some fine advice there. Yes, there are planetary positions, basic characteristics etc but no relationship works without some serious work. If you're fighting a lot, look at the basic reasons for that, explain to her how your grandfather's illness is hurting you and then find a solution together with her. Right now, you are excluding her and grieving on your own and that's why she is fighting. A leo women doesn't like to be excluded, she wants to be part of your joy and grievances, this is not the woman you tell "I don't want to talk, leave me alone", she will fight you tooth and nail if you did. If you're unable to include her in your moment of need why are you in a relationship with her at all?

Now for the other two geniuses:

I was in a relationship with leo women (my first and second girlfriends) for almost 7 years. I would consider it some of the finest days of my lives. I am a Cancer sun as well like some of you guys. Let me tell you guys a secret, Leo women like the quiet, strong type of man...you should be intellectually, emotionally or physically strong, she doesn't like less. If you're a whining wuss forget about Leo women. They lord over everyone, don't be the guy she can lord over, you should know how to "handle" her calmly. Come on...a humorous retiring Cancer sun should have a Leo woman eating out of your hand in 5 mts. I have had my ex girlfriends and some of my Leo female friends come to me steaming mad and be laughing and chilling in under 10 mts. They would come to me because they knew I would make them laugh and then solve their problems.

Secondly, Leo women are not selfish, they want to be included....there is a fundamental difference. She wants to be the center of your world because she can help you do things well in many ways and she wants you to acknowledge that. She doesn't want you to go out looking for help while she is willing to do all that she can to make things good for you in life.So take a good long look at yourself and your relationship before taking it out on leo or any other woman.

Lastly, all Leo women are not perfect and nor are they all bad. Like every sign you will find the gems and the rotten apples, it's upto you to find the gems.

let me start off by saying thanks for all the comments and sympathy i really appreciate it dearly :-)

i dont think that my leo lady is a bad person. we grew this intense bond with each other which caught me off gaurd. i tend to hold off on getting too emotional in the beginning of dating because i dont like to latch on to just anyone. but with her, things we're different and she confessed her love for me soon after and i couldnt deny how mutual the feelings was. i am completely captivated with her. i tend to push people away when i am going through a rough time because when im down, i get really down. and most of our recent fights stem from me pretty much pushing her away because i saw it as me not wanting to drag her down. but as ...

@ incandescentcancer , she just wanted to feel included and not ignored.

@nala, i agree it's not all about the charts, i added it because i was brief and curious to see what others had to say.

@leoliza, its been 3 weeks since we have seen each other due to the fact that she is out of state taking care of some personal things, we broke up last night but talk things out this morning. and thanks my grandfather very near and dear to my heart aswell

@jynja, i was focusing on myself instead of just letting her being there for me. we just have different ways of showing how we care for one another and support.

im working on my communication with her and will try to be more open to how i am feeling instead of just pushing her away

p.s. we are both woman just saying , lol

Posted by sensitivecrab

p.s. we are both woman just saying , lol

Priceless, thanks for teaching us a lesson on assumptions.

I think most of the advice is gender transferable. 😉