Is my Leo serious?

I'm a Taurus girl and have been dating my Leo Guy for six months now. When we first met we both were single people with very busy social lifes and were both in open relationships. Over the past few months things have become a little more serious, he calls me all day everyday, we see each other every spare moment we have and he has admitted to me that he finally thinks he's found his soulmate and that he loves me.

Here's my problem...during our relationship he would talk about his ex who just walked out on him over 5 years ago and would only let him see his son maybe once a year. He told me he was suicidal when she left and that he would never forgive her. He would talk about hating her and how he couldn't stand her. Well out of the blue she turns up last month asking him to help her out with their son because she's having difficulties. He now has his son the majority of the week which i think is a beautiful thing but he still seems to be hung up on his ex. Constantly asking my opinion on why she said something or acted in a certain way. For e.g. he'll ask my opinion on how to handle a situation with her and then turn around and do the complete opposite. I actually told him that maybe he was still in love with her but he got angry and told me he'd never go back to her and that he was happy with me and his son in his life. The thing is i just dont know...do Leos go back to people who have hurt them? Is he really looking at a serious relationship with me or just waiting to go back to his ex? The Taurus in me is not feeling very secure right now....Please Help!

Thanks Cappywench. Actually my Leo is very open with me and tells me everything its just that sometimes it can be too much. He'll tell me how she looked at him or what she said to him in detail and though i appreciate his honesty, i also wonder why he studies everything she says and does and why he gets so bothered by it. If he's over it, why does he get so emotional about it? Is this just his Leo nature or is there more to his apparent obsession with her? I dont want to doubt him and when i mention that i think he talks about it too much, he'll just say its because she irritates him and go back to talking about it again! lol

Proverbs, in answer to your questions:

1. They split 5 years ago when their baby was 9 months old.
2. At that time he was not working and found it hard to provide for them and she wanted him to support her while she did nothing which he couldn't afford to do. Since then he now has his own business and is doing very well for himself. He says he'll never forgive the fact that she left him when he had nothing.
3. She walked out on him for someone else and now that she knows he's doing well seems to want him back again.

You are right about the "no secrets" thing. He tells me all the time that he likes sharing everything with me and wants me to do the same. I guess the Taurus part of me can't help getting jealous when it seems like we've spent a whole evening talking about nothing but his ex. I try to be supportive but sometimes its hard when he seems to ask my advice but then do his own thing anyway. For e.g. when they were going to first meet, he told me that he did not want her coming to his house because he didnt trust her and that he was going to meet her somewhere for them to talk. He asked me what i felt and i told him that since they had just started talking again that would probably be better. After he met her he called me to say that he had brought her to his house. When I asked him why, he said that it just seemed like the best thing to do since his son would be staying with him. I was like "ok"! Am i reading too much into this?

I forgot to add "he also tells me that she was the first girl he ever really loved and that he now hates her for all the pain she put him through" but yet he still seems to care about how she is and what she's doing.

Is it me just being a possessive Taurus or is there something more going on here?

Hi venustrap,

Okay heres my 2 cents b/c I too date a leo with a child. At first I would listen to him bitch and moan about his ex but I soon nipped that in the bud, some may disagree but for me I backed all the way up when it came to that issue.

In the beginning I would give my opinion, I would try to be diplomatic about the issues but he would just do what he needed to do anyways jus as your leo does.

I would let him bitch about it and then remind him he chose her, no matter what he said I would always remind him that he chose her which soon curbed his moaning.

Its his issue and remember venustrap your only hearing one side of the story, women with babies don't just leave there babies father unless something went down that required her to pick up her dignity and get gone.

I know you care about the man and leo men have a way of making you BELIEVE they never did anything to cause the riff but trust me, your leo more than likely played a huge part in her leaving, she left for a reason and until you hear her side then you really can't take his word as bond.

I would suggest staying OUT of it, that business was there before you showed up, he can deal with it and eventually he's going to resent and take you for granted, actually sounds as though he already is. My leo would spit the most heated hateful things about his baby mama and I quickly learned to acknowledge his feelings, respect his story be it all true or not and remind him that he chose the woman no matter how trifling she may be he chose her which quickly shuts him up.

deep down although there is resentment he still loves the woman but not in love with her, he's still fuming over the fact that she has COMPLETE control over his emotions, my leo even told me that he will never allow another woman to control him like that...most of the anger and excessive talking is him feeling controlled by her with his son.

I know personally of some of the foul fucked up things my leo did to his babies mom so please don't assume everything he is saying is complete truth, there are 2 sides to every story. Be supportive but leo men tend to whine and roar ALOT when feeling controlled, manipulated or not able to get there way so make sure you protect your aura with positive energy and not let him dump on you about his disdain for her, it will wear you out.

Also I agree with cappywench in regards to not making her an issue, she will use the child to get back in but if you sit back and observe and not say a word about it, he will do the right thing, he will choose you, so its important to be happy, to do your own thing when he's dealing with her and always show the lion king some love, you keep him purring and he will boot her ass to the curb, it worked for me so I know it will work for you but no complaining okay, don't allow your fears to overcome you, this is the time to be very very confident, he will be watching you even when you don't feel like he is. If you don't focus on her being around whatever old tension that kept them apart will rear its ugly head again.

Also you mentioned how he studies everything she says and does and why he gets so bothered by it...my leo did the same thing with his ex, if he smiled at another woman she got upset, his ex wanted him to look at his feet all day so trust me when I say it doesn't turn your leo on, he know his ex wants FULL control over him, she's more than likely a very jealous person which is a total turn off so don't even worry about that ok.

Thank you all the responding! You really do know your stuff because everything i have read is so true, especially with me Leo.

"I would let him cookiemonster about it and then remind him he chose her, no matter what he said I would always remind him that he chose her which soon curbed his moaning"

Thats exactly what i do. After i've made the comment that he chose her, he always gives me this look after i've said it as if to say "you're right" and then funny enough he will change the subject quite quickly after that! lol


"Also I agree with cappywench in regards to not making her an issue, she will use the child to get back in but if you sit back and observe and not say a word about it, he will do the right thing, he will choose you, so its important to be happy, to do your own thing when he's dealing with her and always show the lion king some love, you keep him purring and he will boot her ass to the curb, it worked for me so I know it will work for you but no complaining okay, don't allow your fears to overcome you, this is the time to be very very confident, he will be watching you even when you don't feel like he is. If you don't focus on her being around whatever old tension that kept them apart will rear its ugly head again"

Wow Tiki, this is so true. Even though i have these feelings, I never let him know and I continually let him know i'm there for him. The more she acts up is the more i remain calm and play the understanding, caring and considerate soul mate. It has him eating out my hands everytime. For e.g. I called him last night but she had got him mad and he kind of snapped at me, i didn't snap back (which as a Taurus i could easily have done), i just went very quiet and told him he needed to get some rest and i would call him later to see how he was feeling. He grunted slightly and then said ok. Two minutes later he calls me back apologizing and telling me how much he appreciates and loves me. I really do love him but cant help getting slightly possessive which is in my Taurean nature. I am learning to deal with it though. Getting advice from others also helps and I appreciate all of the responses i have received.

I think leo men tend to hold on to past relationships moreso than the leo women, they always come back but they never stay, sometimes I think its more of a lemme be sure I did the right thing by letting go, maybe she's changed or let me see if we can work out since I'm alone and single kind of thing or it could just be more of a familiar comfort feeling, I dunno but I know a few male leo men that always keep in contact with old flames, the women such as my mom and few others on the boards let go but the men not so much.

Goodness! Sounds soooo much like my leo-ex. He still can't let go and is very angry; He's told so many people "that's still my wife" after being apart for over three years. His conversations are always about me or me and someone else with huge fabrications of the truth. He even showed up at a few outtings for me and my freinds (a mutual friend informed him of my whereabouts). He's a little obsessive; and if I told him I'd take him back he would. Trust me, she left for a reason!!! He's not that perfect as he may seem to be and be aware of him talking negatively about the mother of his child. I've known men who's wives treated them certain ways and they've never spoken negatively about her, just her actions.

Continue dating him if you can stomache the constant "muttering" about his ex and see that his true colors will come out soon enough. Be careful and aware that he still loves her; she may have hurt him and he'll probably never forgive her. But I do believe he thought the situation looked okay, he would take her back.