Leo/Aqua **long read for the bored**

What's up everyone!

Same story different day. I have been dating a Leo male since the end of April of this year. We met back in Aug/Sep but I honestly felt as though he was a tad bit too charming and I truly gave him a hard time and he gave me one as well.

I flaked on a date and he did the same so after that we stopped talking.

That's when we bump into each other on FB due to a mutual acquaintance and we start dating. I definitely sense playboy in him...but I also sense that he's looking for something real.

We butt heads at times when I feel as though he's testing me and I typically stand my ground yet pick and choose my battles wisely.

In April I explained to him that I'm not looking for any new 'friends'. If I'm going to date I'm dating with the intentions.

As a typical Leo he has a flock of women. From women that are his old coworkers to random fwb.

I have not been reaching out to him as much lately. He has recently lost his job and really has been dealing with that as well as being a single father -- he does get a lot of help from his aunts tho.

He could be seeing someone else, hell he could be seeing PLENTY of other people for all I know I personally feel as though we have spent enough time together for him to know if I'd be a positive influence in his life and wants to keep me around.

Last Monday (after not hearing from him for 3-4days) he text me saying he hoped to see me at his bday celebration. Then he text back 30 mins later asking if I'd received the text. I was at work so was not able to respond right away so he called me. I missed the call as well.

I text him back around lunch saying simply 'ok'. I think he was a little put off by my brevity but I did call him later on that day.

Wed/Thur he stops by and we discuss his party. I tell him that I have my reservations about attending the party because I don't want to be one of the MANY chicks there battling for his attention...this is NOT the flavor of love and I will not tolerate those games.

He tried to say that I had a defeatist attitude towards the situation until he say the seriousness in my facial expression. He then assured me that I'll be good -- as in 'OK.

Fast forward.

Saturday comes and I have my hair, nails, eyebrows on point! Dress picked out and readdy to prance girls...

Its time to get dressed and the freaking zipper is stuck! Damn, I dig through my closet and threw on something else in less than a minute tops.

Head to the venue an

Wow, did not realize my post was cut off...Ok, let me re-type the rest folks!

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Uno momento...

I head to the venue and there were already about 6 people there. He gets up to greet me and we both have seats.

I ordered two drinks and casually conversed with the other people around me although I only knew him and his best bud it seemed as though everyone else knew one another from previous jobs.

He was sitting in between two females. One of which caressed his back at least 3 times that I noticed.

We hang out at the bistro for another two hours or so and head to his friends house that was less than a block away.

We all hop in cars ( he and I are together) and head a block away to the friends house.

Once we get there we start drinking again and there's music playing -- you know the drill! lol

I step outside to smoke and one of his buds kept me company. My guy friend peeps his head through the front door and ask WHY am I outside smoking when I can very well smoke inside. Mind you, his bud was standing pretty close to me.

I head inside and take a seat. I'm now sitting across from the back caresser. It seem as though EVERY time I glanced up she was STARING at me. Not in a mean way but just STARING.

I kept it cool.

The back caresser steps outside and was out there for about an hour talking to various people. The birthday boy steps out and he's also talking to various people. Mind you, the front door is open and I can pretty much see the immediate outside area.

They both step away to talk to each other for about 3-5 minutes. She re-emerged first and stepped to the right of the doorway. He walks up to her for about 30 seconds, said whatever, and then came back inside.

After about another hour people are starting to disburse. Birthday boy ask one of the females if she could drop 'Lea'(back caresses) off at home. The friend says yes of course and now everyone is giving him hugs and saying their final good-byes.

'Lea' was outside when the arrangement for the ride was made, however, she came inside shortly thereafter and headed straight for the restroom right when he had his arms extended to give her a hug.

She noticed but continued to jet for the bathroom.

He sits next to me and on her way out the door she never looked at anyone she just jetted to the front door from the bathroom...asking only "so they are taking me home" and he replied "Yes".

She never turned around so I kinda think her face was in disarray for some reason.

I stayed until WE left.


Anyone have any insight on the 'Lea' situation?

I did when he called on Tuesday. He said that she was a friend of his...that's it and that's all. He also said that she felt as though I was giving her the evil eye.

Lol, I don't think I gave her the evil eye. I do have an intense gaze which is why I tried to smile and crack jokes with everyone but I still intimidate some people.

We have been dating since the end of April. Definitely not a relationship at this point but we have to start somewhere.

And yes, how annoying of him to tell me that ish.

Like really?

I'm prepared to distance myself at this point. I can't say that he was overly affectionate with any particular person that night...he was pretty neutral.

You're right on girl!

I say that because I initially did not want to attend the party but he begged me to. Said that if I didnt show up he would be so freaking disappointed and I took that into consideration.

That's why I was there, he also assured me there would be nothing to be anxious about.

On Tuesday he called me 2x's and I finally returned the phone call hours later. We start having casual conversation then he brought up the comment the back caresser said.

That's when I laughed and told him that was funny she would mention that seeing how she stared at me the entire night.

And after that the flood gates poured. Had to remind him that I'm not looking for any new 'friends'..nope.

He said that he's not either and that in no way were he and the back caresser involved.

Am I saying they are? Shiid, I don't think so but I don't care for his casual ways anymore so I have already started to fade to black.

Prior to him inviting me to the party I was fading to black because I have a ton on my plate right now and so does he. I figured space would be great for us.

Also, I never bite my tongue with him. NEVER. I do however, pick and choose my battles but never confront unless I've experienced that nagging feeling.