Leo Husband and Capricorn Wife (verge of divorce)

Hello folks,

Here's the deal. Both my husband and I have had major issues in our marriage. For the past year, he has been emotionally involved "in love" with a younger girl,23, worked with her (she's gone now). We're both 32, married for ten years. The reasoning why divorce is an only option. Plus, his love for me is gone. Well, no sh!t. I'm very traditional and married for life. I DON'T condone cheating & I absolutely despise adulterers. I decided to pull away and ignore him recently. I felt good, making myself happy and focusing on my emotions to heal. THEN he kept coming
in closer and calling, texting and bugging me. He even booked a trip for our family. The minute I give in and need to express myself, he gets angry and shuts down and plays the ignore game back. He says, I do not know how to talk to him?! Sorry, that everything that comes out of my mouth is nothing but the truth. But I am wallpaper. I feel like I can never express who I'm or what I feel. I don't know how we can get past this, we have two kids. We still live in the same house but we're not romantic. Friends persay. I need advice on how to handle my emotions, and not let his
Bi??Polar ways, interject with my life and happiness. I love him but what's LOVE when it's one sided, Nothing!(M?bius) This Leo drives "this" Cap insane. It's a never-ending game.

I am a Leo woman who divorced a Cap male. The marriage should have never happened. He was very unemotional. However, he bought me a lot of nice things and I equated that with love.

The two signs are the exact opposite. It can work but I for one cannot imagine how much effort it would take.

POTUS and Flotus make it work. Then again both signs like status.

10 years is a long time. Get professional help.

I really hate when people come here seeking marital advice. This site is for kicks and giggles. This is not real life. Your marriage is real life.

I couldn't agree more. I came here to see if there's a way to communicate with a Leo. Maybe, I come on too strong. And yes, counseling is what I want. Him on the another hand, refuses. Thank you both for sharing insight. This marriage started with true love and somewhere along the line is ending in anger/resentment. Communication is our biggest issue!

Caps and Leos communicate in very different ways. (Their love style languages are very different, as Nala suggests in her post.)

Have you ever asked him why he cheated? I'm in no way condoning his actions, but I'm just curious as to what his reasons were.

Also, if you're willing to go for counseling but he isn't...maybe give him an ultimatum that will hurt him below the belt and see if he won't "give in". After all those years of marriage, you know his weak points, so at least try to use them to your advantage.

Lol!! Communication issues and developed zero boundaries with me. I can't take the fault there. He should have been more firm with me, but never was until he exploded. He let me have my way. But... if this was never discussed then how can it be fixed? That's why he went on to emotionally cheat. Sexually,it was never an issue, never. Emotionally, hello, both ends here!

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Posted by Nala13
I am a Leo woman who divorced a Cap male. The marriage should have never happened. He was very unemotional. However, he bought me a lot of nice things and I equated that with love.

The two signs are the exact opposite. It can work but I for one cannot imagine how much effort it would take.

POTUS and Flotus make it work. Then again both signs like status.

10 years is a long time. Get professional help.

I really hate when people come here seeking marital advice. This site is for kicks and giggles. This is not real life. Your marriage is real life.

I have a feeling potus and flotus will divorce.

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lol

i had to look up who potus and flotus were. Obama and Michelle.

😆

well, Clinton and his wife are still together. Presidential wives seem "stick" with their husbands till the very end i notice.

but, i doubt clinton is doing any more shenanigans. it's not like Arnold Schwarzenneger.

Posted by menamored
I couldn't agree more. I came here to see if there's a way to communicate with a Leo. Maybe, I come on too strong.

And yes, counseling is what I want. Him on the another hand, refuses.

Thank you both for sharing insight. This marriage started with true love and somewhere along the line is ending in anger/resentment. Communication is our biggest issue!

Go to counseling on your own-- if you're thinking it will be

useless if he doesn't attend, I will beg to differ.


The problem affects you both... and he will begin to wonder what

it's all about when you begin DEALING with your problems like an

adult (like he should).


Set the example... you're a Cap-- you can do this.



🙂

At this point, he says yes to counseling. But... he doesn't know anything. His response is on repeat stating "wait until counseling" for every question I ask. Almost, like a pain in the A $ $ . He doesn't know where his head is at. I used to have my career and after having kids, I've been a sahm, doing things on the side.He's the bread winner in our family. Right now, I am focusing on getting myself emotionally happy and trying to love me, without needing it from any man. My focus is my kids and getting myself back. We often forget who we are when we get married. I did at least.

I do want to stay. I love him, but as time goes on, with no hugs or kisses. It makes me wonder how someone can completely shut down, emotionally. From so much love to nothing but friendship. It's a weird concept for me to accept. I don't understand how someone can withhold.

Posted by menamored
I do want to stay. I love him, but as time goes on, with no hugs or kisses.

I mean no disrespect but I have a feeling his side of the story is very very different from yours.

Oh, without a doubt.No disrespect at all.There's three sides to every story.

Posted by menamored
At this point, he says yes to counseling.

But

But

But

But





... he doesn't know anything.

Hmm

You say you want it to work--

So take that type A personality and start

making a list so you're prepared.

The above sounds an awful lot like excuses.

I agree. Now he's saying we are starting to grow apart. Oh dear Lord. What else? How much damn effort can one person give, seriously!

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Posted by menamored
I do want to stay. I love him, but as time goes on, with no hugs or kisses.

I mean no disrespect but I have a feeling his side of the story is very very different from yours.

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No doubt.

Knowing a bit of his side of the story would no doubt help to better understand what broke down and when.