Leo Men Advice

Where to start— Well, about 8 years ago I was dating these Leo man and I am a Libra woman. We were both in our early 20's. He found out that me and his mother were speaking to each other and got really upset. I had contacted her for pictures for a unique gift that I made for him. He told me to never speak to her again, which while we were dating I didn't. We broke up about 5 years ago, and we kept in contact for a few months after that. His mother and I have remained close over the years. After 4 years of not speaking to each other he contacted me and I went to see him. We both enjoyed the time we spent together, but when he found out that his mother and I were talking which he thinks has just been recently and not knowing that we have remained close over the last 7 years, he got really pissed off and went off and I just stopped talking to him for 5 months. I consider him a friend that I can have fun with and nothing more. I am planning a trip to see family and my best friend near where he is and contacted him to see if I could see him while I am up there, he says he doesn't know if that is a good idea because he thinks that I want a relationship with him and he doesn't want a relationship with anyone, which I have made very clear that I only want a friendship with him when he ask. We have a few civil conversations, flirting, sexting, and what not. Then a couple of days ago
he ask me why do I continue to text his mom after he has said me to stop so many times?
So I told him the truth, "I text her occasionally to see how she is doing. I do have a friendship with her that is almost as long as I have known you at least since you were 24. I dont text her everyday."
He said my mom is not your friend,
I told him that he is right.
He said, I have never introduced her to you and I think that is is very desperate of you to introduce yourself, I would never speak to anyone in your fam without talking to you first
I said, you are right I should have talked to you first and I am sorry but that was 6 years ago. If it comes down to a friendship with you, I will choose you and I hope you understand that.
He said, The reason that I dont want you talking to my mom is because there is no future with me and u. If you want to continue to text her go ahead. I just think that you are desperate and even though you think that your being nice it doesnt come off that way.

I said, Is that what you think? That I want a future with you, you are my past and there aint no future in it, the only thing that I want as far as a future with you is a friendship but it is becoming apparent that is too much to ask from you. My problem is that I see the good in people regardless of their intentions. Thanks for that.
he said, I'm just keeping it real, you are desperate
I said, desperate is the last thing I would ever call myself, independent, kind, genuine, strong and real
he said, desperate
I said, Then call me Cleopatra
I dont understand this man, he is constantly up and down. one day he is telling me don't change for anyone and the next day he is telling me I am desperate. I'm pulling my hair out with this guy, our friendship does mean a lot to me but at this point I do not know what to do about our friendship. He is constantly hot and cold, and I am at the point where I don't know if this friendship is worth holding on to. I know that he is the type of friend being a leo that needs a lot of TLC from any and everyone and gets butt hurt easily. I refuse to even put myself through this torture every other time I talk to him. Its like a full time job... When I went to see him, he acted like a boyfriend, holding my hand, paying for everything, making me feel like I was the most beautiful woman in the world, and I loved every minute of it hey I am a woman here and a libra so I like that romantic stuff... He gets mad about things that I feel a friend should not get mad about.
What the hell to do with this man—
Any and all advice is appreciated greatly.

Leave...and don't look back.

My advice is to face your denial. You say you want nothing more than friendship and no future, yet your texting, holding hands?

Clearly this is significant to you. He treats you like crap...and this is ok how?

I think all of you are right. I am just going to cut ties and leave this alone.

UPDATE!!!!! So I stopped talking to him and he text me and wants to come down here and visit me and crash at my house... what is it with this guy... I don't think that it is a good idea because we end up having sex and I feel that gives him the impression that I want more when I don't.

Sounds like an "unevolved Leo" that I know @LibraConfused84. They want to test you & see how far you'll let them push the envelope. So its up to you... do you want to keep playing these "games" or do you want to "stand up" for your beliefs and REALLY make an impression on him that he will remember you in a positive light for? I say go for the latter! Do YOU and be that kind yet strong woman and don't let him keep playing mind games with you 🙂

Posted by beautifulsoul74
Leave...and don't look back.

+1

Like if he was remotely interested, he wouldn't be calling you desperate. He'd say something along the lines of: oh that's nice you contacted my Mom, but honestly that's a little freaky... Leo's can be scathing at times with words, but I feel like if they care about you enough, they'd hold back on the harsh talk unless you push them too much (not saying you did, but obviously this one is just a jerk).