Leo Moons...I need help..

Leo moons are incredibly selfish and I wonder if it would ever get better. After 2years in this relationship, I'm letting go of my Leo Sun/ Moon bf. We've been fighting back and forth since yesterday, I got tired of the bickering and shut down. As a Cancer Sun Virgo Moon, I don't have the fighting stamina of a Leo. He keeps coming for more. I wonder if he's just acting his age...if there's hope things would get better as he gets older. I know I'm not perfect but I try, I really really try.

Posted by b1tchcrafts
Lol why is it just the moon?

It's probably the sun and moon together.
That sounds extreme.

They feed off each other I guess, I mean....*sigh*.

The fighting started from me saying.. "You only think about yourself" and in all honesty, he just doesn't get it but wouldn't drop the topic either. He's wearing me down.

Leo moon here. Why should I help you? What's in it for me?

(Being a selfish Leo moon and all of course )

@ Seraph Now he's begging. I have decided we both need space. Our relationship at this point feels toxic, like he's getting a high from fighting. Our issues run deeper, you are right! I'm really confused, I don't know why I feel guilty. He says I'm tired of him and our relationship. Says he's not good enough for me..

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Leo moon here. Why should I help you? What's in it for me?

(Being a selfish Leo moon and all of course )

There's nothing wrong with being selfish...I understand.. 😛

Posted by Namy
@ Seraph Now he's begging. I have decided we both need space. Our relationship at this point feels toxic, like he's getting a high from fighting. Our issues run deeper, you are right! I'm really confused, I don't know why I feel guilty. He says I'm tired of him and our relationship.

Says he's not good enough for me..

No apology, though, right?


And he probably isn't... good enough for you. 🙂

Still, that statement is pure manipulation meant

to make you feel GUILTY.


Don't.

Paradoxically I think my leo moon makes me more selfless? Specially in relationships, funny. It might not be his Leo moon only, cause leos are 'generally' very generous and selfless.

Posted by Jynja
Your Virgo moon has a sharp bite to it. Maybe, when you mature as well, you will see all the things that are wrong with asking for help from the very same people you call selfish.

The irony is incredible.

The thing is, in all honesty..I'm incredibly selfish. I love to have my way, I also need the same maturity. I'm willing to grow, I want to learn.

Leos(typically) are selfish in the sense, that, they loveeeee to please people. Rather than do what's needed and necessary, they put other people first. I'm selfish cause I put my relationships(strictly people I care about) first. Isn't that what matters in the end ? I don't understand the mentalilty, that's why I asked for help.. Makes no sense.

Posted by b1tchcrafts
Well I don't find myself selfish partner...
In defensive for Leo it is a rather positive sign so I would rather people I care about be happy because that benefits me too lol.
People think leo is so self serving but hey a king or queen who serves only themselves will have an unhappy kingdom.
I do hold great pride in myself and if I feel that I am not being treated properly.. there will be a problem.

Maybe for some advice speak up and be open about your issues with him.
I mean I can't imagine him being happy with a partner that is angry and cold.

I'm asking for help but still finding difficult to speak up..lol... I've always been so private about my relationship. I'm not angry but I'm cold...very cold..he's very disturbed cause I'm never this way.

Posted by seraph
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What I'll suggest in your case, notwithstanding any other details - given or missing - is that if you're in a position where the situation - whatever it may be - is causing you distress to the point of having it affect your daily functioning, then the you *must* create time, space, and distance, in order to get centred again. No matter the protests, the begging, the "tactics" employed in the heat of the moment. Sometimes space is what is most necessary and often only one party will see it. But when it *is* felt that space is necessary, it must be taken, lest you make things worse for both of you by staying where you are.

So keep it simple (even though it's hard to actually do) and create the necessary time, distance, and space. You know exactly what that means. It's hardest in the beginning, but stay the course and be resolute about it.

You are either saying what I want to hear Or what I need to hear, but I love it! Really I'm grateful. Thank you, I really appreciate your answers. I'm doing what is necessary, I will create the space.

More often than not, though, you can still be helped even with partial information, and you'll find folks here who are great at that - highly intuitive, generous people. They're right here on these forums, and they've made themselves available to you in this thread. Hopefully I can add something useful to what they've already said.

You answered my questions no judgement, I mean..I was the sad person complaining...of cause I'd be extremely blunt..lol..I don't care about that though. I was looking for a solution. I don't tell anyone around me what happens in my relationships. Dxpnet felt comfortable enough, I knew I'd meet a person or two with more insight and wisdom in handling these matters. I was just trying to understand my role, I detest the blame game, I blame you for bla bla without actually creating a solution. We as humans, we with different zodiac signs, see things so differently sometimes, it's crazy.

Posted by deathnirvana
Hahaha true. I'm always doing things for my own benefits, rarely do I put my energy on something or someone which isn't a benefit to me. It's almost like I'm objectifying everyone.

This is where we are different, as a Virgo moon, in matters of the heart and emotions, I put the other person first.

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Posted by Namy
@ Seraph Now he's begging. I have decided we both need space. Our relationship at this point feels toxic, like he's getting a high from fighting. Our issues run deeper, you are right! I'm really confused, I don't know why I feel guilty. He says I'm tired of him and our relationship.

Says he's not good enough for me..

No apology, though, right?


And he probably isn't... good enough for you. 🙂

Still, that statement is pure manipulation meant

to make you feel GUILTY.


Don't.

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No apologies, just I love you, why are you fighting me bullshit. I won't feel guilty. I'd be on this poker face for some days.

Regardless, thanks for replying everyone. 🙂 🙂