The date was a DUD !

Went to the Cheesecake Factory with the Leo (8/15) Friday night. He's not my type.

This is why I should like him

Very Smart-2 degrees
No children or ex wives-minimal drama
Good Job-Nurse Supervisor at a Dialysis Center

This is why I don't like him

Extremely Shy-Went to boarding school his whole life
Frugal-He had on some jeans with holes in them. I made a comment that they were cute. He said I didn't see a reason to throw away a good pair of jeans because they had a hole in them. I could have fell out of the booth. I said you didn't buy them like that. He said no. I said are you thrifty. He said VERY.
Not aggressive-timid-I like the caveman type. Drag me around by my hair and say "woman where is my dinner" LOL
Kept staring at me and then he said, I don't understand why you are single. I didn't answer. What kind of question is that?
He didn't give me one compliment and I was HOTT ! I mean it was a first date afterall.
He was 25 minutes late said he spilled something on his shirt and needed to change.

I knew there would most likely not be a second date so I paid. He didn't order anything but a piece of cheesecake. I on the other hand had 2 apps and a bowl of soup. Hell, I was hungry.

Anyway, I think me paying was some kind of turn on, when it was not intended to be. The person that introduced called me the next day and the first thing she said was "I heard you grabbed the check" SIGH !

Oh and he was square..like a wrestler, or a little German woman named Helga or Sponge Bob Square Pants..you know cocky stocky.
He called me last night and left a voicemail. I was sleep. The message said "just got home from work call me when you can"

I don't really want to call. I should call shouldn't I? That would be the nice thing to do.

Posted by Jynja
Nala, you know I don't agree with you on a lot of things, but this one....

If you were heading for that phone while I was there, I'd wrestle it from you and throw it in the nearest lake.

You know you are my Boo J. We are adults and can agree to disagree. That doesn't mean I don't like you or don't respect you. In fact, it's quite the opposite. You see what I say to the people I think were absent from the brain line in heaven.

I realize that we are probably the most opinionated females on the planet. There is bound to be some stepping on paws around here. Sin preocupaciones 🙂

Can you believe he wore pants with holes in them to a first date. Who in the hell does that and why not let me think you bought them like that? Must be the Cap Moon because no Leo I know would ever "clutches pearls".

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Posted by ninjafish

I think you should give him a courtesy call back. Turn on your charm and tell him you think he's lovely, but just be honest and tell him he's not for you. You can't help the lack of attraction, but you can still be gracious. You seem like a warm and charming person from what I've seen, so I'm sure you can communicate your message to him clearly yet tenderly. Good luck.

I agree with this!

Sorry it wasn't a great date.

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Thanks for the compliment Ninja. I think I'm classy (although my self perception can be distorted) so I will probably send a text.

@75-The food was the bomb so hey it wasn't a total loss. I had calamari and avocado egg rolls and clam chowder.

Oh I almost forget this was the killer right here...wait for it....he said he is allergic to shellfish. That is my favorite food on the whole planet.

I enjoyed reading this I'm not going to lie. I laughed at a few parts because us females we just scour a man on a first date. It's not uncommon for us not to call you back for a second if your personality sucks and you dress like a dud. First impressions are a lasting one, some guys just don't really care that much.

Just another frugal Leo!

As astrology says...about...Leo or Libra both prefer dressing like movie star...—

So this is just one of proofs that proved Astrology doesn't apply for everyone!!!

That's why I don't really believe Astrology...all BS.

Ok, I will try and get his time of birth. I'm not really as cut throat as I pretend to be. My roar is merely a defense mechanism. I will probably talk to him every couple of days and then stretch it to every few days then every week and then once a month. By my calculation, it should end some where around January. I try not to make enemies.

He did tell me he is starting grad school to become a CRNA. All I saw was my Louie purse sitting on the passenger seat of my Range Rover but that wouldn't be right. $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ However, I'm human and the thought did cross my mind. I do wish I had at least a few gold digger tendencies. I have none.

All in all it was ok. He wasn't mean or rude and he seemed like a cool dude just not for me. I did tell him before we met in person that if we did not have any chemistry I would be willingly to hook him up with someone else. No sense in a good man going to waste. He seemed okay with the idea but that may have been simply for my benefit.

Posted by ellessque
Nala, speaking as a libra venus.....knowing that you were doing that would crush me.

So stick the knife in and turn it E?

That would kill me. So now we have the Leo vs the Libra. Which placement do I take into consideration? Leos, at least in my experience can not take rejection but we can take really busy and full plate.

I don't know anything about Libra Venus but I would think the slow roll approach would be better, NO?

Posted by seraph
That's a lotta Libra!

He was shy? With a Leo Merc?

The way he presented himself (clothing, appearance) makes no sense in light of his Leo Sun/Cap Moon combination.

Probably Mars in Libra. Really not the best place for Mars. At all. Indecisive and rather weak-willed and unmotivated. Really depends on how strong that Mars is in his chart.

It makes sense to me.

Cap Moon tones Leo Sun flamboyance down. Cap Moon tend to never go big on the first date unless they will surely get a lot in return. Probably, dude didn't expect much but he wanted to see what was going to happen.

Libra Mars thinks a lot before taking action and decisiveness is not their strong point.

Also his Mercury is in Retrograde. He may seem shyer than he really is.

http://www.skyviewzone.com/astrology/retrogradeplanets.htm

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Posted by ellessque
libra venus is shy.

Really?

Coulda fooled me . . . 😉

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I think you are shy but I just chalked it up to the July thing.

I love DXP. Where else could we do this?

Ok, so I am going to meet you in the middle Elle. I will cut it off by the end of November. I just can't say " You are nice but I am not interested". I would seriously be crushed if someone said that to me. I would be like why? What's wrong with me? Why don't you like me? I might not say it but I would be thinking it.

And of course your opinion counts WL. You were my first friend on DXP. We go waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay back, like 6 months back. LOL

Would the Libra Venus be offended if I introduced him to someone else? I mean we never even touched so it's not like we really dated.

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Posted by ellessque
libra venus is shy.

Really?

Coulda fooled me . . . 😉

I think you are shy but I just chalked it up to the July thing.

Is this directed at me?

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Um Hum

@ Seraph, I thought you had a Libra something. I'm sorry I don't know all your placements. I know Elle always talks about your Libra something.

@ J it's ok, if you don't think I should call. I'm probably not goingt to call. I am a horrible liar and I have no desire to hurt his feelings. I will probably text until my hand is forced. Then kindly and slowly (but faster than normal Elle) disappear.

FWIW...I am an 8/15 leo and I AM frugal. You can hear George Washington cry for help as when pulling a dollar bill out of my a $ $ ! Youngest of 7 children, middle class family upbringing. I love thrift stores and 50% coupons BUT I will NEVER wear anything that isnt pristine, fine and stylish.

Chemistry has a mind of it's own and it dictates the connection. If there isnt one, just say it. We women come on here all the time bitching about being strung along and wanting the man to just be straight, so we should do the same.

Well I am the opposite of frugal whatever that is. Frugal people scare me. What are you saving for the end of the world the apocalypse? That's what husbands are for. They can save. I sound like it's 1956. SMH @ myself.

@BGP, I am not stringing him along but I am not going to be a mean girl either. I for one would prefer a man lie to me and tell me he is busy than to tell me is simply is not interested. What's the difference? The end result is the same and my feelings remain intact. I read your other posts and if what Enfant said is true about them , then simply walking away is best. We have no idea what happened so we can think positive thoughts. If one of them sent you an e-mail that said, you're not my type take care..that would hurt. Well it would hurt me.

Perhaps, I'm in the minority here.

I probably need to go over to Cancerland where avoiding confrontation is not only encouraged it's rewarded with a gold star.

Posted by Nala13
Well I am the opposite of frugal whatever that is. Frugal people scare me. What are you saving for the end of the world the apocalypse? That's what husbands are for. They can save. I sound like it's 1956. SMH @ myself.

@BGP, I am not stringing him along but I am not going to be a mean girl either. I for one would prefer a man lie to me and tell me he is busy than to tell me is simply is not interested. What's the difference? The end result is the same and my feelings remain intact. I read your other posts and if what Enfant said is true about them , then simply walking away is best. We have no idea what happened so we can think positive thoughts. If one of them sent you an e-mail that said, you're not my type take care..that would hurt. Well it would hurt me.

Perhaps, I'm in the minority here.

I probably need to go over to Cancerland where avoiding confrontation is not only encouraged it's rewarded with a gold star.

Hurt...after one date? While I agree no one likes rejection, but who likes being blown off, lead on or whatever you want to call it?

Since you brought up my thread, I sent an email to both men confirming they got my response and if there is no further interest then i wish them the best. That is my way of wrapping things up cus *I* don't want to br left on the string if *they* cannot tell me they're not interested. A class act would respond with either yes or no. One guy did, you can see the thread if you like. The other guy hasn't as of yet. We're all adults, no?

It appears to me the avoidance is your way of not having to do a dirty deed that makes you feel uncomfortable...maybe?

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I probably need to go over to Cancerland where avoiding confrontation is not only encouraged it's rewarded with a gold star.

ROFL.....that has to be the comment of the day...