Am I reading him right & other questions

Just wondering if my interpretation of things is reasonable or if I am way off base. Been friends with libra man for almost two years-we've grown closer over the last year. Met through a martial arts class. Not sure how to explain it but we just clicked. Started spending time talking after classes. He signed up for another class at a different school & wanted me to come watch him every week so i did. Then he kept bugging me til I finally joined that one too lol. He flirted with me like crazy in the beginning and still does now just not as much...basically he has stopped with the innuendos. Still giving compliments too. A cpl months ago I finally got up the nerve & asked him if he was involved with anyone & he sd no. I asked if he was interested in anyone & he hymned & hawed but wouldn't answer me. Then wanted to know why I asked. I told him I was interested in him to which he responded "I know." The sticky part comes in with the fact that I am in the process of getting divorced. Hubby moved out quite a while ago & neither of us wants to get back together so we are just waiting for the judges stamp of approval. Anyway back to convo libra wants to know what is up with husband/xhusband & I told him it was in the works but was gonna take some time. He said he thought it was morally wrong-with which I do agree-I am not a cheater & dont intend to start now...but at this point I waffle only because I am not sure what I have left to be faithful to?? However that is a topic for another day. After he said that he then told me that he moves really slow in relationships & there are still things i dont know about him but the more time he spends with me & spends talking to me the more comfortable he feels & that he talks about me all the time. So If he wasn't interested in me he would've just said so straight up right? I feel like he is just wanting to wait til things are finalized before moving forward but I'm not sure & I don't want to bring it up again right now. Also after this convo he started calling me almost every day & pretty much stopped with texting unless it is for something quick or to forward a link etc. He isn't calling quite as much now but still a couple times a week & we still talk after classes which is usually 2-3x/wk. I think he is pulling back a little here & there to keep from getting any further attached since i am technically not available but of course part of me wonders if maybe he isn't interested in anything more than

friendship & I'm just wishful thinking? Also we have spent time o/s of class....dinners, movies, hanging out at my house. Would he really do these things with me with strictly friendship in mind? I have read through so many posts on this site & I'm still as confused as ever. Some say let libra do all the chasing others say the males need constant attention. I tend to think more in terms of 50/50 but I also don't really "keep track" & if I want to call or text I will. He has complained to me before too if he hasn't heard from me for a couple days. But then again he doesnt always respond/call back either, so how much should I be doing & how much is too much? And what about the mirroring? If I pull back won't he do the same? And it doesn't necessarily seem to work in the other direction of giving more attention = getting more attention so how does it work then? Ex: friday i see him at class. he says "so you are still alive...i was starting to wonder if something happened at the concert since i havent heard from you since wednesday." Passive aggressive much? lol. So saturday i sent him a text to see if he was feeling any better (didn't wanna call in case he was sleeping) cuz he had a sore throat fri...no response. Basically am I reading him right, how to interpret the pulling back, & how do I proceed? Thanks 🙂

Oh & I'm pretty new to astrology so not sure if this helps or not & if anyone can give a little insight on how this will affect his behavior/actions...don't know exact birth time:
Sun & Venus Libra
Moon Capricorn
Mars Cancer

First off, please use paragraphs. Even if they aren't completely proper paragraphs, just throw a line break in every one in a while. It makes it so much easier on the reader.

See.

The still married thing would throw me off a bit too. I've been divorced, and while I know situations are different mine was done and over pretty quick. The longest I've heard of courts delaying them is some states have a one year required separation period before the divorce can go through. If it's been less than a year since your husband moved out maybe he's worried he's just your rebound.

Aside from that it sounds like he was very interested. yes I hang out with friends and all but him wanting you to come watch his other class til he got you to join too shows some stronger motives. He said what his hesitation is and unless he starts treating you differently I wouldn't advise any major changes in how you treat him. You still talk frequently and text regularly. His comment of "you are still alive" may be passive aggressive but it also shows he is open to increasing the amount of time with you.

To your question of how much should you do and what is too much, only you can answer that. If it feels TO YOU like you are doing too much, then you are. If you still are at the place where you naturally aren't keeping track, you're good. Call him, chase him, have fun with him, he'll chase too. I know I like a lot of attention but I also give it. I will chase but not if I think you are running away, if that makes sense. It's more of a game than a hunt.

ha ha ha.

I also noticed before I started DXPnet forum. Almost everybody are typing words with no space.

Then I started it other's followed.... lol

scorpgal76,

Don't be deceived. Libra men are just flirty type of people. So avoid at all cost.

I had ex Libra. I dropped his ass.

I don't think Libra men are compatible with a Scorpio women.

I talked based on my experience.

He's already answered your own questions.

He's not only told you he was interested in you, but he's shown you that he's interested in you.

But just b/c he's interested doesn't mean that he's willing to disrespect your vows. And if it's in his mind that taking it further with you would = him doing something that goes against his beliefs, then it makes perfect sense that he's only letting things get but so far!

I get it. Sometimes when people try to slow down the connection or force a halt b/c of outside factors, it puts a rift in the chemistry/connection & starts causing anxiety & leads to the connection not feeling as natural or consistent anymore.

A part of him believes that you really are gonna leave your husband (some women say they will but never do), which is why he still makes the effort to keep you in his life. The fact that he believes that you will be divorced some day soon is why he's trying to preserve the attraction/connection that you 2 have now.

He's just not emotionally or morally ready to go all the way with you b/c his morals about marriage dictate what he does/doesn't do with you. And that's how it should be.

The worst thing you can do is to sell yourself as the kind of woman that will betray her vows when there's trouble in paradise, if you're also trying to inspire in him thoughts of you 2 being together in the long run. Nothing about that says that you are the 100% loyal, faithful & trustworthy woman that he probably wants as his kind of woman when he decides to settle down & get married.

Trust me, it's a GOOD thing when a man hesitates to disrespect someone's vows! You don't want the kind of man that can easily skip into another man's home/relationship with no guilt or shame.

Respect that his fear of betraying is morals outweighs his fear of losing you! Respect that! No, he's not playing with you by pretending to be interested when he's really not. If he lacked a conscious enough to play with you, he'd also lack the conscious to give a flying F that you're still technically/legally married!

My apologies on the formatting 😉 It's hard to tell how long these things are in the text box.

Tiz: I am trying to take things one day at a time. It's the holding pattern that has me frustrated. I never knew I could be so patient lol.

Sid: I'm not sure what he thinks in terms of rebound, but I know he's not. This has been a long time coming. I have spent a great deal of time focused on me....trying to figure out what I wanted/what was best for me and my kids/what I did wrong etc. I am in a good place & I think Libra knows that based on smtg he said before. Also he has not been my sole focus - I have gone on some other dates. However it just feels wrong to me while I have feelings for him.

I actually am not sure what is too much, which is why I ask. I would be content with talking to and/or seeing him every day, but I also realize that intensity may be a little much for him, so— I have been trying to be consistent with how I treat him, but he has been all over the place lately, which has me feeling a little unsure as well. He never specifically asks for space, so I don't know when he is just busy or wanting space when he doesn't answer. Ex: yesterday afternoon he called me to talk for a cpl mins but had to get back to work. Sd he'd see me at class, but he never showed. I tried calling him after, no answer. He has been sick off and on, not sleeping well, minds been racing....I think he is stressed about smtg. I have asked but he's been evasive, so I do not push. I know he will tell me eventually.

M143: While I am a serial optimist, I also have a great deal of fire in my chart too. I think we are similar enough to mesh well, while different enough to keep things interesting 🙂

Krys: He actually never came out and said he was interested, and I couldn't tell if he was just being friendly, playful, and flirty with me because we are friends, or if there was more to it. And even after I asked I didn't feel like I really got a straight answer. I have never pressured him to do anything - we are definitely on the same page with respect to loyalty/faithfulness. What it boils down to is that while I value his friendship, I would not be putting in the time and energy that I am if that is all that is ever going to come of it, and since I didn't feel like I got the clarification from him that I was looking for, I thought I would seek out some outside opinions to see if I am on the right track or not.