Confrotation anyone?

Being a Cancer; I know confrontations suck.

But Libras have such a hard time deciding what they want. I have been thru hell and back with this guy for 6 months so far. After a 2 month break (I had to go that hot/cold towards the end drove me nuts.. wtf?!); it was finally established that no matter the situation, we always want to be around eachother in SOME way. Now we are obviously together, and it's only been 2 weeks since we started talking again.


My big fear is putting all this effort in; only to have the 'greener grass?' effect happen. I do not want to wait around. I don't mind a few months.... but at some point I am going to want to answer. How do I confront a Libra that hates confrontation? Especially on a subject such as our relationship? I just need a little clarity... he's a great guy, and it's obvious that I am the only one that he is talking to. We adore eachother. But he always seems to misunderstand me when I try to talk about 'us'. (which has been a total of 3 times) After a while, being his 'friend' and not dating anyone else will get old.

(also on a side note; He tried to 'shack up' with me about 2 months after we started dating, and I had to stop that because he got too damn comfortable! I think that I might of really hurt his feelings, so I know that the gaurd is up full steam now)

what's a girl to do ;x

by the way.. sorry for the typos..i can spel. rilly. i can.

be prepared though, if he's this cagey to hear something you dont want to. Honest open communication is the best method for any relationship but Librans (no offence you guys) are great at dodging sensitive issues and will charm you out of the very question you want to ask them.

If you want a real relationship? Id certainly have "the talk" as you deserve to know where you stand. Reading between lines or lack thereof isnt conducive to a happy relationship and who needs to continually wonder. Just find a time when you're both relaxed and there arent any interruptions like the tv or radio or anything else his mind can wonder to.

After the amount of time you've been with him you certainly deserve the truth - hope its a happy ending too 🙂

Hey Sucha_doll,

Yeah hate hate hate confrontation, especially if it's not something I've made my mind up about yet. It puts pressure on me to make a decision and I CAN'T do it on the spot!!!

Perhaps if you pre-warn what you want to discuss and give him a couple of days to mull over it...then have your discussion. He may try and escape the whole talk but I think that at least he wont be un-prepared because he would have had the time to at least think about it.

I've almost run from a situation like that, got up and walked out the door as my ex was bleating at me...(that's what it sounds like because I'm not listening) looking back now it was a sad desparate situation but I felt I was in a corner and you've all seen what happens when you trap someone/something in a corner...

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Hey Sucha_doll,

Yeah hate hate hate confrontation, especially if it's not something I've made my mind up about yet. It puts pressure on me to make a decision and I CAN'T do it on the spot!!!

Perhaps if you pre-warn what you want to discuss and give him a couple of days to mull over it...then have your discussion. He may try and escape the whole talk but I think that at least he wont be un-prepared because he would have had the time to at least think about it.

I've almost run from a situation like that, got up and walked out the door as my ex was bleating at me...(that's what it sounds like because I'm not listening) looking back now it was a sad desparate situation but I felt I was in a corner and you've all seen what happens when you trap someone/something in a corner...

That is wonderful advice. Giving him a heads up so that he has time to think beforehand would work perfectly.