Confucius says what...libra why so confusing

I was seeing a Libra dude and we were really into each other but we had a few hiccups and decided to put out the fire between us. I thought we could still be friends but he's been very distant. I know we called it off but I just thought that going from saying you can't get someone off your mind to almost treating them like a stranger is kind of weird, and infuriating haha.
So after a week of not speaking I text him the other day just saying hi sort of thing. We spoke a little and he congratulated me on my promotion at work and so I simply replied thanks because it wasn't something that really needed a reply.
I took his not so involved conversation as him just being friendly but that he didn't really care to talk to me and so I was best just letting it go.
Then he text me a couple of hours later and apologised for his short reply and started asking me all these questions.
We continued texting theough to the next day and when I took a couple of hours to reply because I was having dinner with the girls, his reply said he was about to head out with work buddies and he'd text me later. He did text me later but just to say he was going to bed and was good talking and put "xx" at the end.

Don't really know how to interpret this? Id convinced myself that he was over it because of the distance but then he text when there was no need to and the conversation was over (I mean if he wasn't interested in me then why would he do that) and wanted to know what had been going on and how was my weekend. Even txt when he said he would txt later. Funny thing though is he was relying in group chats so he would have known that i could still see he was up. So that made me think what the hell

I think I hurt him because I don't think I appreciate the effort he putting in. I see it all clearly now but at the time I didn't understand because I wasnt really making any sacrifice so it was hard for me to see. But back to main question. If he's done and not feeling it anymore then why text me later when he didn't need to. I defiantly don't reach out to people i have no interest in any longer but I will reply to be polite if they do text which was what I thought he was doing at first til he reached out again later and seem adamant to keep the conversation flowing all the next day. Then I kinda didn't expect him to msg later like he said but he did so that confuse me to. Even if it was just to say how his night what and he was going to bed.
Is he being distant cause he's hurt or Is he just being nice? Thanks and many apolosies as I'm good at English but if Is not my native tongue 🙂

Omg don't stress. If it was a mutual thing, chances are he's dealing with his own emotions. I went through the same garbage with my ex and the overall lesson learned was that he was just a very immature and insecure individual. Pondering over the emotions of individuals like this is pointless, though understandably confusing.

But I'm telling you now, wondering "why?" will just drive you nuts. There is no logic behind immature emotions.

Why did you two decide to mutually call it off?

You also do realize that in order to attempt "friendship" you also should take time away from eachother in order to work through post romantic emotions, right? Too many people think that they can just do an imaginary wiping of the slate and immediately be friends. It doesn't work that way.


Also, do yourself a big favor and get over him. You're clearly looking for signs that he still wants your vag.

Very true. We decide to call it off because of difficulties with this working long term. My job requires me to work away sometime so getting to see each other was hard on some occasion. and also at some point I will have to return home to my own country. We agreed feelings were getting deeper and that it was easier to break ties now then to go further.
The last couple of times we were to catch up I had things come up and could not see him (first was a work duty and second was a friend in need). Because we were not together I did not prioritise him before my friend. He seemed to get over the first time cancelling, understanding that my job is important and I had no choice. but i think he was hurt that I cancelled again. But we not together so until I have that commitment my friend will always come first.
I figure we could still be friends because of how we weren't officially together. so it wasn't a breakup just more a, you are great but realistically this won't work. We can not see future so we do not know that for sure but it seemed to be the best option so no one gets hurt. I just thought because we weren't officially together that being friends would be easy. Plus I knew he was still friends with previous girls he had seen. I even met one when out one night and they had not been official either. When calling it off he said I was everythig he wanted and most genuine person he ever met so it was all good terms.
I read that Libra goes distant when their emotions are all over the place so thy find balance which is what I thought he might be doing. But you are right I am looking for sign he would still like this to continue and should just move on

You also right I think he is immature in some ways. And he mentioned one time that he used to be insecure. Which I think he still is based of that he seemed dumbfounded that I was interests in him in the first place. Perhaps he will grow in time 🙂

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Very true. We decide to call it off because of difficulties with this working long term. My job requires me to work away sometime so getting to see each other was hard on some occasion. and also at some point I will have to return home to my own country. We agreed feelings were getting deeper and that it was easier to break ties now then to go further.
The last couple of times we were to catch up I had things come up and could not see him (first was a work duty and second was a friend in need). Because we were not together I did not prioritise him before my friend. He seemed to get over the first time cancelling, understanding that my job is important and I had no choice. but i think he was hurt that I cancelled again. But we not together so until I have that commitment my friend will always come first.
I figure we could still be friends because of how we weren't officially together. so it wasn't a breakup just more a, you are great but realistically this won't work. We can not see future so we do not know that for sure but it seemed to be the best option so no one gets hurt. I just thought because we weren't officially together that being friends would be easy. Plus I knew he was still friends with previous girls he had seen. I even met one when out one night and they had not been official either. When calling it off he said I was everythig he wanted and most genuine person he ever met so it was all good terms.
I read that Libra goes distant when their emotions are all over the place so thy find balance which is what I thought he might be doing. But you are right I am looking for sign he would still like this to continue and should just move on

You say "we" but this sounds like maybe you suggested it and he went with it.

Either way, the thing with a lot of Libra dudes is that they're already planning the wedding in their heads if things are going well with their current flavor of the week. If things were fine otherwise and suddenly it's like "hey, let's be real, this isn't going to work because of x,y,z, friends?" sure he may agree to it, but it doesn't mean that he's entirely down for it emotionally.

From what you're saying, it sounds like he's just struggling with his own emotions on the matter, hence the oddball behavior.

I know you two weren't "officially" together, which is why I said romantic feelings. You may not have been a committed couple, but it doesn't mean the feelings weren't there. Especially with Libra dudes because they're 4-5 steps ahead of you emotionally when it comes to dating.

Don't reach out to him and just leave him be. If he wants to get in touch, he will. Leave dude alone for a bit. You both need some down time between calling it off and actually becoming friends.

I think he was initially agreeing but then he seem so adamant not to see each other anymore. Maybe he thought I didnt like him much but I did. I was just so scared of where it was going and I know he was too.
I will not reach out to him now. If and when he is ready then he shall find me. I still like him very much and wish I hadn't try to be so logical about the situation and just enjoyed it day by day.
Are you a Libra rockyroad? And if so if he like me will he come back once he has had time to simmer his emotions down

And I don't mean come back in romantic way, even just as friends

So you wanted to end it because you were all worried it would get complicated and difficult due to locations.

Whether he wants to keep you around is up to him. You decided that you wanted this to be cut short because you made an irrational decision based in fear. You don't get to decide whether or not you get to be friends, tbh.

I'm an Aries who's had way too much experience with Libras.

No we live in same location but my visa runs out in a few months. My best friend said it would only be harder if we continued it.
She is right to be honest and his thoughts must have been the same to agree. Thank you though you have made things clearer

It's understandable, I get that. But you're the one who stated fear was a part of your decision and now you're reacting out of regret because of those fears.

Big picture, yeah cutting it short was the thing to do if you know it'll be a lot of trouble long term. Might as well nip it in the bud now before some srs emotions develop.

But don't sit here and torment yourself with pining away for secret feelings. That just contradicts what you're trying to do. Get a hold of those emotions already. It's not easy, but you gotta start working on it.

Thank you. I'm not pining over emotions just sad we couldn't be friends. It's sad when you share something with someone and then they no longer a part of your life is all. Again much thanks for your advise 🙂

Yeah, I know. It's totally crappy.