Dating the Friend

I am so guilty of this...I'm in the beginning of dating my 4th (Yes!! FOURTH) friend. I hang out with a large group of people on a regular basis, and over the course of a year and 3 months I've dated 4 of them, none of them got serious, though that was what I wanted.

I can't let myself fully enjoy this because there is that nagging feeling. I've had a couple of friends tell me I shouldn't do it, and a couple of friends who say, "who cares!" that I'm not just slutting it around, I'm truly interested and who should hold back for "love."

So, lovely Libras, we are known for not holding out or holding back in love...what have you done? Date the friend? Keep it at that?

I have a hard time keeping men as friends, is that normal for Libra's or just a me-thing?

AMAL

It's a normal reaction when you are attracted to the opposite sex. I've been attracted to a couple of guys who I saw as friends and I'm not even a Libra. However, it scared me a bit and backed off because I didn't want to ruin the friendship. Maybe you should wait a bit with dating your guy friends. Maybe the reason why you date your friends is because you know them better than if you just met a guy and it's safer.

mystical: dating my friends is certainly about security, but not about feeling safer. I feel that when I start dating them there is a basis for something.

And Darn! I'm playful by nature! I hate that all these things I do can be manipulated by the way a man think into being something it's not. It's so difficult trying to play the cards the way you THINK they'll see them, it means you can't be yourself.

I have a dinner date with friend #4 tonight, and for the record, nothing physical with him yet. He is very clear on what we're doing, getting to know each other better, and as he put "away from all of THIS." our other friends..

Well, be careful. Make sure you keep your emotions under wraps. Don't play the cards the way you think they'll see them. Never play the cards ever. It takes to much energy not being yourself. In this life you have to be who you are. When it comes to the physical part let that take awhile. A true friend will respect you.

Never play the cards ever. It takes to much energy not being yourself.

That is the truth!! But in all honesty, I haven't felt very in touch with myself of late, even while I'm alone. But I do feel very comfortable with #4, like I don't have anything to lose. We are very similar in attitude and taste and we laugh a lot. It loosens me up!

I'm hoping #4 will light it up, dinner was awesome last night. He is always respectful to a T...I hope it continues...

"I haven't felt very in touch with myself of late" ... just make sure this issue is taken care of first, because you're not going to find it in 4, 3, 2, or 1. You can only find it with YOU. I know you will be okay

Keep us posted on what's behind curtain #4 😉

Who's picture is that——

AMAL - I haven't either felt very in touch with myself for a while. I'm getting there though after a lot of ups and downs. That's great everything went so well last night. Keep things light now as you get to know him better. What's his sign?

hee...I don't know who this picture is!

I don't know why I'm so fuzzy lately, I keep waiting (*trying to get it) to wear off, but nothing seems to help. I know exactly what you mean, nothing will work until I work well, but I feel that every year I go through a phase like this where I end up coming out cleaner and better for it. It's just a momentary lapse in self-awareness. I hope things smooth out for you Mystical.

He's a Scorpio!! But he's not like any other Scorps I know, much more light of heart and funny. He's a total goof with no known walls or fences up that I've found yet.

A Scorpio! Wow. They are intense type of people. There is a customer at the store where I work who started talking to me (I wrote about what happened in the Leo board under I love leos). His stare and eyes are very engaging. I don't know if he's a Scorpio or what he is. I don't even know his name. lol Maybe your friend is on the crusp of Scorpio/Sag which would probably make him more light hearted.

Yes, Scorps are soooo INTENSE!! But they are quite lovely creatures, very deep and knowing.

Your guy sounds like a Scorp with that stare. I can't think of another sign that is known for it. They penetrate you, make you feel slightly uncomfortable by it, but at the same time...intrigued.

BTW: my Scorp doesn't have that stare. I don't know if he's on a cusp or not, but if he is, I'd bet Libra over Sag.

What's your sign?

I know what you mean. I've never had someone look at me the way he does, and I don't even know him. He smiles a lot and I can't figure out why. Oh well, time will tell if he steps up to the plate. I'm an Aquarius.

I only like Scorps in bed and on top...... Once they get on their feet, I just want them to keep steppin'