How to deal with a Libra that i like

Today i have a Libra female coming to visit for 2 days, not a girlfriend, but someone that i would like as a girlfriend, i would like advice on how to deal with her, how to impress her and so on, im a male Cancer, i know were quite different in many ways, something that i should mention is that quite a few years ago we became strongly attracted to each other, while very young, i havnt seen her for a few years now and today im looking forward to seeing her again, any advice on how best to react around her without being over the top about it?

Just be you so that she will like you for you! If you begin to "plan" on how to act just to please her it will backfire. You can't keep up for long who you are not and us women can see right through that stuff.

If this relationship is to be, it will - no WORRIES!!! Go and have fun..make that your goal that you are going to enjoy each others company for the time you are together - be real about it.

Best wishes moloko!

Thanks for replying Freebird, ive been lucky enough to spend a good part of today with her, with other people around off course, and so far so good, shes been so easy to speak with and to get along with, and considering how long its been since we last met, we seemed to chat to each other so freely, i think your right, in fact i know your right, that it will be a wrong idea for me to "plan" how i act around her, ive been myself today and shes been responding well, i will see her again later today and all of tomorrow, also in a situation where we can have a few drinks tomorrow, yeah i think my best bet if to enjoy it and have fun as you mentioned, im always hearing that thats one of the things that most women like, someone who can naturally make them laugh, when we were talking today we were all smiles about everything, i will take your advice and be real about it, either way its a pleasant time spent over most of this weekend around this young woman.

Thank you Freebird

Hi Moloko,

Libra female here, Libra women are pretty easy to please actually. They don't care for head games or male macho crap. They do like honest open conversation, good positive attitudes and most important they like to feel special. If you care about this Libra lady let her know, Libras like to hear what people are thinking and feeling. My first boyfriend ever was a Cancer, very good choice for my first, he was very compassionate and loving. Problem areas were possesivness and he was a homebody. Libras love to socialize and are free spirits. Hope all this helps, let us know how it goes. *S*

Sunshine...

Hi Candlegirl

My eyes just opened up wide when i read that my Libra friend is lucky to have me in her life, wow, the situation we will be in today, as a gathering is at a wedding, both the ceremony and reception, ive read how Libra females love beautiful things, that they like to look good and enjoy the finer things in life, fortunately there will be lots of beautiful flowers around with all the other beauty of a wedding, thank you so much for replying, i will definately go with being myself and not putting myself across falsely to her, so far ive been honest and normal around her and she seems to appreciate that.


Hi Sunshine

I definately agree with you too, she seems very fair with everyone around her and i imagine thats what she will expect back, she seems to make time for everyone, i realise that people like her are definately not to be taken for granted, i told her yesterday that it was so nice to see her again and she told me the same, we seemed to be buzzing with things to talk about and were catching up on things, her eyes were wide open and she looks very happy while talking, i agree that as a cancerian we can be possesive and get a bit jealous, and because ive become so aware of this i do everything not to let that happen, i just keep reminding myself that its perfectly normal for people to move around and chat to other people, also im willing to flow with the ways of a Libra, after all, those nights out are great for everyone, so today i will be myself, il keep smiling and enjoy this time around this wonderful Libra, 7 weeks from now i have the chance to do it all again, same event too, just a different location, wish me luck girls, i will keep you all posted on what happens, you Libra women are wonderful.

Thanks for replying

moloko

Hi Moloko,

Well by listening to your letter I'm sure you will sweep her off her feet. You seem to have a good understanding of Libra women and I wish you all the best. Let us know how it goes...*S*

Sunshine...

Hi again girls, my Libra friend has just left for home with the other visitors, we hugged and said goodbye and i will see her at the next wedding in about 7 weeks time, we had a great time in saturday night, the actual night for everyone went amazing, a group of Scottish pipers and a drummer were brought in to the suprise of everyone, it was my sisters wedding, i had a real fun time with my Libra friend aswell as everyone else, and she did work the room, just as you mention Candlegirl, she seems to spare some time for everyone and i was prepared for that and i knew not to try and keep her to myself, i myself made sure i moved around, buying drinks for old friends and family, chatting, catching up etc, now im looking forward to our next chance to meet soon, of course, and i think you may understand me here, when i say that i have the little niggling concern that maybe, just maybe i can be looking into something that possibly isnt there, and that maybe shes just so naturally pleasant with everyone, its not so much a case of doubting myself too much, but more a case of not wanting to be overly sure of myself, i think its gone quite well, but im prepared that it may not become anything more, also after some thought i must explain that she is in a relationship at the moment, her partner was not here, but im in no way out to cause any damage, nor steal from anyone, only hoping that theres a possibility of us becoming more than the current situation, i hope im not too wrong in my thoughts and attitude towards this, i fully respect that she may be quite happy in her current relationship, shes said some things that makes it quite clear that she wont settle down with him yet. they dont live together, i just am not sure how to handle the next time we meet, as of course her partner will be there, i admit this is difficult, i adore her but i cant just say something to her which might cause an awkward feeling for us both.

By the way Candlegirl, how did your day go with your partner on the motorcycle trip? i hope you had a great day together.

Hi Candlegirl

I appreciate your honesty, she didnt give solid indications that she was unhappy in the current relationship, no unfortunately i wont be in touch with her before the next wedding so its absolutely certain that she will be with her partner at the event, even if she did indicate a strong unhappiness in her current relationship, i really would not want to appear like i was running in to rescue her, im really not out to ruin someone elses happines, i like her enough to realise that, and would genuinely prefer that if she would not be happy with me then that she be very happy with somebody else for the rest of thier lives together, i experience encounters with women who ive got to know but the feeling passes quickly and im not deeply affected by it, but every once in a while someone like this enters my life and theres just something else, something stronger that i feel for particular people, being a cancerian makes me sensitive, i like to try and come across that im ok with my outside shell to protect me but inside im in deep thought over this, i realise it may all be one sided, its the not knowing, because of the Libra need to keep a balance and to be diplomatic i also realise that shes probably not going to run down her current partner or anyone else, even if she was tired of the relationship, i did notice that while i did other things to accomodate other people and to be polite with other people there that she seemed to pick up on this and keep on inviting me back to join her, like i stood up to give up my chair to an older man at the reception leaving myself standing, only for a few seconds before she promptly invited me to take the seat next to her, she also did this earlier at the reception, 3 of the times that i went to get in rounds of drinks at the bar, she insisted on coming with me to the bar, she needed petrol earlier today and invited me to go with her, which i did, leaving everyone back at the house where we had been, her sister while seated with us, appeared to double check with me to make sure that i had no more contact with my ex girlfriend, i realise that this may mean absolutely nothing and maybe im a fool for thinking that it does, maybe it will pass soon and nothing will come of it, i realise i cannot force this situation, i agree with you, i dont want to do anything wrong here, im a soppy fool i know, but i guess its better than being shallow and cold.

It sounds like you will be very comfortable on the new bike, even though its meant giving up the other one.

I was in love with a libra once, she was separated and said the most horrible things about that other guy. I never became more that some kind of friend, which in the end, was better that way.
Anyway, they got back together and got married. It's like she was willing to endure any kind of "crap" for however long it took. She decided that it had to work somehow.
Not to discourage you or anything, every situation is different, but i thought you should know.
It's just hard for me to believe a libra would jump out of a relationship to go into the unknown. I wish i'd stayed a friend though, we would have been good in that kind of relationship.

Hi Moloko,

Glad to hear you had a good time at the wedding, sorry things did not go the way you had hoped. I didnt read what the others have wrote on your post but i'll give you my 2 cents for what its worth. *S* Most Libra's I know are extremely faithful even if not happy. For myself, I don't even date more than one man at a time even with no commitment. Libra's are famous for making people feel very special and giving undivided attention when giving attention to a person. What I have found is that sometimes it leads to mixed signals especially with men. My kindness is at times mistaken for romantic interest, when in fact Im just being friendly and attentive. I'm not saying this is the case with you and your Libra friend, its just something to think about. Like I've said before it is always best with a Libra to lay cards on the table that way there are no miscommunication issues. She will apprieciate it and you will have answers before you spend alot of time and emotion on the situation. I will say the Libras I know do not intentionally play games they are just misunderstood sometimes. Let me know how things go and best of luck.

Sunshine...

Hi mr.crabby

Thanks, i agree with you that i could be holding out for something that may never happen, your absolutely right, ive not given up quite yet, but at the sae time i know its sensible not to waste time with the situation if theres no chance, that i have to accept if it is the case.

Hi Sunshine

One thing that i would definately not be expecting from this woman is for her to date 2 men at the same time, ive never dated 2 women at the same time i could never do that and so would not expect her to do anything like that either, i think there is a strong possibility that im maybe mistaking her natural ways an a Libra, for something that its not, i totally take that on board and know that i could end up kidding myself on when infact theres possibly no serious attraction there, if i feel that i really am getting stronger hints and attention from her the next time i see her and feel confident that its not mixed signals and could make my feelings known to her, but only if its very strong and clear to me, otherwise il just move on and accept that its not to be, i know she would never string me along for fun, your right on your points that you have made, you all are, as im sure you will all understand that at the end of the day im sensible enough not to fool myself on this, but natually hope for the best and for happiness in life.

Thanks, and il keep you posted