I feel so stupid..

So as many know; me and my Libra got back together about 6 weeks ago. Things were going well. (except for the fact that he sorta just moved himself right in my house with out discussing it with me) But for the most part I love him, and don't see it as too much of a problem.

So last night we are talking about this coming weekend. My kids are going over to their Dad's house; so these weekends are usually special for us. (sleep in late, go out at night, etc) My Lib mentions to me that his friends want to go bar hopping. Well we all know that Libra's are major flirts; and I know for a fact that him and his friends (whom are all single) have the goal of pulling numbers and chasing females all night. Of course I am not ok with this; but I try my best to keep my cool.

His excuse is that it's "just a game". It doesn't mean anything, it's all in fun, etc etc.

I am extremely bothered by this. Not the fact that he is going out with his buds, but the fact is that he is supposed to be comitted to me; and that means in FUN or not, you don't talk to other women. My Lib and I are deeply connected almost on a pyschic level. He and I tend to pick up on eachother's feelings immediately. We communicate without saying a word all the time. So last night; even though I was smiling and chatting thru dinner (as hard as it was) he knew that I was hurting. So later on he came around and tried to cuddle up with me and started talking about US hanging out instead on Saturday.

Although he's obviously trying to do the right thing; I can't shake it. If he wants to go out with his friends and do that crap; then the thought is there. I hate him for this. It's breaks my heart.

Why? Why does this guy smother the crap out of me; then this?

I agree with trying to hang out with the guys. My point is that if that's the case.. why not go to a game or go shoot hoop? why go to the meat market when you're SUPPOSED to be off the market?

that is a different perspective now that you mention. he looked at me like i was crazy; and even said 'babe, you do that same thing when you go out with your girlfriends.. it's just a game'

maybe because this time around i deeply care about him. i'm sorta ready to just stop all of that; and be in a comitted relationship w/o the meat market BS.

What this boils down to is that you dont trust him SD and that in itself is very dangerous because you want a commitment with this guy! When you split last time, he tried it on with his ex didnt he? Has he ever cheated on any of his previous gf's? Just trying to get a handle on why you dont trust him... Whether there is grounds for it or just your own insecurity from someone else.

AND Yes it's hard to take the fact that he wants to hang with his mates who are purely out there for the chase but he needs to go down that path himself...once there I'm betting he will actually be quite bored with the whole thing and want to come back home early...to you!

I dont think that you should guilt trip him into not going even though that may be a hard thing to except.


On the other hand you could also go out with your friends for the exact same reason as he is...he is a Libran and now he will feel how you are feeling...

Posted by sweethearts
What this boils down to is that you dont trust him SD and that in itself is very dangerous because you want a commitment with this guy! When you split last time, he tried it on with his ex didnt he? Has he ever cheated on any of his previous gf's? Just trying to get a handle on why you dont trust him... Whether there is grounds for it or just your own insecurity from someone else.

AND Yes it's hard to take the fact that he wants to hang with his mates who are purely out there for the chase but he needs to go down that path himself...once there I'm betting he will actually be quite bored with the whole thing and want to come back home early...to you!

I dont think that you should guilt trip him into not going even though that may be a hard thing to except.


On the other hand you could also go out with your friends for the exact same reason as he is...he is a Libran and now he will feel how you are feeling...

HA! You are so right Sweethearts. After I let this sink in for 24 hours I started to feel a little stupid. I guess I do have trust issues with him; mostly because of what happened last time. He hasn't ever cheated on a gf (so he says) and with the ex; we were in a bad place then and to me - it felt like he bailed out when it was the hardest. That coupled with the fact that I have major issues with my ex cheating on me off and on since I was 15 until I finally dumped him for good when I was 25. Since then it's been an issue in all of my relationships.

I guess I'm old school. Because to me it's all about honor and respect for the relationship. I feel disrespected knowing that my guy is out there with his friends at the bar flirting with women.


I used to be cool with this the first time we were together. But the trust hasn't been earned back since the break up. But you are right; when he has done it - he's been on the phone with me and/or texting me early in the night, and with me at the end.

I'm a friggin mess... LMAO I swear.

No it's normal to feel like that when you have been betrayed before. But now you have to try and develop the trust with him cos if you cant then the relationship will be doomed to have alot of problems. And the problem is with you...

You say you feel disrespected and that's how you feel (nothing wrong with that)

I see that he needs to go out with his friends again and realize where he belongs. Trust me I'm sure the night will be BORING and he'll want to come home...he may not tell you that though. When someone is content in their relationship as your (man on the couch is) he'll be thinking about you...that's why I say go out with the girls yourself, give him something extra to think about😉

But relax honey, he knows who he wants to be with!

Oh no baby girl he moved himself in your place with out asking? Whats up with all these women who let these men just do whatever they want? SERIOUSLY? PLUS HE HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOU as he will be taking numbers as its just a game. He OBVIOUSLY DOESN'T CARE ABOUT YOU OR YOUR FEELINGS. He smothers you and then hurts you, he wants to see how far you'll go for him. This is human nature, he is testing you. Sorry, you seem....sweet but why would you let a man just move in with you without him even asking you if its ok? Do you feel like you NEED a man in your life? Not being mean, but this behavior in women bothers me. If a man wants something from he has to A-S-K me.

take my advice ...set him free and he will be back with you...
be a paranaoid galfd and the moment he gets away he will hook up (even if just for a night) with somebody else
read my post i am kindda the other girl in the story 🙂(help libra guy broke my heart..)
you seem like a lovely girl ..unlike teh girlfriend in my story...
all i'm saying is..make it look like its not a big deal to you and it will seem like not a bid deal to him too..
i'm sure you have nothing to worry about...whatever you do don't become paranoid!!

Love