Is my libra just not that into me?

Hi. New on here. I'm a gemini 6/9/82 and my libra man is 10/17/81. Met him online and he was elusive for quite awhile, always saying we should get together but never acting on it. I eventually figured he wasn't interested when he sent me a message out of nowhere wanting to meet up with me that weekend. He's a bartender, so I met him at his job and we went to his friend's b-day party after work. I got along really well with his friends, while he kinda wandered around the party all over the place but he kept coming back to check on me. Being a Gemini, I was fine socializing with new people and didn't pay him any mind whether he was with me all night or not; I had fun. Party ended around 6am and since I didn't have much time to talk to him during the party I went back to his place for some one on one talk. We chatted and out of nowhere he says "do you kiss on the first date?" I said "I don't know. You can try and hopefully you don't suck" He laughed and we kissed and ended up messing around. He kept taking it further then stopping, I think he was having fun teasing me. I don't sleep around AT ALL so I was surprised how far I was willing to take it with this guy. Never had a Libra before and I wasn't disappointed 🙂 so after a night (or morning I guess) of teasing, I decided to go home. I didn't want to linger, it felt kind of intrusive though he didn't hint that he wanted me to leave or anything. We made plans for the next day. He was supposed to call me from work to set up the details, but he never did. His phone was stolen the previous week and he hadn't replaced it. I messaged him on FB and he didn't even mention standing me up, just asked how my week was. Said he was working a lot, really busy. I played it cool, then tried to see what he was up to the following week. Never heard back. It's been a week and a half now since that night I saw him. I feel so pathetic getting on here to ask about him. He still hasn't gotten a phone so our only means of communication is internet. I don't know why I'm so drawn to him... it sucks. He's a bartender and is surrounded by pretty, drunk girls all the time. I don't know what to think..if he liked me, he'd find a way to call. We didn't take it all the way, so what was the point of all the teasing if we weren't going to pick up where we left off eventually. Help! soooo confused 😢

Yeah I don't know what to think of him. 29, no kids, never been married. Has a degree in child psychology but is a bartender partying it up in a college town. Kinda old for all that. I'm 28, divorced with two kids, and I go out occassionally. Not really looking for anything serious, mostly focused on me and getting my career on track and being a good mom. I'm a pretty confident person so I hate feeling insecure. I've been dating and haven't felt a "spark" until him. Always heard libras and geminis were good together, so I'd hate to let him get away. I've been out of the game too long. LOL. it always is a game..at least at first

Ugh! That's what I was afraid of. I totally called him out on his life style too. I told him he was probably used to stupid drunk college girls and I was not the one to play with. LOL. He seemed shocked that I could be so direct, but he laughed and said that wasn't true at all. I told him if I needed a f*ck buddy, I could have one. It's true for all girls, it's easy for us that way. I told him that I'm not looking for that and he said he agreed, if he didn't respect me he wouldn't have kept stopping before we went too far. Who knows? Maybe he enjoys torturing himself.

The question is...Was he ever really into you?

Your mistake: since I didn't have much time to talk to him during the party I went back to his place for some one on one talk.

At your age you should know that it's not in your best interest to go back to a man's place at that hour unless your about to drop them panties, I'm not a man so I definitely can't speak for a man, IMO he's either wondering if your easy like that with every man you meet or your a tease and he lost interest.

He's still around, don't sweat it...

haha! True dat girl. I must admit, I was kinda hard up myself. It's been awhile what can I say? LOL girls like sex too! I didn't have any expectations going over there, but yeah I shoulda known better and I certainly didn't put up a huge fight. But he turned out to be the tease. Once it got to a certain point I just went with it. He kept stopping it...I put my little protests in and he said "ok, we'll save it but we can still have some fun in other ways" use your imagination but I'd say he's the tease 😉

Thanks TasteofChaos. Good advice. I will lay low and see if he comes around.

He's not the only one with options. I'm pretty fine my damn self. Like I said though, plenty of dates, no sparks til him

Messed around... everything but

He probably is a player.. I suck at picking guys. Always like the bad boys

Love to hear the male point of view on this one...

I totally agree with tasteofchaos especially him being a player, bad boys cannot go the distance, just can't do it no matter how bad they want to, it's just no fun unless he can do his thing with whomever he wants to do it with. I think the dude will be back around now that he's tested your boundaries and know he can get in them panties, not many bad boys pass up no strings sex, he'll be back but it won't be to have a short-term nor long-term fling, you can't keep a dog in the backyard, he's in it for the moment then he must go and conquer another, that's how the bad boys play the game and they distance themselves quickly to make it clear he's not even on the relationship menu.

Thanks girls. It's all good. Onto the next...

LMAO@He's a bonefide commitment phobe... Id forget about him!

Yep, Sag men/men with Sag placements are hard to snag

He definitely sounds like a player, especially if he's a hot bartender. I'm sure you're right about lots of drunk girls throwing themselves at him. You can always go back to his work and remind him how fine you are 😉 But I'm not too keen on the fact that he didn't respond to your message. He'd write back if he was truly interested. If he doesn't, it's his loss!

My SO has Libra Sun while I am a Sagittarius in both Sun/Venus. When I'm having problems with my Libra I'm contemplating on running away, but Libra's charm is holding me back. I'm having a hard time pulling away, so to the OP while you haven't invested much of your emotions to that Libra guy of yours better run away as fast as you can. If he keeps up with you, you can never pull away. And in case you end up really liking him better expect for the worse. Having a man with Libra Sun and a Venus in Sagittarius, it could be a bumpy ride for you.

But then again, being with a Libra Sun alone is one hell of a bumpy ride already. 😄

He was a player for sure, never heard back from him. It's ok I found a very sweet, gorgeous pisces. He's teaching me to set a whole new standard for men 🙂

Posted by QLIbraMale
well he seems rather respectful if all y'all did was fool around, atleast he didn't try to climb inside you a give you a pleasurable wake up. Most Librans love beauty, and because hes a bartender doesn't mean he's 100% playa, hell i bartend time to time myself and i don't drink or smoke lol. i've been over many females houses spent the night without any hanky panky lol. it pretty much boils down to respect and holding our attention, lol "Once we open our hearts don't F* it up Ladies." that's the gist of it lol.

Spot on.🙂

Libra is into Libra.