Libra running from libra

I am a proud libra....I feel like I met "the one"...so much in common its scary.our connection was/insane even others could see it..we felt like we always knew each other. ..he was always asking who are u. Where have I been the whole time lol...we even dressed the same by accident. ..we spent crazy amount of time together. .everyone said this is it..he asked me to go away with him..says he sees us long term.....fast foward to today...we havent spoken in 2 wks...he said he has family problems. ..don't we all ?..slowly he started pulling away...to the point we haven't seen each other in 2 months...occasionally I'd ask if we were still ok while I gave him the space to work on his issues..but I miss everything we had so I asked what is really up with us...since the texts were few and far btween...when I did that he never responded and I never texted back either....I'm afraid I pushed him totally away or turned him off...regardless of if he's a Libra or not he's still a man ...communicate. ..this was all over the span of 5 months...with no nookie but lots of other stuff..says he wanted to wait......Libra confused by another libra...not sure if o should totally walk away..imma still do me regardless. ..thougths ?

Well perhaps it's sentiment here? Let's factor that in with a bit of logic.

1) You guy had an amazing time and he admitted to it and even went as far as saying you'd be great together. In this instance a seed was probably planted in your head and this is where the sentiment comes in thus having that removed away from you is causing you this distress.

2) Problems that arose for him, whether truth or not doesn't take away the fact that he has been absent and upon further prompting he just ran further away. Which can in fact mean one of many things. He's sorry that he made you fall for him and now he's 'disappearing', he really does have family issues and wants to sort them out before coming back and perhaps the grief is getting to him and doesn't want that negativity rubbing off on you. OR perhaps he was never really into you and he played a good hand.

All of which you should really just save your energy and not dissect into because you'll probably feel the emotions drained out of you as they have to prompt you to make such a post.

3) Now comes the part on the possible actions you can take. Seeing you're already attached to him given the way you've posted (I could be wrong) you can continue to contact him and perhaps wait for an answer to which you might somewhat bitter that he's not replying and eventually in your subconscious planting negative imagery about him. You can confront him with a single text or phone call aka ultimatum (which btw never works out imo). OR you can simply just move on and enjoy the other parts of life without love for the moment and maybe someone even more special might come along the way or he might come back. He wants to wait that's fine, you just go ahead keep living your life why put it on hold for someone that won't even return your genuine concerns?

But Alas I'm an Aqua, maybe tizi can come in and give you his insight.

Not seeing each other in 2 Months is pretty long, do you live far apart? you should continue to live your life. If a man really wants to see you he would go out of his way and make time..Remember time is the most valuable thing you can give a person, and if someones wasting your time then you should move on, he might end up contacting you.

Its funny. ..I already have my mind set to letting him go...trying to keep me around just at arms lenth isn't enough....thanks. u guys. For confirming what I was already thinking. ..my job is 5 mins from his house...gone r the days of meeting for lunch n stuff. ..I just miss him and thought this was it..guess I was holding on to the idea more than I was holding him....no one is too busy...just say what's real..I can't. .I don't want to..anything. ..so I will keep moving maybe one day he'll catch up

Personally I think it's a great and admirable trait to be able to hold on to the idea of love and allowing time and withholding doubts for the one you think is worth it 🙂

But a good balance perhaps? 😛 I'll let you know when I figure that one out myself!

So..update. .after 3 wks of mutual silence he txts me...saying he sorry but he still dealing with his family drama...his first questio. Was if I hate him...lol like really. ..anyway he asked me to come see him ..we have been tAlking all day every day for 2 wks now just like before...I thought things were back to normal...when I went to see him I asked if we were just friends...he was like he can't handle the pressures of his family drama and me...i never asked him foraanything EVER. ..I was so pissed that I said I never wanted to b a distraction to him and I just walked out of his house left him sitting there...I was also mad cuz I felt the tears building as he knew 3month s ago he could not be with me so why make things seem ok only to tell me u can't do this..gh..after I left his house he txt me..saying he didn't wann lie or put my life on pause because of his situation. .he wishes we cud b friends but that's up to me...I don't know if I shud respond or keep it moving. ..I'm hurt cuz he shud have said from the beginning he wasn't sure...confused as to why he was being affectionate before he said he can't deal with the pressure...sound like an excuse to me

I've decided just to leave it at that. .I'm pissed at myself for not seeing it before and falling for his bs....I had a bad experience of back and forth with another libra who had the same bday as him...it didn't end till I finally moved beacuse he kept showing up on my doorstep. ...even after he got married. Done with Libra men.

Ur right ..I already see the back n forth messiness if I respond to his text . i dont need clarification ..libra men hate for u to hate them or be mad at them but when they start to doubt u and themselves they cud let their partner know its only fair..there is nothing left to talk about regarding these libra men..post after post is basically the same story..silently moving on....I'm a libra I love love, not sure if love loves me.