Posted by xdimplez
well...to give you a medical insight i can tell you this. it will be something you will always have and its a gift that keeps on giving. you technically cant spread it unless you have active lesions so you might want to stay away from sexy time when it starts kicking down there. one other thing..genital can spread to oral and vice versa
IMO ...you SHOULD tell him, but i would wait a little bit. wait a month before you have sex with him so he can get to know you and what not. hook him with your relationship, and then tell him. but make sure you tell him before you first have sex because people tend to over react. i know if that was me, and they told me within the first three dates i would give them a boot. ill cut my losses... just saying. STD's is no joke
i would also get him tested too just for safety precautions
but also educate yourself on this diagnosis incase he has any questions. its not life threatening, but it is something you should let your partner know about
oh...and safety first!
Posted by sugaries
I don't know why there is still a stigma attached to genital herpes. Yes, no one wants an std but out of herpes and warts...I'd pick the one that doesnt cause cancer. Something like 80% of the population has been exposed to oral herpes and we call it cold sores and its fine...but people treat genital herpes like a death sentence. A lot of people have zero symptoms after their initial outbreak. I have 2 close friends with hsv. There are some guys who really do not care. If you're safe...no worries. But there are also some guys who will care. The important thing is to be honest. Youre not a leper. You're still deserving of love. You're not tainted in any way. Don't feel like u have to settle bc of it.
Posted by pinklibra
Wow i am so very proud of you for stepping out like that. I think you sound like an amazing person for wanting to tell him and you should. However, this is a very personal situation and should'nt be shared with just anyone. You need to make sure you can trust him, and that he trust you. You never know, herpes has become so darn common now a days that he may already have it and just doesn't know or does know and was trying to figure a way to tell you O_o. Wishful thinking, but you'd be surprised how common it is.
Anyway, i love the comments because i know 4 people with it, 2 in my fam and 2 not in my fam. They all caught it from that one jerk who cheated or whatever. It's crazy when you know its not your fault, and your not dirty but you feel that way anyway. The one thing to remember is you are not alone. I'd wait until we are official and honestly until i know for a FACT that he loves me no matter WHAT!, thats not just something I would just "Anybody" to know.
Posted by pinklibra
Wow i am so very proud of you for stepping out like that. I think you sound like an amazing person for wanting to tell him and you should. However, this is a very personal situation and should'nt be shared with just anyone. You need to make sure you can trust him, and that he trust you. You never know, herpes has become so darn common now a days that he may already have it and just doesn't know or does know and was trying to figure a way to tell you O_o. Wishful thinking, but you'd be surprised how common it is.
Anyway, i love the comments because i know 4 people with it, 2 in my fam and 2 not in my fam. They all caught it from that one jerk who cheated or whatever. It's crazy when you know its not your fault, and your not dirty but you feel that way anyway. The one thing to remember is you are not alone. I'd wait until we are official and honestly until i know for a FACT that he loves me no matter WHAT!, thats not just something I would just "Anybody" to know.
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