love life

why does my love always seem to fall apart when I so deeply love that one person??
should i move on or wait for the other person to move out??

yes, do so.

Are you shy when you're next to that person ? Then that's probably a dead giveaway !! Especially if you're a sensitive person like myself.Despite the hype, go ahead and find someone new.Unless you decide to play it cool and stay single for a while.

What do you mean when you say-- "why does my love always fall apart"? How does that happen??

Talk it out and see if you can work it out. Don't just leave without giving the other person a chance to hear you. Open up and tell them how you feel and if they can't respond the way you need them to, then move on. Life is to short to stay in a one sided relationship. (unless you've already put alot into it.)i.e. kids, home etc...

It's a Taurus isn't it? Run! You'll never be free.................

Ohh, please, there are other things to be concerned about....

It must be a Taurus! I agree run very fast and don't look back. Too intense. You can't analyze feelings that are not there.

Haha You can tell the bull made a believer of me. I was the intense one in this case. One day we were both madly in love and the next thing I knew he was not interested anymore. I really thought he was Mr. Right. He sure unbalanced my scales.

Man, I just have to jump in there since the subject turned to Taurus's I just recently told my ex to f*ck off! It's been over 2 years now!! And he won't leave me alone, but he doesn't leave any of his other exes alone either. And the more I push him away the more he pushes on. Once you give in, it's over, the challenge is done and so is he. They are so crazy!! I wish I never got involved with him.

I know.

Well, at least I'm not alone with this experience. It sounds as though Taurus has toppled a few of our scales.

To the original person, it sounds like you may be a 'Woman Who Loves Too Much'. This is a good book that helps to see why we get so intensly attached to people who are bad for us and then wonder why it falls apart. I think it is the same for men despite the title. The old saying about loving yourself before you can be loved back is true but we all have to learn it the hard way unfortunately. Try to break the pattern or you will go through it again and again.

Understand a Taurus male has trouble letting go. Tell him to let go. Sometimes it works. Tell them they are stubborn. They need to let go. It will work. If not introduce them to the new man in your life. That always worked with me. Soft weak Bull.

Hi twinflame2 here,

I agree with the person that chooses to not identify themselves about the book "Women who love to much" it is a great book. I read it some years ago. Another good one is "Women who love men that hate women". The title is a litte misleading. It is a good one to read along with the first one I listed.

The second book deals with men who cant commit and why, along with a whole host of other issues. It lists the things we do to forgive or overlook how we are being treated. As well as our behaviors taht are red flags that we may not be aware of. It lists the kinds of things that are present in an unhealthy relationship to help us recognize that we are in a bad one. And how to get out of that situation and not get into another one.

Its worth checking out at least.

And yes a taurus has a hard time letting go even if they are cheating on you with someone else as was my experience.

I seem to get cheated on to much and I dont understand that one. I love sex and am very educated in that area. I am open to exploration and have a healthy drive. I dont turn my partner down or demand to much. So I just dont get it as to why that has been a recurring theme for me. I am not unattractive or anything. I am 5'3" tall with a petite build, and I used to model so I just dont get it. I dont look anywhere near my age eigher. So if anyone has any opinions or feedback on this let me know alright, as I am confused about this.

TW2

Not at all, the books I mentioned help a woman identify the areas she may be allowing herself to be mistreated and how to change the behavior that allows it. I read them some years ago when in a bad relationship.

It points out just the same kinds of things you mentioned and more. We as women internalize to much that we have made some kind of mistake when we are mistreated. An abusive person already knows this and uses it against us.

I grew up with a father that was very dysfunctional, so I had never learned what it is like to be around someone that is not like that. My sisters have all had a very hard time finding a good relationship because of our childhood. Until you learn why you are making the choices you are, you cant identify or change the pattern. Dont get me wrong, I am not entirely blaming my father for my adult life. Its just that we as people tend to remain in a situation that has a certain comfort level or familiarity to it, instead of trying something new we feel uncertain about.

The books I mentioned were the first step for me in my recovery from coodependant relationships, thats all. I in no way am trying to convey my acceptance of such things. All I was saying is that he could not use the reason that I was not pretty enough, or whatever. What I was trying to say is that I do have enough going for me all around that if he cant see that I have any value, then someone else will. And that I just dont understand what I may have been lacking in in his opinion, as I just dont get it. My brother in law would tell me al the time that alot of his friends would ask if I was available to go out thats all. So whatever it was it is his problem is what I meant thats all.

TW2

Not at all, the books I mentioned help a woman identify the areas she may be allowing herself to be mistreated and how to change the behavior that allows it. I read them some years ago when in a bad relationship.

It points out just the same kinds of things you mentioned and more. We as women internalize to much that we have made some kind of mistake when we are mistreated. An abusive person already knows this and uses it against us.

I grew up with a father that was very dysfunctional, so I had never learned what it is like to be around someone that is not like that. My sisters have all had a very hard time finding a good relationship because of our childhood. Until you learn why you are making the choices you are, you cant identify or change the pattern. Dont get me wrong, I am not entirely blaming my father for my adult life. Its just that we as people tend to remain in a situation that has a certain comfort level or familiarity to it, instead of trying something new we feel uncertain about.

The books I mentioned were the first step for me in my recovery from coodependant relationships, thats all. I in no way am trying to convey my acceptance of such things. All I was saying is that he could not use the reason that I was not pretty enough, or whatever. What I was trying to say is that I do have enough going for me all around that if he cant see that I have any value, then someone else will. And that I just dont understand what I may have been lacking in in his opinion, as I just dont get it. My brother in law would tell me al the time that alot of his friends would ask if I was available to go out thats all. So whatever it was it is his problem is what I meant thats all.

TW2

Not at all, the books I mentioned help a woman identify the areas she may be allowing herself to be mistreated and how to change the behavior that allows it. I read them some years ago when in a bad relationship.

It points out just the same kinds of things you mentioned and more. We as women internalize to much that we have made some kind of mistake when we are mistreated. An abusive person already knows this and uses it against us.

I grew up with a father that was very dysfunctional, so I had never learned what it is like to be around someone that is not like that. My sisters have all had a very hard time finding a good relationship because of our childhood. Until you learn why you are making the choices you are, you cant identify or change the pattern. Dont get me wrong, I am not entirely blaming my father for my adult life. Its just that we as people tend to remain in a situation that has a certain comfort level or familiarity to it, instead of trying something new we feel uncertain about.

The books I mentioned were the first step for me in my recovery from coodependant relationships, thats all. I in no way am trying to convey my acceptance of such things. All I was saying is that he could not use the reason that I was not pretty enough, or whatever. What I was trying to say is that I do have enough going for me all around that if he cant see that I have any value, then someone else will. And that I just dont understand what I may have been lacking in in his opinion, as I just dont get it. My brother in law would tell me al the time that alot of his friends would ask if I was available to go out thats all. So whatever it was it is his problem is what I meant thats all.

TW2

Not at all, the books I mentioned help a woman identify the areas she may be allowing herself to be mistreated and how to change the behavior that allows it. I read them some years ago when in a bad relationship.

It points out just the same kinds of things you mentioned and more. We as women internalize to much that we have made some kind of mistake when we are mistreated. An abusive person already knows this and uses it against us.

I grew up with a father that was very dysfunctional, so I had never learned what it is like to be around someone that is not like that. My sisters have all had a very hard time finding a good relationship because of our childhood. Until you learn why you are making the choices you are, you cant identify or change the pattern. Dont get me wrong, I am not entirely blaming my father for my adult life. Its just that we as people tend to remain in a situation that has a certain comfort level or familiarity to it, instead of trying something new we feel uncertain about.

The books I mentioned were the first step for me in my recovery from coodependant relationships, thats all. I in no way am trying to convey my acceptance of such things. All I was saying is that he could not use the reason that I was not pretty enough, or whatever. What I was trying to say is that I do have enough going for me all around that if he cant see that I have any value, then someone else will. And that I just dont understand what I may have been lacking in in his opinion, as I just dont get it. My brother in law would tell me al the time that alot of his friends would ask if I was available to go out thats all. So whatever it was it is his problem is what I meant thats all.

TW2

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