love or confusion?

I am a Taurus girl. I haven't had many relationships but curiously most of them have been with Libras. It hasn't been a conscious choice, of course. I am drawn to their subtle nature for some reason and only later find out I have landed on another Libra again🙂 I have been in a relationship with a Libra man for a year now. The thing is that he is really caring and affectionate, he kisses and hugs a lot, helps me out whenever needed. We see each other maybe 3-5 times a week and on other days we call or chat on IM. He is really really nice to me and never does anything to offend me or make me feel bad. The only problem is that he never verbalizes his feelings and makes any future plans with me. I don't push it either, I only sometimes wonder by myself whether this means that he doesn't really love me. Could it mean that he is simply shy about showing his feelings?

Girl, being a Taurus, I don't know how you handled a year with the guy
without any security that he'll stick around. lol


That's a good question🙂 I have ruined one relationship before because I was too impatient and wanted too much commitment too soon. (he was also a Libra) I never had a chance to find out where this relationship could have evolved because of my own stupid insecurities. So this time I made a conscious choice to follow the guys own pace. It has been hard, especially in the beginning, but I think it has payed off. He has become more and more attached to me the more time goes by, and every time he introduces me to a new part of his life, I feel as if I have won a jackpot. After a year the mystery and excitement is still there, and I think this is thanks to my decision not to claim too much too soon. But I still think that it is about time he said these three little words. I haven't said it myself because I don't want to push him, just waiting til he says it first. but I am starting to fear that he might never say it😢

This is just how they are. Seriously.
& when you get sick of it and make the decision to move on...you won't be able to get rid of him. 🙂

Lovely little creatures.

Well one, you're a Taurus & you crave security in everything you put effort or any energy into. So that explains why it keeps bugging you that the word "future" hasn't come up in the relationship.

The thing about Libras is that they crave security too & even though they are the "lovers" in the Zodiac, they'd much rather live in the moment & make sure they can get the "BASICS" down pact first before they even attempt to think about step 10 (the future). This is annoying for the Taurus b/c of course you just want to know that a future with him is atleast a possibility. Where Taurus craves security over anything else, the Libra craves companionship in the moment. Alot of Libras get so involved in the moment (like children who finally got candy) that they don't spend much time talking about the future, possibly b/c of their fear of rejection or their partner's assuming they are taking things too fast.

Libras are wonderful at showing affection & SHOWING you better than they can TELL You how much they love you. Taurus needs to constantly be reassured that they are putting their faith, conversation, energy, & heart into the right things. Have you ever talked to him about how you feel? He probably has thought about you in terms of a future with you but feels that he'd rather get through today with you (b/c of his constant fear of possibly losing the ones he loves) & let that topic come up when the time is right, and not a second before. Let him know that you have needs too & that he needs to consider what you consider important or vital in motivating you to keep going with him. If he can't understand this or choses to avoid this conversation then no, you're only "company" to him, not a companion

If anything, Libras are the ones to see the "gold" in someone & attach a little more quickly than they probably should. If anything, Libras are the ones to instantly begin thinking about the "future" with their partners b/c they can be like children who get so excited that they get too ahead of themselves. And THEY know this & when they are aware of their tendency to do this, they will take a step back & try not to be that type of person so that they won't turn you off. It's just his luck that he's with someone that NEEDS him to be that way in order to make her feel safe.

You should tell him that it's okay for him to be open & completely vulnerable about how excited he feels about you. And he'll either continue to be a closed book or he will take that opportunity to say "finally!" & get his true feelings out. You need to have the conversation with him FIRST though. THEN, based off of how he responds AND reacts, make your decision & make a guess at how he really feels about you. But until that conversation is had, he might be sitting around waiting on you to ask (he won't ask first b/c he doesn't want you to think that he's moving too fast). OR he might still be deciding on whether or not he trusts you and/or loves you enough to see you in his future. And we all know that in making a big decision like that from the heart, it might take them forever! So if you really want him & believe from his actions that he holds his relationship with you in high regards, then just be patient & trust that the person you are with won't let you down when that conversation comes up.

I don't know whether he fell in love quickly or how seriously he took me in the beginning. The thing is that he started to pursue me while he was breaking off with his previous girlfriend, so things were a bit complicated in the beginning, but he never made me feel as if he was doubting his choice to start a new thing with me. He never talks about his ex either.
I am really scared to start a conversation about our feelings with him, because when I have carefully tried to do smth like that before, then he has quickly turned it to a joke and started another topic. So he seems to avoid this. Yet when he hugs me and kisses me, it feels like the love is there...
Oh well, I adore Libras, but it is just so difficult sometimes...

Thank you for your reply, IsabelScorpia. Funny thing is that I felt exactly as if I had written the story when I read your posted topic "How do you know your special..." . I guess we are both in very similar situations with our Libras. Let me know if there will be any progress in your relationship😉
BTW, does your Libra have many female friends and how do you handle it?

my Libra has loads of female friends, he is also a good friend with one of his ex (not the one he broke up with when we started dating) It has bothered me because I've had painful history with one of my previous boyfriends' ex. So I don't know whether my jealousy comes from my own insecurities, I try to hide it though. And it seems like he has pulled back in communicating with his female friends a little bit. I guess that's a good sign...

And I do feel exactly the same as you, wondering if I am just another one in the line, because it seems like he has had very many 6 mnths to 1,5 year relationships and he doesn't like to talk about them, so I have no idea why he had broken up with them. maybe he just gets bored at one point...I am counting days too, hoping that the longer we last the more meaningful this relationship must be for him. Sounds crazy, I guess, but you'll understand out of all people😄

He hasn't introduced me to his family, that is also another source of my insecurities. has your Libra introduced to his parents, and if not then why? Do you know all his friends, or do you feel as if he is leaving you out of some parts of his life?

About verbalization, well, he tells me I am sweet and beautiful, he has told me a couple of times that he missed me while I was away. he also tells me that it feels good being with me. but he hasn't told me that he loves me. he does call me almost every day, and wants to meet me every other day, he is into me alright, but for how much longer and what is he thinking really, that's mystery for me... I am not sure whether it is fear of rejection on his part, because I feel as if I have done all to make him feel loved, at least I try my best, I say sweet things to him, but at the same time trying not to be clingy. I think I'm doing a pretty good job in being a perfect girlfriend😄 And it isn't hard because he IS such an adorable human being and I do really love him, but I also need some security. My theory is that he hasn't told about his feelings because he is very careful not to give false promises, he may feel as if telling that you love someone would mean that you basically commit for real and for good. Well, I guess I'll just have to wait and see.