Posted by MareInfamePosted by brianafay
I actually feel really sad at the thought my husband could be going in hopes his grandfather will show some type of remorse
Just try to support him. He finds it very important to go, the need is strong within him... so it will be.
And be ready to support him when he returns. Last thing he’ll need is judgment if it goes sour.
I don’t think he is going in vain. What he is doing is courageous; It’s courage that his grandfather always lacked. He is also showing that he cares by his actions... those traits should be applauded, not ridiculed or judged. He is an evolved gene of his grandfather.
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Posted by xXxAliiciaXxX
Kinda sounds like you already made your decision.
Posted by bumboklattPosted by brianafay
If you’re a Scorp moon specifically please note when you respond because I’m really trying to understand
I am. I would definitely go see him. Its better to end things than to keep the hate going. Death changes lots of things. Its a resolve and an end.
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Posted by Metatron
I'd probably go....being near death can often change a person entirely, put things in a different perspective for them....not always the case, but the person you visit may be very different from the one you remember, and showing compassion to him in that state might be healing for all involved....
I had a really strained relationship with my grandfather....He was the worst kind of Aries, seemed to single me out for abuse since I was really young. I can honestly say I hated him, which faded to indifference as I got older and no longer had to be around him....
when he had very little time left, he wanted to see me....I obliged for my mother's sake....he showed no sentiment, no apology, just a very awkward quiet experience of being in his presence, and then him offering to buy me something (which I refused) at the end....but I did note how much his infirmity had humbled him...first time I ever saw him looking anxious or weak, and I think it was important for me to see that vulnerability/humanity in him at that time....
years later I found out some things about him that better explained his abusive nature, and also heard stories of times when he showed real character, stories that even made me proud of him....I just think the whole process was important for me - to alter my view of him, and forgive the things that happened, etc.
Posted by MrsElleCappysnatchPosted by brianafayPosted by Black-Mamba
id want to know why, was he abused as a child?
or is he a secret murderer....
i'd want to know...so i'd probably visit him and give him those pills that make you talk
I’ve always wanted to know why too but he’s not my grandfather so not my problem
But now I’m debating if I really want my child drug along for this circus side show ?
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Posted by tiziani
Trying to think of if I've been through anything similar but nothing comes to mind.
Legit don't know what I'd choose.
Would you be travelling with the great grandchild or alone?