My Libra journey...he was here, where did he go—

I met my Libra guy a few months ago. We never really flirted, just felt SOO attracted to each other. For months we barely even made out, couple of times. After a couple of months of talking on the phone and meeting up for coffee we started hanging out at his place. We made out like thunder without doing it. LOL Next time I came over we made out like a hurricane and this time did it. It was more of a bang. I went away and he text me a day later for couple of days. When I came back we had a fight. I found him to be insecure and jealous in the beginning. Once he noticed I like him he became more grounded. Now that we're slept together twice he's even more secure. I've met his close friends, and brother. I came over again last week, watched movies, chatted, and got 'jiggy' with it ... and had a bit of a tiff. The tiff was basically this ... I swayed a little to give him the idea that I wanted to know what the heck was going on, if this is anything mroe than just s.e.x. He never gave me a straight answer just played around with me. To playfully annoy me then he got all guy-ish on me. Anywho we joked about stuff...Needless to say I have not heard from him for 5 days as of midnight tonight (Tuesday).

Facts: I do know he likes me I have no doubt, but something is making him think I guess. He did once tell me he analyzes too much. My ex who was a Libra did the SAME thing. So maybe things got a little too complicated now that we've done it. The first time I told him I liked him, b/c I was frustrated, he backed off for a week, I never contacted him just had no care. It took 3 weeks for us to get back to normal and him calling me again. - He did most of the calling - I called occasionally.

I'm thinking b/c I gave him an impression I want more than just 'jiggy' he knows that when he calls me the topic will come up and we're gonna have to talk about it. From what I know Libra hate confrontation. Another thing, he does this thing when he's mad at me about something, he makes up shit to get off the phone, since I never call him he ends up calling days later or week later.

Anyone has any input?

It looks to me that your Lib is feeling a bit of the pressure to make a decision. Libra's already have enough trouble going back and forth in their own minds; so any added pressure sometimes can prove to be a bit too much. But one thing is for certain; as soon as those complicated thoughts inside his mind start to get to complicated on the outside as well (i.e. you bringing it up) they tend to back off/hide until they feel like the coast is clear.

So, you've brought up the status of your r/ship twice. His reaction both times has been to retreat. He may be doing one of two things (possibly both) here.

1) He has stepped back and away to sort this out; give it thought, and try to find where it all stands. In the mean time; leave him be. They always come back if they think there's hope.

2) Things have gotten a bit too hot/real. In fact they have gotten more real/hot each time. So your actions may be more aggressive than he is ready for. By you putting him on the spot (Libras HATE that) has made him uncomfortable. So he choses to give it some 'cool off time'.

Once thing is certain; Libra's can't stand 'reality checks'. They hate being told how it is; or what to do. They would much rather realize these things on their own, at their own pace, and accept it when they are ready. (Even if it is THEY whom have the lead foot on the gas.) Remember - although perceived as the more 'balanced' and 'fair' of the astro signs; Libras are usually far from it. The constant tipping of the scales back in forth is always going on; at least in inside. (thus explaining all the HOT vs. COLD bs they can pull)

Overall - my advice? STOP BUGGING HIM. Don't bring up your r/ship 'status' for a while. Libra's are very literal. If they are around you all the time, they like you; simple as that. If they introduce you to their friends/family you are special to them, period. Libra's are a bit lazy by nature. So any efforts into a relationship are only going to be wasted on relationships worth having. If you really care about this guy, jue patient. They just take extra long to really figure out what they want because they are trying to figure out if it's right or not. Just remain on that even keel.

- Show yourself as content with/without him.
- Let him call you first, don't chase him.
- If/When he calls, and he acts like it's been nothing; act like that right back! A few days away is NOTHING in Libra time. He'll be happy to hear that you're not sweatin it either 🙂

Thanks sucha_d0ll!! That's what I've been thinking. I've learned a lot from my ex. I have found myself to be MORE patient than I have been before with other guys. Good advice. I will let it be even though it's been a week!!
One other thing that stands out in my head when I was over last time, I left my purse open in his room and he took his sweet time bringing it down now I'm wondering if he hasn't looked through my phone where I had some texts going back and forth between my ex. nothing of a big deal as I said in there that I'm over it, but if he did he would have raed quite a bit. I've been wanting to just send him a casual text.. like how much longer will he take? I don't get it. *eye-roll* sometimes I wish to be a Libra just so I could understand how they work!! :p

Ah yes... text messaging. It's amazing how much relationships can be effected by such a tiny little device. LOL

If I were you I'd cut that ex-texting out. Libra's aren't naturally mistrusting; but they are sneaky. I wouldn't leave any material for him at all.

And as for the week... has the weekend gone by yet? Sometimes weeks aren't that big of a deal; the weekend passing by with out a phone call is different. But I'd still give it 2 weeks. Libra's are STUBBORN.

I broke it off with my Libra and despite the reports from mutual friends that he was taking it super hard... the stubborn ^&% #*... he didn't contact me for 6 weeks! lolz

I'm so mad. I texted him tonight. It was a genral text as I was going out with girls. So at least now he knows the ball's in his court. Did I completely throw it off?

He didnt contact you for 6 weeks. Are you guys together now?

I do find him insecure. So I dunno. I just want him to know he has no reason to be.

spendaholic, does he have a twin brother?

uhm no he doesnt? LOL why's u asking?

^I would think she's implying that she's dating his 'twin' 😛

LOL there is no twin.

sucha_d0ll - he called !

Of course he called! they always do 🙂 (if they like you)

Mine and I didn't speak for 6 weeks because we were both stubborn about breaking up. (i broke up with him over drama) and we both kept the silent treatment going for 6 weeks.

Finally he broke first; and came back in full force.

Libra's tend to step away at times (sometimes briefly, sometimes longer) to sort things out. They have a great deal of patience when it comes to figuring things out. They like to take their time and make sure that the decision made was the right one.