Please help...I wanna spice things up with Libra

Hi Guys,

I hope you can help me I have kinda been building a friendship with this Libra guy since January. I'm still unsure if he likes me or if he has been wishy washy in chaging his mind about me. Anyway, I personally only see a fun thing with him and would really like to add a bit of spice to check things out... It's summer I want some Fun...Lol.

We are currently only really email and the odd text message buddies, and I recently plucked up the courage to ask him if this email thing was set to go anywhere! He told me he saw us as friends and had not thought of anything beyond that (although I understand him, im not sure that is entierly true) Since then I think he may have demonstrated a slight bit of jealousy - but I cannot be sure. He recently emailed me and failed to respond to my reply, I left it and then a few days later I contacted him to say hello and made reference to him ignoring my reply to him, he responded by saying he never got the reply, and thought I wanted a break from him, since I did not reply! I then said something like ahh I thought you forgot about me...he did not reply. Anyway a few days later, he mails me and reminds me he has something of mine and he may bring it over to my place some evening.

See, since January, I have been treading very carfully as I was initially unconvinced he was showing me interest, I then decided I would play things very very cool and admitt we used to flirt a bit in the early days but now our convo are not really flirtatious. In the early stages he asked what i was looking for and i told him marraige. I,m now thinking, he may have backed off because of what i said i wanted (but I dont know) When we do see eachother in mutual settings and once a party he held, his eyes and smile say a lot but it had seemed as though he was keeping me at arms lenght until recently when he gave me a gestured a hug (after telling me he saw us as friends).

Like I said in my openeing, it's summer and I want to spice things up and wondered if I should start being more flirtatious with him to really test the waters.


Im a Leo with Tarus rising. Please help me y'all Libra veterans...Lol

TIAxxx

I should also mention that my Libra friend

Helped me to d some DIY and I too helped him with his party, since this time he has evry now and then made reference to calling on him if I had any more DIY jobs... I ignored this as I felt he was telling me that would be the only way I was going to see him.

As I have not revealed my age to him (Im a couple of years older) he has been really trying get this info out of me and once said I had him racking his brain about 'this little mystery'

I got to admit Im way confused and refuse to put my self on the line especially after what he said about the friends thing.

"He told me he saw us as friends and had not thought of anything beyond that (although I understand him, im not sure that is entierly true)"

Why do women always want to line men's words with underlying emotion? Women are the ones who don't say what they mean. Men say what they mean. If he wanted you, he would have gone through the open door, don't you think?

^ Eeer no I dont actually! Hence my post. Are u Libras not the ones who give off the living CONFUSING messages.... Do all the tooing and frowing confusing the hell out of pple? And you wanna come at me with the simple Black and White case.... KMT.

Wow, ignore the last post (not yours), super-rude and totally uninspiring.

Anyways- Libra men love to keep doors open- which sadly I think is happening w you. What's your sign? The good news is these men respond VERY WELL TO SPICE! My advice to you is to kick it up a notch while remaining nice & cordial, clingy doesn't work for them, you need to provoke his interest w/o invoking images of crazy commitment. Good luck!

Hi Firegirl, thanks for your advise. Im a Leo.

I agree re the light hearteness which is what I have been because I have been a tad confused at his daily emails etc and I have also wondered if I was being put on the back burner!!! Not impressed if this is the case. I just want some light hearted fun with him but also recognise I may need to just pass on this one...Too long winded and confusing for something that should just be fun and fluffy!!! I will attempt the stirring up of things and see if my light advances are reciprocated, if not...NEXT please. Lol.

As for the friendly Muse...Well, I figure he's a nuckle head and he cant help himself.

It may be confusing to you...you should read this post by krysreene7 ()

It explains a lot.

Libras make up their minds slowly...during that time, you might be confused. But once their made up, it sticks.

I don't think he sees you as more than a friend. I think he told you the truth, and that you might get burned a bit if you try to push the issue.

Hi, well I appreciate that more than I did your first post thank you for the link and your comment. I will check ut the thread.

Well I do agree that Libras aren't ones to stall & sit back & watch who they really want get away from them. And it appears that this libra is a little too laid back in his dealings with you. It seems as if he's not really bothered either way, if you stay in his life as just as a friend or not. Libra's main goal is commitment & companionship & the only times things only end up as friendships is b/c they've ALREADY observed & decided that friendship was all they could give.

If you just want to have some fun & don't see him in terms of long-term then why are you concerned with how he feels about you emotionally? If this were strictly a friendship, then how he emotionally felt about you wouldn't matter. It seems like you have a lot of pride & since he won't possibly admit that he doesn't see you as "girlfriend material", you automatically tried to say you felt the same in return, even if you really didn't feel that way. If you like this guy & want to be with him, that's okay. But I will agree that men often tell you exactly what they mean. Alot of women chose not to hear it b/c they didn't like his response or instead of admitting that they got turned down, will automatically blaim the man for giving them mixed signals. You said yourself that he told you he wasn't looking for a relationship with you, thus all the smiles & extra long hugs shouldn't matter b/c he is probably this way with others. And ok, so let's say this guy really does want you & is just afraid to tell you? He needs to get with the program & step his game up or else this game of "cat & mouse" is going to get really old. And if this is the game he's playing out of fear, pride or confusion then no, stop trying to "spice" things up b/c it won't work if this is all about his emotions. You spicing things up won't necessarily make him have the balls to finally chase after you.

Him possibly having the fear of commitment or to open up to another woman won't go away just b/c the sex or conversations get better. NO WOMAN CAN CHANGE A MAN. She might BE in his presence during the time that he decides to change for himself, but there is no such a thing as a man coming out of those fears just b/c the woman did something differently. If this guy really is afraid or is playing mind games with you, then don't take the burden on your shoulders & blaim yourself for why he doesn't want you long-term. You attempting to do all that you can do to get him to notice you in a commitment way is all about you trying to blaim yourself or not acknowledge the reason why he decided not to be with you long-term. At this point you might be doing what's doing, which is using your pride to guide you through the situation. And if you don't use emotions or logic, then it's no wonder you are continually confused

Krysrenee7, thank you so much for your insight into the 'misunderstood' world of Libra's. Your insight 'almost' made me feel entierly responsible for feeling some-what confused! Lol... However, as you do, I thought about the start of my frienship with Libra until now and although I understand some of what you say, I really beg to differ your theory on him not being bothered whether im a friend or not, if this were the case, Mr Libra has haD ample opps to scarper from me, but still chooses to stay in contact almost on a daily basis - why does he do that, this man is so fine, calculated and astute, surely he would have cut his looses long time ago! After all, he has made up his mind about me long time ago....

Why would i not be interested to know that his friendship was genuine, I dont entertain fake pple, so yes, whist he is doing his own observing of me Im certainly going to be doing the same vetting of his worthiness in my life too. Is this wrong! Hell no it's not! Call it pride, or what ever you want. Why should it just be men (in this case Libra man) who is allwed to weigh me up and place me in a certain friend or lover category? However still behave as though there is an interest... Get these Libra's off their peddle stool girl! There is sooo much that you cannot justify about the way they do things... They are no different from any other sign, we all want love etc, but why try and justify the way they drag pple into their 'messy meantime'.

I appreciate your insight and theory into my situation, I also have my theory, and most def, time will tell what this Libra stays around for.