Sagittarius male - Libra female

I was in a short term relationship with one libra girl last year, we hit it off instantly, and the chemistry was there from the start...everything was so relaxed and easy going. She was so into me, and asked me if I want something serious, because she likes me very much. We texted non stop, and she always texted and called me first.

Then, before a couple of months, I met some other libra chick online, she answered to my first message after 4 days...typically for a libra girl...she needed time to think. She said that she is there only for fun and joking, and she doesn't want to meet anybody live. And little by little, we chatted often, and she wanted to find me on FB. I was chasing her by little, and wanted to go out with her on a drink. I needed couple of days to help her with decision, and she gave me her phone number, and said that we will go to coffee, that's it when all starts. She added that I am so sweet, and then she sent me a couple of kisses.
We went on a first date, even she said that it will be MAYBE on that specific day...typically for a libra girl, as I red somewhere the same about the beginning.

We finally met, sat somewhere outside, and chatted for three hours. She talked a lot, I listened and asked some questions, and we discussed about many things. Then I put my arm around her lower back, while we talked, and tried to kiss her. She moved back, and said that she doesn't kiss on a first date, only sometimes when she get drunk, and is in the club, but that is rarely. I respected that, because she said that it isn't so comfortable for her on the first date for something like that. One guy tried many times to kiss her on the first date, and she said no chance. And on the second date he said to her that he wants just something casual with her, and she said to him that she isn't that kind of girl, and that she wants a relationship, so she didn't saw him again.

She mentioned that she had relationship of 9 months, with some possesive guy, which controlled her, and tried to make her stop with smoking, partying, and seeing some specific friends. He also got her FB pass so he can read messages. I don't know how she managed to make it last for 9 months with some insecure guy like that, but then she finally dumped him, because he didn't changed his behavior, and she couldn't take it anymore. Other relationships were for 3 to 5 months, short ones, and it always ended because she kissed with some guy on a party while drunk, and then admitted to

her partner, and broke up, even if they wanted to continue, but she said that she couldn't looked them in the eyes after that, so that's the reason why she always dumped the guys after that, and that there is no rule when that will happen, although she never cheated that possesive guy, which is strange...maybe she is insecure, or doesn't have enough self respect, I don't know.

Anyway, after that first date I didn't tried to kiss her again at the end of it, and she texted me first after a date. She sent some joke. I responded after couple of hours, and she asked me if I liked her, I said yes, that I enjoyed her company, and she said that she hopes that it's like that, and asked why didn't I kissed her if I wanted something with her, and I don't know why she asked that, cause I tried. Anyway, we continued to text each other every day, and to send many kisses, etc. and agreed to go on a second date.

Second date went very well, we kissed a lot, although she seem kind of nervous when I sat beside her. I mean, she looked at her fingers, played with them little nervously, and avoided eye contact when she could. Don't know if it's because she was attracted a lot, or what. All I know is that she enjoyed my kisses, and than backed up, and said that it was enough, everybody is watching us...but said that in a jokingly manner. And I think that when she said that it's enough, she was horny, cause I can hear that from the way of her breathing.
She texted on the FB on her phone, and showed me many people that wants to date her, even married ones, and said that she doesn't like married men. She didn't hide any messages from me. She even got some unknown call, and said that her girl friends give her number to some guys, even if she didn't know, so she didn't responded.

Then she asked me, what I am looking with her, I'm old, I should have a gf by now, and kids also. Do I even want kids? What I'm waiting for? Maybe through those questions it was clear that she doesn't want a relationship, or it was just strange to her, but that possesive guy had also 30 by that time.
At the and of the date, we kissed each other a lot, and she texted me first again when she got home, everything was fine. She even asked if I want just fun with her, cause she thinks so. I said no, I prefer relationships, cause one night stands and similar way of fun is empty for me, and she said great.
And then, on sunday, she said that she was with some guy. I was just so pissed, and said that she

acts like some teenager, although she is 21, I know, pretty young, cause I am 31. She said that she is sorry, but she cannot turn back time, and that she doesn't want to see that guy again. Then I was little bit harsh, and said some things, and she replied yes, yes, that's me, it will not happen again, or maybe will, if you say so...

I didn't responded back, and at the evening she asked me "We doesn't speak anymore?"...I didn't know what would be best to respond, so I waited for tomorrow, and made a mistake because I said that if she wants to be with me, then she must be sincere and open always with me, and that sort of stuff, and then she said that she cannot give that to me, that she isn't serious as a person, and the problem is because she cannot resist to go out on the weekend, and to drink a lot. She must...
I don't understand her...everything was fine, she wanted a relationship, and on he other hand, she told me on the first date that her girl friend was fucking with some guy in the toilette, and she was taping it on the phone, through the window. I mean, she said that she isn't that kind of girl, but I find many things contradicting. She also said that she doesn't give a damn about love, that she adores animals, especially dogs, and I found that in common for many libras...that she even cries when she sees poor people outside, but is not sensitive about relationships.
Then she said that I am really nice guy, and doesn't deserve that (don't know if it's excuse, or her problem with self esteem), she feels stupid, and don't know what to write me. And she agreed that for a "punishment" I can do what I want with her (I teased her a lot), she gives me permission for that.
After that, and the next day, she didn't texted me first at all, and when I did, she was so cold...allegedly cause she still feels bad. I said that I want to see her in a thursday/friday, and she said that she cannot make it, she must go to work, and she doesn't know when, that they will call her. I got pissed off, and said that she is a liar, and is very immature for her age, and that she firstly agreed to see me, and now she doesn't. Then she replied, yes, I wanted, but I can't...I cannot look you in the eyes, and it would never be the same again, it was my mistake. I said that I miss her, and she said that she doesn't deserve that, nor anything else...again, don't know if it's excuse, and she wanted to be with someone else, or she just has low self esteem.

I was little bit h

I was little bit harsh again, and she said that I forget everything that we had (cause she got offended). I deleted her from fb, and said that she loves bad guys, and she was like OMG...
After couple of days, I regretted, and texted her that I'm sorry for what I said, and that I miss her, and I know that she is worth it. She saw message quickly, but didn't responded...
Btw, her ascendant is sagittarius, and mine is scorpio, although, I am not possesive, and do not text or call first...

And I KNOW that I should sounded so clingy and weak/desperate, that was a huge mistake, and maybe a turn off...but cannot believe it that it all ended so quickly, after all those texting, and two great dates, chemistry was there, and don't know why she kissed with another guy after all that, I was giving her freedom and many more, but she remained faithful to some possesive guy (maybe some scorpio)...no sense at all...
I don't know why, but I think a lot about her, and don't understand how it didn't went to third date, when everything was so fine, like it is between those two signs...
Maybe some response from a libra which has sagittarius as ascendant to help me understand her?

And I know it's funny, cause we saw each other just two times, and texted about one month, but she was so special, and has those beautiful eyes and smile...I'm rarely so attracted to some girl...

And she said that her girl friend is very important to her, even if she's so different, and is taking advantage of her goodness, and that she will settle down in about 4-5 years...does she doesn't know what she wants, or she's afraid that she would get hurt if she let me in...or is just that she's too young...
Damn those libra girls, and those chemistry...it's hard to forget... 😄

Sag guys, the potential rapists of the Zodiac.

Lol...wrong answer. 😉

Nope. Actually spot on given your story. You need to reread the part where you blatantly ignored what she said she wanted/where she stood and pushed for what YOU wanted. The 400 other pages of information after that bit is irrelevant.

Sag guys are notorious for focusing on themselves and their wants/interests. Many don't know how to take "no" as "no" and push because it's what they want and to hell with everyone else.

Voila, "potential 'rapists' of the Zodiac."

It's not "wrong," just not the answer you wanted to hear.

Maybe next time when a girl says she's not interested in more, you should listen with your working brain as opposed to the one that's suffocating in your pants. Guys like you are ones to be avoided in dating. 🙂

Firstly, she was always texting me first, and a lot. Secondly, she asked me what I want...I said relationship, then I asked her the same, and she confirmed that she wants it too. Furthermore, I was before her in a relationship with a libra girl, she also always texted me first, and asked if I want relationship, and everything was the same...only difference is 'cause that libra was older, she was 28, which can make a difference. And everything was OK from then. And the libra which I mentioned here is a lot younger, and ascendant also make a difference. She have a problem with alcohol, so she cheat sometimes when she drinks, and there is no rule when it will happen. She cheated after one month, after three months, etc. She only did not cheated one guy that is possesive, and was controlling her all the time. I noticed through her answers that she has low self esteem problem, and that kind of person is not used to good behavior. It isn't that she isn't interested anymore, it's just her mistake, and she regretted it. She is OK when she do not drink. It's not an excuse, it's just that she cannot deal with it later, and cannot look that person in the eyes. And last one, I am actually one that do not think with a dick, and I'm looking for something more serious. So, all in all, you don't have a clue what you're talking about.

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She said that she is there only for fun and joking, and she doesn't want to meet anybody live. And little by little, we chatted often, and she wanted to find me on FB. I was chasing her by little, and wanted to go out with her on a drink. I needed couple of days to help her with decision

Then I put my arm around her lower back, while we talked, and tried to kiss her. She moved back, and said that she doesn't kiss on a first date

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You're also incredibly naive to think you can get a relationship out of a dumb 21 year old girl who brags about how many guys want to date/fuck her.

Grow up, dear. You not only pushed her into dating you, you've ignored some obvious red flags that this child has no idea what she wants and is cock teasing you. You want something serious, stop forcing girls to date you and start dating women your own age. You're being SO naive, self centered, and dumb, tbh.

Go ahead and victimize yourself, pin blame on her, etc. YOU'RE the one who pushed for this to happen by pressuring a kid into a relationship with a manchild.

Your entire story is so sadly obvious in what's happening. It's why you didn't get much Libra feedback, tbh.

Well, you are right that I ignored some obvious things simply because I was a little bit blinded, cause she attracted me pretty much, but I didn't wanted just to bang her. Many wants her just for sex, and they are right, cause they can see from her behavior what kind of girl she is.

She said that she isn't for that kind of fun, and that she rarely cheat while drunk, but I know that it is suspicious, and I mostly do not believe very much.
She was with a guy which was my age, for 9 months (that insecure and possesive guy), and never cheated him, he was reading all her fb messages regularly, and I don't know how that was fine to her, and she lasted with him that much. She dumped him because of that, after that time.

And I know that younger girls are usually for fun, abd older guys just use them for that, and then they are head over heels for those guys, BUT, it is not rare that girls of her age, and even those that are 16, have longer relationships,so it really depends. I know one guy that is 11 years older than his wife, and they were together for 20 years, and she was 20 when they started. So it all depends.

I didn't pushed her for a relationship, I just wanted to meet her. After that, she was after me, and texted me always first. But as I said, I noticed everything that you said,but as I'm rarely that attracted to some girl,I choosed to ignore those signs. And yes, she called me also a manchild. But sagittarius man is partly like that, and can be also naive sometimes.

She just isn't for a relationship, no matter what she says that she wants. She also said that she doesn't care about love that much, and said that she will find some rich husband when the time comes, to spend his money, and that she will not work. Maybe it was a joke, but libra girls are certanly materialistic, and very flirty.

The chemistry between Sag and Libra is undeniable...but in this case, it is the things that I mentioned.