So, how do I end this?

I met this libra guy November 2010 via FB. We used to communicate several times a day. Of course he was and still is adding numerous girls on FB and he doesn't know them.

We've had our ups and downs and he has deleted me off FB a couple times because of arguments we've had.

The last time he deleted me, I told him it's obvious he has no interest in me. A week later he added me back but he has become so distant and cold. I want to move on from him asap. My mind is telling me to move on and delete him from him FB and have no contact with him. There's nothing there for me to tell he cares. Im sure if I delete him he won't even notice.

The last argument I told him not to contact me and delete my number. Of course he did....

I know nothing will come from this. I've been putting the decision off and I need to walk away before I lose my mind.

Our synastry report is pretty good. Me 8/25/80 & him 9/30/76.

We are not talking like we used to. We've made out but no sex.

What's the best way to move on? I don't think he'll ever come around like he used to.

First off if your a virgo...YAYY! WE in the same boat...except vise-versa im a libra female and he's the virgo male...(smh~sigh) anyway, if a libra doesn't care it pretty much shows even when we try to hide it to protect your feelings. But after reading your description of how he's treating you..he's doesnt even do that so. Just keep it moving...becuz he clearly already has..

^^^^ that's what I thought. He's not hurting my feels. I just don't want to come off as a bitch especially since he added me back on FB but I know the best decision is to walk away completely. I like upfront and honest people. Don't just add me to feel better about yourself and then ignore me.

It that "what if" that is keeping me....

yu right...so to really kick him to the curb yu can delete him. I deleted my ex becuz fb reminds yu of that person everytime his face showed up on my homepage i was pissed...so i simply deleted him...ahh, all better =D lol

U don't need to end it...he did it 4 u...and if u need some closure...u can't have it from a Libra...move on my dear...trust me...I've been there, done that...

No, FB isn't important. We always communicate via phone and texting or thru work emails. The issue is that he has not been talking to me at all but finds time to add these random females as friends.

I've since unfriended him and have moved on. I feel better. I have not contacted him. He did send a text saying "hi cutie" two days after I unfriended him to which I did not respond. I'm no longer playing his games.

Awww bless your little Virgo heart... but you should avoid Libra guys, for your own sanity.

Libras ARE flirts. Libras DO chat up random females. Libra guys tend to have more female friends than male ones, including ALL their exes. Sure, some Libras are cheating douchebags.. but I daresay with most of them, the flirting is just mental stimulation. They need space, they pull away to balance themselves again.

If you have a big ol' jealous bone, it's gonna drive you nuts. (You have some Scorp in you, maybe?)

"The last argument I told him not to contact me and delete my number. Of course he did...."

You guys seem to be stuck in this push-pull game playing mode.. fight, make up, re-add, fight, delete, make up, re-add. It's exhausting, esp to a peace-loving Libra. (Why isn't it exhausting YOU? Why do you two DO this??) And when he's not giving you enough attention, instead of discussing it with him rationally, you stalk his FB page and see that he's adding a bunch of other women.. so your jealousy spikes and you start feeling all snarly. Bad combo.

Anyway.. he's pretty typical of a Libra guy (esp young ones.. I figure you guys are young, with all the FB flirting and fights and deleting/re-adding shit).. so Leebs are probably not your best bet.

^^Let's see.. they've been chatting for 3 months, mostly FB and text and phone, maybe hung out a few times... made out but nothing more serious... so they aren't a couple, dunno WHAT to call them.. flirt-buddies?.. not even bf/gf but she's getting all jealous and shit over women he adds on effing FACEBOOK?!!

Cuz really, if you aren't an exclusive couple in a committed relationship, you've got no business concerning yourself with who he adds/talks to on FB - even if they all look like wild party girls and total sluts, even if he's flirting and talking with them.. He's not your boyfriend!! Actually, with a Libra, he wouldn't even take kindly to his woman telling him who he is and is not allowed to talk to, period.

Oh, btw.. flipping your shit and getting all bitchy and jealous and starting a bunch of drama is one fantastic way to drive a Libra away, no joke. If you aren't satisfied with the current level of attention, it's on you to effectively communicate your feelings and needs in a mature way, without expecting him to be a mind-reader and just figure out what you want without you telling him. (Though he may be unwilling/unable to actually give you what you want.. if he doesn't meet your clearly expressed needs, LEAVE.) Acting like a crazy isn't going to get you what you want. When YOU feel jealous, insecure, lonely.. that's on YOU to fix in a constructive way.. YOUR emotions are not HIS responsibility, they're YOURS. And every time you put it on a man to fix your emotions cuz you can't handle them yourself.. you push/drive him away.

Wait... 1976 and 1980? Y'all are in your 30's and playing these childish games?? Back and forth with the high school bullshit? Get in a fight and tell the other to delete your ass.. then get mad they do? WTF?

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Hi Nefer....thanks for your comments. I really appreciate it. To be honest, I'm not jealous at all. I don't mind him adding friends and having conversations with other females. It's expected. We're not exclusive.

The issue is that he's being contradictory. One minute it's ok and then nothing. As you've stated it's very childish on both our part. It's not something I want to deal with. This is not how I want to get to know him. We've actually talked about it in an adult manner but still nothing.

I just think ending all contact is best.

I do have scorpio somewhere in my chart but my moon is in aquarius, Venus in cancer and mars in libra. He's a libra with moon in capricorn, venus in scorpio and mars in libra.

I also want to add that I've confronted him about other people or females on Facebook because it's not my place. It's just an observation I made. I actually like my space. I don't smother anyone. I don't stalk his page but being a virgo I don't really miss much. I'm not emotional. As a matter of fact, I've been told the complete opposite.

I guess the issue is that if someone says they're so interested in someone then at least put some effort towards it. That's all. He's free to do whatever. I go by actions and his says he's not interested and so I've decided to move on.

I also want to add that I've confronted him about other people or females on Facebook because it's not my place. It's just an observation I made. I actually like my space. I don't smother anyone. I don't stalk his page but being a virgo I don't really miss much. I'm not emotional. As a matter of fact, I've been told the complete opposite.

I guess the issue is that if someone says they're so interested in someone then at least put some effort towards it. That's all. He's free to do whatever. I go by actions and his says he's not interested and so I've decided to move on.

Mmmm on the contrary.. I didn't think "How do I leave a guy I'm just chatting with who keeps deleting me?" to be an actual, serious question. So obviously it was metaphorical, having more to do with her "stuck" feelings on him and her wanting to leave but wanting to stay.

Of course I'm going to point out HER contributions to the problem.. she's the only one here, and the ONLY one she has any control over. I could give a long laundry list of things HE needed to be doing better, won't help her. Why? Cuz she has no control over what HE does, only over what SHE does. My "harsh" words were to get her to look at the relationship objectively, to decide if it's really what she WANTS in her life, to enable her to get "unstuck"... the push-pull and the games are an unhealthy dynamic, and paying so much attention to who a guy adds on FB when you aren't exclusive (or even really dating at all) can definitely give the wrong impression. If the behaviors she found herself doing are out of character for her, then something about their dynamic is bringing it out. If she's always like this, that's going to affect future relationships as well and might be something she'll want to look into so she can figure out why.

Guys aren't dumb, they can FEEL when a woman is playing push-pull delete-me games for a reaction... they can FEEL when a woman he maybe likes and hung out with a few times, is getting all emo-twisted about what he is doing (on FB) and is NOT doing (with her)... you say you aren't jealous, that it's just that he has no time for YOU, but all this time for others.. umm.. that's still jealousy, and still a valid feeling. And FEELINGS are never wrong, only what you choose to do and react to might be either good (helpful) or bad (unhelpful).. jealousy is only bad when it gets inside your head and makes you FEEL BAD, makes you start acting out, makes you tell him off.

YOU should be so busy in your life that you have NO TIME to notice what a non-boyfriend is doing when he's not with you. Noticing just messes with your own feelings and shows in your vibe, in how it feels to be and interact with you, and it's just an ego-stroke to a guy who isn't committed to you BUT ALSO makes him feel pressured and pull away from you, creating drama.

If he wants to talk to you and pursue you and spend time with you, and that's what you want too, great. But until HE steps up and does HIS job.. he's just another guy on FB. Keep it moving.

that relationship ended quick, you need to just let him go, even if he is sensing what you are doing, he has no hopes of taking it farther than it already is. Dont put weight on him adding you again, we are not that spiteful where we wont add you, but you wont get much after that


if u did, good for you but if a relationship is that bothersome that early, then that should be a sign for you

This is being taken out of context. First, I deleted him permanently a week ago after looking at all aspects and arriving at the conclusion that nothing will ever come from this. There's been two other deletes in which he first deleted me in the very beginning because I took too long to respond to a message I didn't see. I asked him about it which I thought was funny and he said something must be wrong with Facebook to which I stated I would have a lot of respect for him if he admitted he did it on purpose. He admitted he Did and we went on from there. The second time he had a temper tantrum and deleted me. I never said anything to him about it. I would answer his calls and emails and texts and never said anything about it. A couple weeks later he sent a friends request and I accepted and never said anything about it.

So he's the one deleting and readding. We were dating but nothing serious. I never once mentioned anything to him about Facebook. I've given him his space. I don't contact him unless he contacts me.

Bottom line, I no longer care. I've deleted him and have cut all communication with him. I don't respond to his texts. Even this morning he texts "happy valentines day even though you no longer speak".

I just want to know if avoiding his texts and calls is enough for him to get the message or do I need to say something specific.

"Please stop calling and texting me. Best of luck to you. Bye." is a great response.

Ignoring will make him try harder (at least for awhile) because suddenly he can't have you. Which is great for the ego, but wreaks havoc on your emotions when you liked a guy.. esp when you liked a guy who wasn't giving you much attention, and now he's suddenly chasing you.

So unless you want to risk him hooking you again with his charming ways (Leebs haha), best to flat out tell him to stop, and stand firm, DO NOT buy into responding further, no matter what he says to get a reaction out of you.

Posted by QuietSt0rm
It seems like nobody really answered your question for you, they just wanted to tell you what you were doing wrong etc. LOL

Your sentence said it all..

"I know nothing will come from this."

So why continue wasting time?? You're a level-headed logical Virgo who is well aware this isn't working for you, regardless of WHY he's doing it. You're burnt out and this isn't *fun* anymore. After only 3 months and you guys are already push/pulling, you're absolutely right it's not going to work and his wishy washy ass will drive you insane. No point in trying to figure him out or trying to involve yourself deeper.

I personally have to quit a man cold turkey. I don't really give a shit if that makes me appear cold. LOL Especially if I'm not being fulfilled or if the guy hurt me etc. But if you're concerned about him thinking you're a bitch, just tell him straight up exactly what you told us. That it's obvious that nothing good is going to come of it. That's not being bitchy, that's just being real with yourself. If you see that already, only 3 months in.. why waste anymore time? He's a big boy I'm sure he can take it.

THIS