traits of a libra and a leo are too similar?

i'm a leo and the girl i've taken an interest in, is a libra??_i've been reading up on their traits and how they are so compatible and have discovered that our traits are so alike. ??_.but if this is the case, isnt it hard for us to work out? especially since we run hot/cold and have the potential to give up when there's no longer the chase/thrill?

so feel free to disagree/agree with the following:

- i tend to do the hot/cold thing to the person when i get scared or need to reassess a relationship/situation
- when i get angry or jealous, i get moody and keep it in me, and when asked, i may come up with the lame excuse that i'm just tired or i just come off cold n distant
- i love the chase but yet when i get what i want too easily i tend to let it go
- when my relationships are totally working perfectly, i cant bail on it but i tend to take an interest in a new potential and setup the next relationship
- when i am neglected, i tend to cheat as a way to even it out or to get revenge
- i am there for my loved ones and close friends no matter rain or shine
- i love to be touchy/feely in a relationship; love cuddling and having some sort of physical contact when talking intimately
- i love to debate
- the more the other side retreats, the more i love to get close; it makes me want more if they give less
- value some alone time from time to time
- i love helping others and maintaining peace


here's where i find we are different, i am:

- NOT flakey, when i say i be right back in an online chat etc. i will surely be back in a few min and not keep the other side waiting for 2 - 3 hrs!
- not shy and open up right away
- say what's on my mind most of the times, not too reserved
- less analytical whether someone is right for me, if there's chemistry, i just go for it!
- not afraid of being alone

just wondering if some of u libra girls agree this could be too much of a good thing, that with similar traits, leos/libras tend to get bored of each other rather too quickly. BTW, both of us have venus - VIRGOS. Ideally, I would want to be with someone who will be there thru thick and thin no matter how we age and end up looking??_to me it's not just about beauty, it's also inner beauty that perseveres. i want a "rock" and not another half that just flakes out on me if shit hits the fan.

And what keeps you libra girls spellbound in a relationship for the longest time? so that u dont get bored?
any advice would be cool. thanks!

- when my relationships are totally working perfectly, i cant bail on it but i tend to take an interest in a new potential and setup the next relationship

No, not true for me. It doesnt make sense. Why would I be looking elsewhere if Im happy? It's the time I feel like I can take on the world and I can deal with anything. My partner inspires me.

- when i am neglected, i tend to cheat as a way to even it out or to get revenge

There is no honor in this. I'd rather get out of that relationship than cheat. Revenge is not a leeb trait.

- NOT flakey, when i say i be right back in an online chat etc. i will surely be back in a few min and not keep the other side waiting for 2 - 3 hrs!

I do that unintentionally sometimes when im busy. I tend to forget to reply. If im not too interested in the person, i dont usually care if i forget them.

- not afraid of being alone
Not true for me either. I need my solitude or i'd go crazy if im surrounded by people all the time. Even from loved ones i need my alone time and space.

- the more the other side retreats, the more i love to get close; it makes me want more if they give less

When someone retreats, i give them their alone time. I won't ever chase them. Leebs arent hunters they just lurk. I'll be there right where u left me.

I will re-phrase it the way it fits me and my needs. I don't want 100% all the time when it comes to attention or communication. For communication, I like being teased or filling the 10% with my imagination. Make love with my mind, you get to my heart, you get the whole me.

I dont want attention all the time either, i need to miss you too. I'd feel overwhelmed if you're always into me. Again, I need my space.

Sorry i couldnt put them all in one post. Im using my phone right now.

SORRY GUYS??_.i meant when relationships ARENT working out??_.LOL??_.

Sounds like typical leo traits here...I dont know Libras to be this way.

@AesmaDaeva
Thanks for taking the time to type this on your phone??_,??_from what i read before, i am guessing librans can potentially get bored when they are casually dating but they wont get bored with the ones in a serious relationship??_i guess that's when the hot/cold being all distant happens? thanks about the comment on "I dont want attention all the time either, i need to miss you too. I'd feel overwhelmed if you're always into me. Again, I need my space", i think that clarifies how i also think??_and i can work with that and understanding her and myself.

@ size Zero superhero
sometimes i do find myself not knowing to go left or right??_i also feel i contradict myself??_i've been telling myself i just havent found the right one all along..., dated a whole bunch of water signs, that was very turbulent times and they were very "needy"??_this is the first time i've found a libra. Doing the revenge thing, to be frank that was twice in my lifetime and i aint proud of it... but i've come to terms with what i did wrong??_definitely that part is more of a leo than a libra thing; but then i've read some librans doing that, to balance their relationships??_??


again, thanks for the feedback.

I never really dated. Haha but yes, i get bored easily. I'll stick with u if i find something fascinating or extremely interesting about you. You gotta have something that stands out about you because i'm interested in getting to know anyone. So for me to even consider you as a potential mate, you gotta have something about you that'd want me to analyze you more and scrutinize you. - take note of that, a mate for life; my future husband and not a date for free food or lame ass sex. That's why I don't date. I want to find that connection I'm yearning for.

A person on the same wavelength as me is crucial not just intellectually but emotionally and physically as well. We gotta want the same things in life. I'm not talking about mere interests, that can vary. What I want is someone who places importance on stuff I want in life too like not having a kid, wanting to travel occasionally, no religion, loving animals, building a life together, finding a career he will love instead of just doing it for the money because we can always adjust our life style according to what we can afford so I choose that over being 'successful'. Success is very subjective anyway. I cant call a miserable and stressed out person that's loaded with money an actual success if you're not happy with your life anyway. What's the point in that? Security is an illusion. It can all be taken away at the blink of an eye. What I value is someone who can rise above any challenges and never giving up.

but then i've read some librans doing that, to balance their relationships??_?? Only an idiot would do that and someone emotionally retarded. "you hurt me so i'll hurt you back!" Even some kids are smart enough not to do that. That is BENEATH me. I won't stoop that low. Revenge are for lame ass people. It doesnt accomplish anything other than propagating more hatred and negativity.

thx again.

questions libra ladies .... so u all would give up a life of luxury to be wth your soul mate correct?
wat AesmaDaeva mentioned about adjusting the life style to be with a loved one. does that hold true for all u libras.
This girl I know...her background is definitely more than well off...n I am a little put off by it... how can I provide for a life style she is accustomed to...?

I have also honestly told her about my past relationships n my faults...she hasnt freaky commented but I guess since she still loves talking to me can I assume she forgives n understds?

I know she has slowly become an important addition in my life... really calming my temperment....n I have tried to boost her self confidence n doing my best to be also as a good friend... the most important thing I learnt is not to change her becoz we should fall in love for them n not for wat we want them to become for us.

if theres anything I need to improve on to be in sync wth the libra....I love to hear. its not about winning her heart, that should come naturally...I just want to understand how they work so our relationship can b alot smoother.

This girl I know...her background is definitely more than well off...n I am a little put off by it... how can I provide for a life style she is accustomed to...?

~It's best to ask her about it. I've lived a life of luxury and poverty and both didn't really make much of a difference to me. When we were well off, I used that to help others. When we were poor, I still shared what I can. Wheels within wheels, Mavi. The wheel keeps turning and we all have something to learn from it.

I have also honestly told her about my past relationships n my faults...she hasnt freaky commented but I guess since she still loves talking to me can I assume she forgives n understds?

~There is nothing to forgive unless you did hurt her but to just talk about the past and your mistakes, we all have that. No one has the right to judge. It all happens for a reason.

I know she has slowly become an important addition in my life... really calming my temperment....n I have tried to boost her self confidence n doing my best to be also as a good friend... the most important thing I learnt is not to change her becoz we should fall in love for them n not for wat we want them to become for us.

~It's good that you realize we can't mold people into our liking. What you can do is to inspire them to be the best version of themselves by encouraging them. It's okay to point out flaws/shortcomings if you provide solutions or alternatives. Criticizing someone just for the sake of it is useless. It only propagates resentment.

Things important for leebs in a relationship are being friends, open communication, being supportive, not so clingy, say what you mean and mean what you say, giving them space esp when there's an argument, letting them have alone time, be considerate about how others feel, be careful with your words - you can express yourself without being deliberately hurtful.

This might help too. It's a beautiful article and might help you understand Libras better.

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2013/10/what-it-means-to-love-a-libra/

@Mavi, AesmaDaeva pretty much summed up the usual traits of a Libra. Couldn't explain it any better than that. She HIT THE NAIL RIGHT ON TOP OF THE HEAD! When a Libra....female...anyway...finds the right one, all bets are off. They will stick with their lover through thick and thin and have no problem making adjustments of any kind within reason. We generally don't seek revenge because we whole heartedly believe in Karma. What goes around, comes around and Karma is something that scares the hell out of me, so I've always tried to do right by everyone, and I do mean everyone. Even the one's that have let me down. I just step away and let life happen. We are not perfect by any means and we have the same anger and spite just like the next person, but how we handle ourselves maybe a little different. As I've mentioned before, if you are relevant to us, you will see the side of Libra that very few folks get to see, but if your are irrelevant, then you're not worth the side show...lol. I think that's why so many folks think that Libra's are non caring, unemotional and aloof at times. We, for the most part, just pick out battles. Unnecessary drama is not something that we crave or have to be a part of our lives as it is for some signs. We're just built that way..that's all. Everyone has to do what works for their personality.

WOW...THANK U LADIES

@Aesmadaeva ...thx for putting things into perspective for me... the way u summarized everything really untied a knot n made me not fear but rather accept/embrace libras good n bad. I have conveyed to her wats important to me in our beginning friendship is respect n no lies...bcoz I know libras try to appease others by telling small white lies..I told her I accept her as she is... no need to pls me...just b yourself. I think that has really helped let her guard down n so she is sharing with me lot more of her way of thinking.

I have read that article 2 weeks ago..its been very helpful. thx I will reread.

@lib4life....thx also for responding... the thing about relevant vs irrelevant..yes..agree..totally her...in the beginning I did suspect librasto be emotionally out of tune but in fact they just are very selective who they show emotions to. I guess libras are always on cruise control.. something I think leos should take a lesson in. we r often impulsive n anxious...but I guess the process is just as important as getting to the destination!

I thank all of u..n hope u all have found your love too!