Twinflame2

Hello to all past friends, and to the new ones I hope to make stilll. I am back!

TW2

Welcome back my friend! You truly have been missed. Is all well with you these days?
I remember awhile ago you had some "stuff" going on that was pretty intense...just checking to see how you are.

The Bird

Well hello there, you must be one of them dreamy libras, right?

hi

Hi Freebird and Candlegirl,

I wish there were more I could write to you about that would be good news to share, but alas there is not! I have met someone that I felt was a pretty good guy, but am not so sure anylonger. We met in May and just started living together due to finalcial reasons as much as anything. Anyway this guy is very controlling I have come to realize in a not so healthy way and I am not sure what to do about it.

He wants to go with me everywhere I need to go (no matter where). and cant seem to handle being apart at all (and it scares me). He calls my cell phone about every fifteen minutes or less until I return. He lets me know he is unhappy if I am taking to long and gets angry about it. When I have to leave he tries to set a time limit that I should be able to meet no matter where I have to go. I cant even go visit my sister, or stay with my mom very long to help her without problems. He wants to be attached at the hip, and keeps me on a chain when without me.

Please help me figure out the best way to end this situation without things getting possibly dangerous for me if you could. Any advise would be appreciated my friends as it seems I have met another real ass hole. Thought he was a pretty great guy for the first few months, but now I am seeing another side to him that I dont like at all.

Please help me figure this out and set myself free from this crazy situation, I am a little scared that I have a fatal attraction thing going here, and maybe he just wont let me go at all.

TW2

Hi Twinflame2,

Sorry to hear about your situation and I thought I'd respond. I am a social worker and work alot with abuse victims. Your situation is typical of a extremely abusive man. He is at this time grooming you for the abuse and if you dont get out soon it could be very dangerous for you. Im quite sure he was one of the most charming men you have ever met and made you feel so beautiful and special. Then they make you feel very protected and safe. From there the control comes in and they slowly seperate you from your loved ones and friends. Usually it is very subtle and you wake up one day and wonder what the h*** happened. These men are very smooth and once they seperate you from the people in your life, the physical abuse usually starts. That is also subtle, with a shove or push the first few times to let you know who is boss and somehow you feel like you deserved it. It just gets worse and when you do leave be prepared for him to begin stalking you. Depends on the man but that is the usual. Take care sweetie and get out while you can, you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, dont wait till he strips you of your self esteem. The longer you stay the harder it is to get out. If you need assistance and dont have family to help, call your local battered womens shelter for referrals and advice. You dont need to have been beaten for them to help you out and give you the advice you need. They are very use to dealing with this kind of thing. Good luck and let me know if I can do anything.

Sunshine...

Twinflame,

First of all, congrats on KNOWING that you are in a very unhealthy situation. Of course we WILL do the best that we can to help you however, it us up to YOU sweetie to take the action for change.

I am going to recommend and incredible site for you to explore to gain the knowledge that you need...

www.drirene.com this just may save your soul, your self-worth and your life!

We are with you....find your strength.
Freebird

Thanks for the advise everyone, I will take it to heart. Don't worry to much I am a very strong person with a very protective family behind me. This person does not know quite what to make of me because I point out his behavior as being just what it is when it happens. I also have already let him know that I am tired of the games and feel it is in my best interest to extract myself from this relationship.

I dont know what will happen next but, my family is ready to come move him out if needed. So what happens from there only time can tell. I am not the kind of person to be put under anyones thumb like this period and will fight back with everything I have to gain my freedom from the abuse. I am simply to wise to fall for the bull crap this guy is trying on me. It makes me very angry in fact that he thinks he can get away with what he is trying to do. I see through it like a cheap shirt, and know I dont deserve anything close to what he is pulling.

Ill let you know how it goes ok, and could I please get more information about what happens when a person is being stalked? As I will need to try to protect myself from this if it does happen.

Thanks,

TW2

Thanks kennyg,

I appreciate the offer to help, but it has been handled. The guy is already out, it was done the day after I posted above. So no need to worry to much at this point, but I love ya for the support you sent my way.

I am going to keep my guard up though regarding the stalking thing for quite awhile as he may do just that. So all is ok for now, but thanks to all that responded to my post.

tw2

Oh and one more thing to concerned friends, I have already told this guy many times that I do not tollerate anyone putting their hands on me period. And that I left my first marriage for that very reason (and it only happened once).

I also informed him that all he would gain himself is a one way ticket to jail as I would not hesitate to put him there. And that if I could not put him there, I have other measures that can be taken to make sure I was left alone. (and I do). Like I said I have a very supportive and protective family (with three big brothers)hah! And they would not hesitate to give him a stiff warning or lesson if needed.

bye all.
tw2

Gosh TW2!

I no wonder you have been away from us so long...Good to hear this has been resolved. Abusive relationships are very tricky...I was in one a couple of years ago he was terrible except he wasn't so subtle in his approach.

I wish you the best of luck in finding a man who will appreciate the beautiful soul that you are!

CL/CM2

Thanks again to all my friends here at Duncanville for sending your concern my way. I am happy and well at this point in time, and plan to stay just that way. It's real good to be back, I missed all of you so very much.

**TW2**Does a little dance of joy✨**!🙂