What if?

If your boyfriend or girlfriend's mother called you a horrible name, would you get mad a yell at her or just walk away?

oooh....that is such a sticky situation.

Let me tell you a short but true story. My boyfriend's father who is I believe in his 60's (to whom my bf is now estranged--they don't speak) seemed like an okay guy, if a bit gruff, when I first met him 3 years ago. Scorpio, btw. Anyway, I liked him, and was *exceedingly* nice to him. I mean, above and beyond. I was always very polite to him, never was disrespectful in any way. I thought he liked me too. Nobody's parents have ever not liked me. lol. Not being conceited, that's the god's honest truth. I am always very respectful and friendly to them, that's all. Anyway, I thought his dad and I got along great. Until one day, when my boyfriend said he was pissed at his dad for something. Well, me being one of those people who has to find out the truth, I asked him why, but he didn't want to tell me. That was my first clue. I said, "it's about me, isn't it". "Yes, but he just says things to get to me, it isn't really about you." I said, "I don't care why he said it, I want to know what was said." He told me that his dad had called me a ditsy blonde. I was furious, because that is SO not who I am, and coming from a man who knew very little about me, coupled with the fact that I went out of my way to please him and be in good favor with him, I was deeply hurt by that comment. From that day forward, I have never once returned to my bf's parents' house. I don't like his father's wife, either (not my bf's biological mom). I will never forgive his dad for that. I just thought it was such a crappy thing to say about someone who tried to be really nice.

Ugh. Bad memories. But to answer your question, I would be hurt and infuriated if that happened, so I would more than likely just stay away after that. Because if I ever let myself go off on that person, I would be afraid of my sharp tongue.

Sorry to write a book. lol.

Kill with kindness...that really pisses them off. (and doesn't give them any ammo to use against you)

I have used that tactic before Lawgoddess...it can really work...

But, as far as the original question...this never happened to me (that I know of)...something may have been said behind my back...that I am not aware of though!

After my divorce...(years after), I still resided in the same area..one day, a person told me that my former mother-in-law was really hurt by the fact that I hated her. I had been avoiding her out of what I considered to be respect..
I went to the business she owned to talk to her in person. We hugged, talked, laughed, cried...it was very touching. She told me I would always be one of her daughters in her eyes...

Anyway...that is the memory the question triggered for me..