Virgo moon selfishness

I dont mean this to be rude and I know you Virgo moons have a hard time handling the cold hard truth and constructive critism, how is it that when you do some thing wrong you need to point out other peoples problems? I have two Virgo moons in my life right now who have not taken my constructive critism lightly and have turned to try and stab at me. Example: I pointed out that she needs to do her dishes so the house won't stink and as I got up leaving my dinner plate on the table to come back and finish after a smoke she gets on my case about it. You cant be defensive over silly things like that your not perfect no one is so why try to spot light some one on something so small to make yours look like nothing. Kinda seems like a dick move, put your big boy pants on where all here to help each other.

I feel like I take criticism well. Unless you have an ungodly tone... ooo those nasty tones get me going. give me a tone and I will lash back at you. or if it seems like you are talking down to me. i don't like that either. anything that seems like you are attacking ME and not trying to HELP, I will lash back.

I grew up musically and my teacher was Bulgarian so he was a very serious man in other words. Once he took my book, threw it on the ground and told me to practice one section 100 times until I got it right because it sounded terrible. I was about 12 so I got a little emotional internally but I knew he meant well. That's my favorite story to tell! He was hard on me, and I knew the end result would be good. So....as for "all Virgo moons" not being able to take criticism, I think you are completely wrong. I like to learn and for people to help me try to live better. I think it enlightens me because I can develop and evolve.

My Aries best friend is blunt and tells me when I have an ugly outfit on and to go change LOL. I don't even care. She's HELPING. I don't want to look like a train wreck when I leave. She tells me to clean my room because its a mess and I say "I'll get to it eventually" and laugh about the mess it is. Then I tell her "this room describes my life: it's falling apart at the seams" LMFAO 😄

Posted by PV&Jellay
Damn virgo moon is getting a lot of attention as of late. It must be our season.

LOL right!

@PHV25 I didn't read your full post at first (too lazy - lol) but I agree in that I hold in my criticism so when people are constantly berating me yet I hold in what I think they need to correct then I do get defensive and blow up. Granted this normally takes quite a bit of time. You have to realllllyyyyyy be annoying for me to get to that point.

Plus I'm pretty soft-spoken and hate hurting people's feelings even if they hurt mine. But if they push it beyond the limit...yikes. It can get ugly depending on the situation and what they were criticizing.

How is that selfish, though?

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
How is that selfish, though?

I was wondering that myself lol. maybe selfish because we don't consider what others are trying to do by using constructive (or not constructive at all) criticism? But I think I take criticism well....it doesn't really bother me unless I can sense that the other person is trying to berate me or make me feel bad about what it is that I have done/am doing. Constructive criticism is fine. It's those nasty critical people that put themselves on a nonexistent pedestal that get me going and I let them have my attitude right back.

I LIVE for CONSTRUCTIVE criticism. Help me be a better me.

Sorry guys I left out a lot. She got drunk and neglected her kid at the park and after me and her sis were trying to get her baby away from her she called us names and because me and her sister tried to tell her to be care full with her kid she picked him up by his head. I called her mother who came over and got her grnadson from my Virgo moon friend. She brought up all the nastiest things she could find to throw at her mother because her mother called her out on her immature behavior. This is just the little bits of it. Besides never doing her dishes or cleaning her house and after a few weeks getting pissy about a plate. You do the math. This woman can do no wrong.

As by reading most of your replies I can see how serious and furious you get about things that could be handled in a more peaceful perhaps less dramatic way. Y'all proved my point

What's the Sun sign?

That's what you're viewing the Moon through, imo.

Soo... the behaviour of that moon will vary.

This sounds like a WHOLE Chart scenario, tbh.

who is being furious? lol

sounds like she has some Merc and Mars influence in there, not just the moon.

Posted by degenerate_ingenue
who is being furious? lol

sounds like she has some Merc and Mars influence in there, not just the moon.

I know her mars is in Aquarius...dont know. Not caring bout it, moving...

Posted by Montgomery
What's the Sun sign?

That's what you're viewing the Moon through, imo.

Soo... the behaviour of that moon will vary.

This sounds like a WHOLE Chart scenario, tbh.

Her sun is Aries... Got a Pisces venus. Leo asc. Aquarius mars

Posted by downstairsmixup
I dont mean this to be rude and I know you Virgo moons have a hard time handling the cold hard truth and constructive critism, how is it that when you do some thing wrong you need to point out other peoples problems? I have two Virgo moons in my life right now who have not taken my constructive critism lightly and have turned to try and stab at me. Example: I pointed out that she needs to do her dishes so the house won't stink and as I got up leaving my dinner plate on the table to come back and finish after a smoke she gets on my case about it. You cant be defensive over silly things like that your not perfect no one is so why try to spot light some one on something so small to make yours look like nothing. Kinda seems like a dick move, put your big boy pants on where all here to help each other.

I know your intentions were good, however, she probably looked at it as "who are you to tell her to clean her house?"
Unless she asks for suggestions (such as how to make her house smell better), I'd keep my suggestions to myself in the future.
And personally, if someone's house smells that bad, I sure don't want to be eating anything made in it. I'd keep the visits to the porch or meet elsewhere.

- Just sayin'

Posted by PotHeadVirgo25
She's probably annoyed that you bother her about stupid shit. A lot of the times when I wanna go mad critical on someone about anything, I always ask myself is it worth it? To get on this persons nerve, piss them off, lose a friend/family member due to escalation? Over something trivial? So most likely I won't harass them about it until I know for sure I'm ready to go all the way like full Hulk mode to back it up..

Now, turning the fucking tables, does this person give a fuck about how insignificant something is to me? Basically do they know how to not pick and stab at someone about stupid shit? You could argue that "you" in particular find this situation horrid so someone must be held responsible. However, the pickiest of the pickiest (Virgo moon) doesn't say shit to you about shit they get 100 degrees about that you do because that person knows it's just some OCD ish behavior that will coincide later. Not even worth mentioning. Throw it on the back burner 50,000 times. So, why the fuck must the opposition be what I choose not to be for eternity—

And then start bitchin and moanin about what I'm not doing on a consistent basis? Well, If you can do it, so can I. Which is probably why she got on your case after you got on hers. All that shit she let go and THIS is what you're complaining about? Her nagging you back leads you to believe she's only doing it to save face because she knows you're right and hell, maybe she does think you're correct. Nonetheless, being correct about whether or not the dishes should be washed is not the point of her back arguing. She's trying to make a point that only quantity of time can prove because otherwise it just sounds childish. You have to get thee almighty epiphany.

The bottom line here is that y'all have to come to some sort of agreement when it comes to these situation stations and it should have already been done but I will pardon the fact that she's not a full Virgo and doesn't think these things through. Instead, in her mind, its you don't nag her about stupid shit and she will do the same, but cross that line and there will be no one to save you.

Well said. You gave me some points to ponder on. I've always wondered why my aqua with virgo moon never calls me out on my crap (not that I pull a lot of crap on him, b

Posted by downstairsmixup

Posted by degenerate_ingenue
who is being furious? lol

sounds like she has some Merc and Mars influence in there, not just the moon.

I know her mars is in Aquarius...dont know. Not caring bout it, moving...

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Aquarius mars wants to be left alone to do their thing. We don't like being told what to. In fact, I will do the exact opposite just to prove a point that I won't be told what to do. (even if I know I'm wrong, though I'll never admit it). It's the rebellious aspect of that placement.