brooding/elevated gemini relationship with Pisces

When we connect, redlight ... it is always that deep. And I have to tell you something as well .. when we dis-connect, the cord is completely severed. We don't hold onto feelings after we swim away.

However, that doesn't mean we can't re-connect on a different level with the same person ....


The first thing you need to do though, before you even attempt to re-connect with him, is sort your feelings out .... because a part of you is saying you only want to be friends with him, while the other is saying that you want back the love you had. If you approach him with these mixed feelings .. you'll give him mixed signals and that will confuse this even further.


On a positive side ... Pisces people are perfectly capable of being very close friends with their exes. In fact, most of us are. So, when the time comes that you are able to sort out how you feel ... he will probably be delighted to be mates.

The ladies gave you some good advice. The only thing I say is please, please, please just enjoy your life. You don't want to look back and realize you spent too much time brooding over this guy. I was in love at 17 as well. Thank god it didn't work out. You have a lot to learn and there will be PLENTY more guys. PLEEEEENNNNTY. And you're a gemini too! Date around. I'm not trying to belittle your feelings at all. But if you don't have kids by this guy then he isn't worth your time. At 17 no guy is.

Single, sexy, & free. Listen to that Mya song and rock out. 17?!? Omg. I'm 24 and I don't have time to be tied down and brooding.

You should be at a selfish point in your life right now. If a guy is not adding to your happiness tell him to kick rocks!

"it was half fulfilled by myself before him but he filled the jug"


Redlight .. this part is what stands out in my mind, and what may be the very thing you need to think about to try and change your perspective a little.

Our jugs in life get slowly filled up with tiny drops of life-experiences .. every time we learn something new, it adds to our jug of wisdom. If a person believes that their jug is full ... then this means that we aren't allowing any more people or experiences to add their own personal touch by helping to fufill more portions of us.

I get the impression that you are believing that this man completed you, and we are never complete until we die ... we are a constant picture of life-experiences being painted.

If you have in your mind that he is the conclusion, he has filled your cup .... then you won't be able to have the ability to find any more stimulation in your life that you say you need. Try and change your perspective to think ... this man added some drops to my cup, and look what I have to gain from that? He didn't take any drops away, he added some quality to my life .... now, I must take these drops, shake the cup to get these experienced to blend with my own fulfillment of the cup and make a beautiful life to date ..... then embark on a journey to find more beautiful life-experiences to add to your cup of life for fulfillment.

Thank you all for your comments 🙂

My third post is a repeat and did not realise till now, so sorry bout that.


To bijou2u --> Yes I keep a journal, well more like a massive box bulging from scrap paper after scrap, my feelings scribbled out. But No, apart from delivering my coursework and passing my exams to get into university (trivial), no nothing I could pin point. However, I did have a coffee with a lovely Libran boy who fancies me/unrequited on his part and who is, well, very nice. He reminds me of my brother and alike we can spend hours on the phone laughing and being serious with each other (until now, I let him down gently), he has a car, a job, acceptance into Harvard, USA and Cambridge here in Britian?so his funny, deep and intelligent. BUT...there is always a but, I do not feel any spark, there is no magic something I had with my Piscean ex. I wouldn't lie I feel more comfortable with the Libra than the Pisces but I like difference and being kept on my toes. Or maybe now reviewing what I have said I can't let go, but I really don't know how to. It was never a 'bubble' as his mother kind of burst it, her husband left her for a Namibian woman and I really did feel like she thought I was taking her son away (not the case he reassured me) - not that we ever had a conversation (something I regret ? she came home very late from work)

I really do want to move forward which is why I have chosen a university 8 hours from my present residence- I just keep seeing him around and that nostalgic smell of the burnt out candle whiffs under my nose and when I look at him, I can see it in his oceanic eyes and his smile. But I want to see him, but obviously I can't handle it.

To P-Angel --> Again thank-you for your advice, I have seen many post of yours and do believe you have a balanced and caring approach that I was very wanting to receive.

?The first thing you need to do though, before you even attempt to re-connect with him, is sort your feelings out .... because a part of you is saying you only want to be friends with him, while the other is saying that you want back the love you had. If you approach him with these mixed feelings .. you'll give him mixed signals and that will confuse this even further.'

Haha, I believe I have already confused the dude, I have spoke to him plentiful afterwards and the feeling have been very mixed on my side, even yesterday. I bring him out by chatting about something we love or hate then jump him with a mixed emotion, which sends him into hiding. I know what I'm doing but I wish for a different response, but your right we have ?dis-connect[ed]'

I don't know if I could do friends even though I am aware that all I'm going to get, so therefore what I want. I think I need to give him space, a lot of it and prepare myself for one of the worst ? he moves on. I know he will eventually and I guess I have to too but I know I won't be able to handle it being so close (in location) yet so far, basically I need to go to university.

Having just read your second post, I need to explain I am a very in the moment person and feel things hard but for a short period, like bi-polar cept its not because I'm a hormonal teenager (I can accept that). So basically then and when I re-visit our time together I really do believe at this time of my life he rounded my semi-circle. Yes more experiences await and yes I intend and will learn from them but for now is a waiting game knowing that this boy ( I have yet to partner a man) gave me what I need at this time of my life and now, it's gone. In a way he was the conclusion to this chapter, but the words have dispersed before I even put pen to paper.

To leokitten--> I'm guessing you're a Leo. Same as my Mum who says the same, she thinks I should throw myself into my work or do some therapeutic art. I can't concentrate, I've always had a poor attention span unless it is something I am interested in or feel connected with, an excuse by many but I can't rationalise my feelings. I will pick myself up again and get on with things but all it takes is a whiff or an annoying reminder then I'm brooding and it's not even for answers.

To imitationoflyfe-->lol. And thank you. ?selfish' is hard to do purposefully. But I guess I could try

🙂 Lol, yes I want to go to that university and I say trivial because I know I will get the grades if I do the work,I was not implying university will be easy. I have wanted to be older since I could talk, I am ready to embrace my adulthood whole heartedly, if its coming, lets go. However I have to admit to myself there really is a difference from knowing and understanding. I wonder now too if I will accomplish and flourish in adulthood or have hang ups like this. I will do that exercise you have advised because the last time I did, I was ten and I'm sure I have changed my ideas. Thanks.

Lol redlight,

Sometimes a higher power can be causing what you deem as problems. A guy broke my heart at 17. I thought about him off and on for years. Wondering why why why. Time answers all questions. It will come to you.

I found out from the guys mother he has 3 kids by different women and he lives at home with her. Basically a loser. I spent the whole day thanking god for protecting me even when I didn't understand the threat. I felt like I dodged a bullet!

Enjoy life! Whatever is meant for you you will have. I keep telling myself I'm the universe's baby. Everything that happens is for the good even if you don't understand it now.

Ahhhh imitationoflyfe you make me laughhhhhhhh. Okay so i will live to fight and cry another day. I do not wish any sort of a future not even on my enemy; that dude with '3 kids by different women' because no doubt that is drama and agro...I want him to be happy. I think i will be fine because i have to bounce back for my own sake, i just feel so sullen all the damn time, it's like my heart aches. Unfortunately i do not believe in a higher power that intervenes in life/divine intervention.

Aww....

Glad ur smiling! When things get me down I just tell myself, "its life..nobody makes it out alive." Just do the best you can and rock ur life till the wheels fall off.

Live.love.laugh. Wash rinse and repeat that shyyt 4 ever.

thanx guys 🙂

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