Defense Mechanism... Complete disconnect/shutdown

Recently an ex cancer i dated for a year and half has been trying to rekindle things via mutal friends (asking them to contact me on his behalf as i've cut off all communication with him for about a yr.)

when we dated i was hopelessly and pathetically in love with him... i mean when i found out he cheated multiple times and realized the major credit card debit i'd accumulated, I was devasted for a good couple of months and so disappointed with myself

strangely, i have this weird defense mechanism where over a period of time (varies depending on the person) i mentally/emotionally convince myself i feel nothing for that person. once i do that i can never re-ignite those feelings again. i was surprised in this particular case because i have never cared for someone as much as I did this cancer and at the moment i feel no desire to talk to him or hear from him again... there's no resentment or residual bitterness, i simply am indifferent. This type of thing has happened (scorpio, taurus, & aqua) and each time the same result.... the come back wanting to try again, but when i saw each of them i felt absolutely nothing. this sucks because on the one occasion when i did want to give things i second go i just couldn't. there's a saying "donde fuego hubo, cenizas quedan (where fire once was, ashes remain) but it's like the wind blew the ashes away and there's no way to start that fire again hahah


do any other pisces share this same type of defense mechanism lol?

yes ... we all do

I do this all the time but I'd say most ppl do so yeh its like I really like someone and then they hurt me lots of times over time and after a while I just become numb to their BS ways and its like i wise up to there way of being and then think 'wtf was i thinking' and then get on with my life with not stressing over them any more. Become more happier too knowing they cant get at me anymore either. Its like a mental stress thats gone.

Posted by Capriquoise
I do this all the time but I'd say most ppl do so yeh its like I really like someone and then they hurt me lots of times over time and after a while I just become numb to their BS ways and its like i wise up to there way of being and then think 'wtf was i thinking' and then get on with my life with not stressing over them any more. Become more happier too knowing they cant get at me anymore either. Its like a mental stress thats gone.

that's a good way to put it about being happier knowing they can't hurt you anymore. it's like emotions are completely removed from the equation so you can approach it logically

Absolutely, this is one of the key traits of a Pisces, especially Pisces moons.

Excerpt from http://cafeastrology.com/articles/suninsigns_page2.html

"Pisces is a sensitive sign--both sensitive to criticism and sensitive to others' feelings. Easily touched by human suffering, at least in theory, Pisces wouldn't hurt a fly. They believe in people, are deeply hurt by compassionless human behavior, and have a hard time saying no. Harsh realities are avoided either through escapist behavior or self-delusion; but every now and again reality does raise its ugly head, and hits Pisces over the head. This is a sad time indeed. Pisces retreats into their own world, self-pitying and giving pep talks to themselves ("I will never trust again!"). Rest assured, though, that these periods are rather short-lived and even useful. Pisces seems to derive energy from their (generally short) bouts of self-pity. They come back stronger, with a spring in their step, ready to face the world again, and just as, if not more, compassionate and trusting as they were before. Some might even wonder if Pisces finds pleasure in suffering. Sometimes this is the case, but most of the time, Pisces pulls a lot of creative energy from sadness. Pisces is the poet or artist with angst, although this trait is often more apparent with Moon in Pisces."

Sorry, wasn't apparent in my post, but the emphasis was on "deeply hurt by compassionless human behavior," which would explain your reluctance to forgive him. The feelings of indifference is a decision to take the higher road and not resort to baser instincts, e.g. seeking revenge.