Destined for relationship failure?

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Undine
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Not sure what "14 years down the drain" are...Is that how you define former relationships?

Maybe your attitude is the place to start.

Otherwise, what's your problem (except unclarity)? Two long term (?) relationships in 14 years is probably the norm. If any of these lasted at least 8 years, it would be defined as a rather successful relationship.

People did not evolve to be monogamous for life. For thousands of years, the longest relationship lasted for less than 14 years, since the life span was about 30-35. The fact that we are living now to 120 does not make us eager to spend all these years with the one person we chose once upon a time, we don't even remember why...

Life is meant to be lived and experienced in all its flavours, Having lived through three rather long term relationships (by human standards) in different countries, in different languages and with different carrier and experiences, it feels like I've lived several lives in one! I'm grateful for each one of them.