Hi fellow pisces. I've been in a relationship with my capricorn boyfriend for 6 years now. I am 21 so I have been with him since I was 15... I used to love him A LOT! and I still do, but in a different way. I think I'll always love him and care about him, but lately I've been questioning myself and I feel like I've outgrown the relationship. I feel stagnant. For very long I have been very dependent of him and my life has revolved around him for all this years. I think that I'm still with him, not because I really love him, but because I became confortable and I'm terribly afraid of being alone and what will happen with my life after I break up with him... I have abandoned many of my old friends and outside of him I have no life. I have taken the decision that I want to break up with him. New year is coming and his birthday is in january 5 so I will wait until those important dates pass and then I'll do it. I'm very scared, I don't know what to say to him or how to explain my feelings, I'm afraid of his reaction, I don't know if I'll be brave enough to do it and I'm full of doubts about the future... I really don't know if this is the right decision for me, or if I'll regret it lately, but if I stay with him I will always be asking myself what if? I'm still young and I think this is the right time for me to start a new phase in my life and learn how to be alone and maybe recover the independence that i feel I have lost along the way.
So, is there any pisces out there who haves been in a similar situation? any advice? how to deal with the heartbreak? how to build my life back after my breakup? how to gain my confidence again?
Hi camim20, I just read your post and felt strongly that I should tell you to follow your instinct. As long as you're doing that, you'll be on the right track and need not fear for the future. It sounds as though you are decided anyway - but just fearful. It is always a rather scary prospect to make a big change, and you will inevitably go through feelings of regret and wistful remembering... as well as relief. What I can say from my experience is that you won't know what possibilites you have, or even what you want (in the larger sense), until the situation has changed. Place colours everything - and that pertains just as much to emotional and mental space as it does to physical. So take heart, and follow what you feel. With a pisces sun, it can be hard to make a decision and stick to it, because our moods tend to sway us into different modes of thinking at different times, but you've obviously been feeling this way for some time and are now gathering the energy to act on it... As though something has been gradually crystallising, unseen... I expect you are ready for something exciting and new (and, again, I mean this in the larger - not the relationship - sense), and that will come with time - wait and see!
I'm afraid I can't give you more specific advice, but I can tell you you don't need it!
I have taken the decision that I want to break up with him. New year is coming and his birthday is in january 5 so I will wait until those important dates pass and then I'll do it. I'm very scared, I don't know what to say to him or how to explain my feelings, I'm afraid of his reaction, I don't know if I'll be brave enough to do it and I'm full of doubts about the future... I really don't know if this is the right decision for me, or if I'll regret it lately, but if I stay with him I will always be asking myself what if? I'm still young and I think this is the right time for me to start a new phase in my life and learn how to be alone and maybe recover the independence that i feel I have lost along the way.
So, is there any pisces out there who haves been in a similar situation? any advice? how to deal with the heartbreak? how to build my life back after my breakup? how to gain my confidence again?