Family Values

So I took leave from Okinawa as Im in the Army, to come see my Mother was who was recently diagnosed with a disease that will kill her. I came home expecting to just hang out and spend some time with me madre and see my sisters whom I havent seen anwhile but thats def not the way this is turning out. My father killed himself a few years back and we are trying to get everyone together so we could scatter his ashes, but my step mother told my sisters that their husbands were not welcome to come as they have both been proven to be little boys pretending to be men and my sisters responded really childishly and basically disowned me saying that blood was thicker than water. Thats a dumbass thing to say when our own mother abandoned our ass for drugs when we were younger but yet they still say this? Anyway, they both ended up saying that I wasnt welcome to email them, call them, etc. Im just frustrated that Im 22, dealing with all these 'adults' that cant seem to put their differences aside for one day. Everytime I come home, its just family drama, after my pops died, my family kind of ripped itself in half and all these people are coming saying this about this person and etc, just seems like everyone is kinda looking at me like Im supposed to put things back together, but after all this, I dont care to anymore, its just fkn dumb. Im just venting, I dont know any of you so, I guess I feel like i can get away with looking soft for a bit.

"my step mother told my sisters that their husbands were not welcome to come as they have both been proven to be little boys pretending to be men and my sisters responded really childishly and basically disowned me saying that blood was thicker than water."




I'm unclear why your sisters are treating you this way when it was the step-mother who was harsh about their husbands ... how is that relative to you?


In any event .... sorry about your father .... and it's not being soft for having to release this kind of stuff once in a while, we all have to get these things out.

Vent away all you want.

'I'm unclear why your sisters are treating you this way when it was the step-mother who was harsh about their husbands ... how is that relative to you?'

Im kinda unclear myself, When I first talked to them the same night we had a date set, they were complaining about this and I told them both to chill out and I would get it sorted. I talked to my mom and she agreed to allowing their husbands to come, 10m later I get a phone call saying Im not welcome to call, email, etc.. Both of their husbands have cheated in the past and both of them are just all around dead beats, and this was why my mom initially said they couldnt come. Beyond all this, there is just a resentment between my sisters and mom and Im just kind in between.

Thanks for the kind responses, I appreciate it. The whole affair has turned into a 'bloods thicker than water' type deal and I was basically forced to chose sides, so to speak. Both my sisters are acting really childishly and I will admit that it wasnt really my Mom's place to say that their husbands couldnt come, but I understand fully why she said it. I had a talk with her and she agreed to allowing them to come, but the damage was already done. This whole thing has been in the making for sometime now and my Mom saying that Ian and Casey couldnt come was just the catalyst. In any event, guess I wont be talking to my sisters for awhile until they can quit being silly. Im not really down or mad about the situation anymore, I have weathered many things in my life so far, that I wont mention and I made my choice along time ago: that I had choice. Fk being a victim, I carve my own path in life and move forward powerfully becuase my father gave me that, I can handle anything put in front of me becuase I have the strength and wisdom tempered with Experience. Thank you for the hug Gem.