Forgiveness

What exactly does that mean to you?

Do you think there exists a conflict between forgive and forget?

Do you believe that the ability to forgive is the key to inner happiness?

Do you think you have the ability to forgive?

How many people have you forgiven lately?

Did it make you feel better about the whole situation once you were able to forgive?

Do you find it hard to ask for forgiveness if you realise that you were wrong?

Does it make you feel better when someone forgives you?

What exactly does that mean to you? To forgive somones wrongs.

Do you think there exists a conflict between forgive and forget? Yes,
People want to forgive. But that person will always grip the fact it happened and usually tease with it in the furture or use it as a device of getting even, or for proof of past wrongs. witch unfourtunately makes the situation,
Worse in the end.

Do you believe that the ability to forgive is the key to inner happiness? Party yea.

Do you think you have the ability to forgive? I think i do, yes.

How many people have you forgiven lately? Last person to tell me sorry was a scorpio girl who was being unusually mean towards me for no reason.

Did it make you feel better about the whole situation once you were able to forgive? I did forgive her fully.

Do you find it hard to ask for forgiveness if you realise that you were wrong? I find it easy to admit when im worng or asking forgivness, witch is one og my qaulities.

Does it make you feel better when someone forgives you? Yes.

Forgiving means that you try to pretend that nothing happened. It's hypocritical and therefore not good for you. It's also good for trying to avoid remorse, because many people learn to feel guilty even when they shouldn't.
I do not forgive and i do not wish to be forgiven, i accept whatever i did and try to do better, i don't hide and i don't pretend. Be real, be true, live with the consequences.

Thank you guys for responding...the reason I asked this question is b/c people seem to confuse forgiveness with reconciliation.To me "Forgiveness" means "to understand" what motivated the other person...it's when you feel empathy....like you said Primegen "what made that person react that particular way in response to my actions".


I think Mr.C you are talking about reconciliation maybe? I don't believe in reconciliation either...Reconciliation comes in two parts: forgiveness and penance.
I can try to understand why someone did what they did but I can never forget...penance doesn't work for me...once something is done,it cannot be undone...so I don't think it's possible to reconcile with the perpetraitor.So Mr.C I agree with you,once you have done something wrong,you've to live with the consequences forever.

1.People make mistakes intentional or not so you can't hold it against them forever without beating yourself up more by not forgiving it unnessacerly.

2.Not really,forgivings not letting the crap bother you anymore while forgeting has more to do with good judgement and was a lesson you probably needed to learn for the purpose of whatever it was that happened.

3.Very much so do you think the other person really want you to be uneasy unless of course they are unforgiving.And again theres more to worry about as far as you and only yourself to be concerned with and your future is what needs more attention not the past.

4.Yes

5.However alot of nonserious circumsatnces are forgiven but the more serious ones im still kinda working on getting completely over.

6.Very much so and wish I could get over the ones that haven't been yet,just for peace of mind and less internal tension and other crap I don't like dealing with.

7.I have no problem admitting im wrong and knowing exactly how I was wrong but I think it's pride related for not liking asking for it.I don't even like to ask for help when I need it so definately think it's submission and pride related as well as feel like myself is my own responsability and not other peoples problems.

8.Usually but sometimes when whatever it was was just a common mistake I don't feel much because there isn't much to forgive.It's when I seriously hurt someone that I usually feel bad about for longer than what has already been forgiven supposedly,some things aren't as easy to forgive,so may be a lie especially when they grip about it because it does still bother them obviously or they wouldn't be bringing it up.

I believe we change so much through out the journey of ones life that forgiving should always be a consideration. As the saying goes "Time heals all wounds" and with time comes many opportunities for redemption. So if a person is truely sorry for what they've done and has tried to redeem themselves for their actions at every opportunity then it's only fair that we CONSIDER forgiveness. But of course their are certain crimes against humanity that can never be forgiven.

Forgetting is the sometimes hardest part and is not something that is always possible.

I understand what you're saying but i wanted to check definitions just to be sure.

forgiveness

n 1: compassionate feelings that support a willingness to forgive 2: the act of excusing a mistake or offense [syn: pardon]

I guess i was refering to the second part of the definition, which i find repulsive.

reconciliation

n 1: the reestablishing of cordial relations [syn: rapprochement] 2: getting two things to correspond; "the reconciliation of his checkbook and the bank statement" [syn: balancing]

Reconciliation would just be the next step in the process, i guess. That's all a bit clearer now. I say don't be sorry, make sure you don't have anything to be sorry for in the future. It kinda makes sense, right?

I have a very simple philosophy about forgiving.
I don't believe that people set out intentionally to hurt another (well maybe perhaps a serial killer!!!!).
Life is just too short....not to forgive.....you or that other person could be dead tomorrow - bottom line.
So one always must forgive the bad behaviour, keeping the human being in mind, we are all flawed in certain departments of our lives - the sinner and the saint resides in everyone of us.
And if you keep all the angst and hurt inside of you against another for too long, hey it will show on your face, angry little lines will form and furrows deepen and we can't be having that now....vanity, vanity will set you free.

Alana x

P.S. The best words you can utter after I love you are probably I'm sorry....or to hear it said by the person who has wounded you is so liberating........come on let's have sorry parties:-)

My opinion lies within all that as already been discussed here. I agree that life is too short not to forgive people- and that with time, many things can be considered "water under the bridge"... especially through change and personal growth. I do find it harder to forget because ultimately, I don't want to be that person who blindly offers forgiveness only to get caught in a cycle of repeating offenses.

What if one did not take anything personally that another has done or said to him? Hmm...I then see that there is nothing to forgive - only to continue to love unconditionally.

The options to forgive or forget (o both) arise if we want that person to continue to be part of our life. If we are able to release our self-doubt, rigid sense of "justice and fairplay", it is easy to achieve both.