How do you deal with feelings?

How do you deal with good or bad feelings? What are methods do you use?

Personally I leave feelings (good or bad) be feelings and me be me. I never surrender to them withot conscious thought.

hahaha hmmmm when i feel sumthing itz pretty intense i cant jus feel sumthin lightly itz usually in an xtreme which sorta sux hahaha sooo i jus try in show ppl sum of it haha else i think thyd b like wat the fuk... haha this ones a nutta...

but then again i do get lost n sorta go in2 my own dreamland a lot haha daym itz great!! i wish ud all cum in and play wit me!! lol wen im here im pretty cruizy... actually i dont know wat im like... wen im cruizy im real cruizy wen im horny im real horny wen im in love ohh man i think i turn pshyco...

sorry at the mo im really disorientated exam tym... hahaha ill cum back to you!! peace out qT!!

hahaha ok ok they didnt make much sense.... ill cum back n clean it all up l8a... hahaha take no heed...

lol ohhh thankz babe!!! hahaha glad u get my drift...

so branh how many times have you been asked to express your feelings?

well y dont u jus say wat ur feelin rather than keepin it all bottled up inside?? isnt it gona do more damage to keep it all locked up.. imnot sayon to let all your walls down.. but u dont honestly believe that because ur a guy your not supposed to break down sumtimes do you

well id rather stay ignorant to the views of adulthood if it means that i have to believe that men are not supposed to break down... u r a human being branh ur supposed to get hurt and your supposed to break down and only then can u heal again to becum stronger... else u will end up bitter. i dont think u really believe that i think that ur in selfdenial because if utruely opened up i think wed find out uve been hurting for a long time and tryin to hide it behind the mask of objectivity and logistics. yes itz gud to be of that nature but itz human nature to be able to feel as well

so wat ur tryin to say is that woman are emotionally unstable and they need a rock to depend on that cums in the form of a man. and therefore to be a man you need to not breakdwn and show any form of weakness..

Works both ways as my experince says. The ideal sitautoin is that when one of the two is upset the other one is self-composed.... many times. Soetimes it is healthy if both of htem break into highly charged emotional drama. It can be very helpful in clearign the air as it is such outbursts that bring out your hidden/suppressed feelings.

Women are more expessive indiscrimiantely. They may not hesitate to show their emotions outside of hte house. But it doesnt mean men dont show emotions. most of them do..btu wihtin confines of hteir homes and if they get what they want out of the display.

Men are nto the only one's on whom women are emotionally dependent. Women have many outlets for htat. While men are highly dependent on women to share their emotions with. whiel women ..they have their female friends for true sharing of the emotions.

Ummmm...Branh - I don't have much time at the moment but I gotta BIG TIME disagree with you on the "unemotional guy" reason being is I have been involved with a few of them thinking the same thoughts that you have - hey, these guys seem to have their life in order! WRONG!!!!! For many years they have kept their emotions hidden safe within to "appear" in control until.....some person comes along and unbeknownst to them triggers some DEEP HIDDEN emotion and then violence occurs not always directed at the person, can be an object close by but we all know that this type of person is not very healthy ...he is a VOLCANO and is able to cause much damage. I most certaintly would be more comfortable with a man who expresses his thoughts as he feels them...if he is upset or concerned about something share them and NO it does not have to be all mushy (better not be). Honestly, it is not healthy for the human body to "hold" feelings inside this is what causes the body to experience dis-ease.

Just my quick thoughts as I now must dash off - opps, I mean "fly" off 😉

Okay I will ask one more question here:

When you are in situation, how do you understand whereither you are actually making an emotional response instead of a logical one?

haffo
When you are in situation, how do you understand whereither you are actually making an emotional response instead of a logical one?

i cant analyze instantly. but if it is an emotional response i will regret saying it later becasue logic tells me that i became emotional or i used emotion as a deciding factor and masked it with logic.

and usualy with if in the rare chance i use logic i dont get angry and try to fix the situation instead of hurting it even more.

"How do you deal with good or bad feelings? What are methods do you use?

Personally I leave feelings (good or bad) be feelings and me be me. I never surrender to them withot conscious thought."

Haffo, me too.
Past experiences have taught me to distrust myself when I'm feeling too emotional about something or someone.So I've leanred never to react instantly...I let myself cool down and then proceed to do the most logical thing afte weighing my options.

Besides I find that I'm pretty good at hiding my emotions...must be one of my piscean traits..that means when I'm feeling intensely about something or someone,it's only me who is aware of that feeling and I can take my time to cool off and react logically...

One drawback though...I get called COLD/ALOOF by some people...once someone called me
a ROBOT...I didn't get angry at him though cause that is exactly how I chose to approach the subject...rationally!

Great answer Melusine.

An answer that was quite close to the topic too.

I also wanted to know this: How do you understand when you act emotionally and how do you understand when do you act logically? How do you put line between those two? What are methods do you use to identify your emotional responses and methods do you use to identify your logical responses. How do you know which one of those two is working right now?

Hello Everyone,
How do I deal with my feelings? Well, one thing that's for sure. . . I never express them to others. To me, it's just frustrating when people are tellin me that I need to be more emotionally expressive, when I know firsthand that I don't want to deal with the messy complications that a reaction to those feelings would produce. I do express my feelings though, but in a very different way. I channel my moods and emotions thru being active. I also express my emotions thru the color of clothing that I wear. That sort of emotive expression is very subtle, and alot of people never really catch on to it. My friends always try to corner me just to talk one-on-one so that I could vent with heart to heart talks, but I duck and dodge them all the time. I rather write it out in my journal other than talking it out to another person.

I think dealing with them in "that" way is "wrong"...

"i cant analyze instantly. but if it is an emotional response i will regret saying it later becasue logic tells me that i became emotional or i used emotion as a deciding factor and masked it with logic.

and usualy with if in the rare chance i use logic i dont get angry and try to fix the situation instead of hurting it even more.

I think people somehow should know when they submit themselves to their emotions and lose control. But undertanding when and how you do submit to them, that's difficult...

"How do you understand when you act emotionally and how do you understand when do you act logically? How do you put line between those two? What are methods do you use to identify your emotional responses and methods do you use to identify your logical responses. How do you know which one of those two is working right now?"

For me it's quite simple really,when I'm acting emotionally I only see my side of the picture...it's all about ME,ME and ME.I fail to understand why the things that are happening aroudn me is not going my way.Right then I do or say things just b/c I want to or to make me feel better...don't worry about the consequences.

On the other hand when I'm thinking rationally I can evaluate the whole situation from my rival's point of view as well as mine. I tend to think about the consequences of my actions if I decide to choose one option over another...things like that.

So whenever I see that I cannot think about something without being subjective I know I'm not thinking with my head.

Yeah that's your point of view.

However, I have come up with a conclusion that just seeing situation from both points of view (yours and other person's) is not enough to make it working. There is one more thing you need to know. You have to understand what is right and what is wrong in given situation. You have to know how things work. Without that, seeing your opponents point of view is mostly useless, because you are doomed to make mistake. Mostly those mistakes not just logical mistakes, but often involves emotions and therefore they are emotional responses.

It is sometimes very difficult to avoid being emotional in such situations, because they get under your skin. At this point I also question the behaviours of the person who is trying to get under your skin. But this is different topic.

What do you think about this point?

I think there is possibility that this mechanism of hiding emotions is not designed to protect ourselves, but more than that: to protect people around us. It would be too much for people to handle it and also scary.

There is good reason for them to stay in hideon.