Friendships...

Wow...it's been a long time since I have been here...but I am back!

I have a Pisces friend...and I am a Pisces as well...throughout the years we have both as individuals encountered life altering events...and as a result of those events come out stronger and better people...

I've felt for quite some time now that although my Pisces friend was on a quest towards positivity and love...that she wasn't exactly treating those around her with love and was actually being quite negative...long story short, we both had our weddings one year apart...and I was super supportive during her wedding...but when it came down to mine...she seemed rather distant from the process and actually made some pretty hurtful comments after the fact...I also heard from someone that she was talking negatively about my wedding on the day of...

Needless to say I decided to distance myself...never, ever talking negatively of her...just distancing myself...and I think because of that...she read into comments I made on facebook that had nothing to do with her...you know how people can misinterpret things on the internet...

She finally decided to reach out...and ask that we meet for coffee...and I took the opportunity to voice everything that had been bothering me...granted, I should have probably spoken up sooner for some of the things I had felt...I went pretty far back (2 years worth)...to give a background to what led up to me finally distancing myself...and her response was everything I did not expect...she decided to not address it at all...and interpret it as an attack against her marriage...because I referenced that as friends we had all been there for her during her painful break-up from her ex...and I felt that made her overcompensate and try to prove to everyone how happy she was at others expense...

And now we are no longer friends...and that makes me sad...

Looking back now...I should have just stuck to the recent events that had led to me distancing myself...but I was just so upset and hurt at the time...that I laid it all out on the table...

All of our friends...who happen to be mutual...all feel that I did nothing wrong...that my email came from a loving place...and I made that clear...that obviously she was never a friend if she didn't even care to take a deeper look and acknowledge that her actions had hurt someone she considered a "best friend"...

We could have discussed what we were both feeling and come to a resolution...but instead she chose to w

*walk away

Sorry for your lost, but there is no reason to fall on your sword in grief. She sounds like she really took you for granted, and a bit self absorbed > (not at least addressing your verbal issues)You handled it okay, it would have been better for yourself in you didn't bottle it in. If she truly wants you back in her life, I say make her earn it by showing real effort and unselfish acts. Trust is very hard to attain but so very is to break ya know.

Thanks Lobo...your thoughts are appreciated. I've seen her treat others poorly, but it had never been towards me so I chose not to judge her based on other relationships...looks like I may have learned the hard way...it stings nonetheless whether I am in the right or not..

And yes...lesson learned...it's not healthy for myself or fair to the other person to bottle things in...