Got Emo & Pisces Man Disappeared. Will he be back?

I met an incredible Pisces man on Tinder about 1 1/2 months ago. We made it to date 3 before sleeping together, and couldn't get enough of each other. It was like explosions in the sky every single time. He was doing a great job with pursuing me, even if he is ridiculous busy. I demanded a lot of attention from him. I started getting attached after about 3 weeks, and I didn't attempt to hide it. The problem is as soon as I started getting attached he got VERY busy. One week he traveled for work. I saw him for a night and a day when he returned that weekend and it was great. Then he went to a festival for a week (planned before he met me), and had no way to communicate with me out there (which I know is fact), so an entire week of no contact and me wondering what (or who) he's doing. On his way back from the festival he texted me to let me know he was on his way home, but that was it. He was less communicative than I'd hoped he would be. I'd wished he would have been more excited to talk with me, so I got emo on him and sent him a bitchy text. He showed up at my door late night on his way back, and we had a nice love experience. He couldn't stay because he was driving someone else home. The following week after the music festival I knew he would be very busy catching up with work, so I left him alone for a few days so he could catch up. I believe we did exchange short texts within that time. I invited him to go to another music festival with me in the near future and he said he'd love to go. By mid-week I was jonesin to have an actual conversation with him, so I got emo again and he paid attention and talked with me. The conversation pretty casual, except internally I was an emotional basketcase from not being able to talk with him for 1 1/2 weeks, and I felt uneasy/nervous while we were talking I think it was because I had all these emotions weighing on me. So I just overchatted him up instead (via FB) about inconsequential things and felt insecure. On Thursday I sent him a sexy text and he invited me over. He mentioned he would have to travel over the weekend for work but wanted to see me that night. I pouted and told him I wanted to see him for more than just a few hours. He said I could stay over on Friday night too, so I did. He was pretty stressed with work while I was there but I was happy just to be around him doing my own thing, and I love sleeping with him. So I drove him to the airport, and on Saturday night checked Tinder and saw he was act

active. He hadn't been active in the entire time we were dating before that. I got upset and called him out on it and he attempted to defend it, saying he got a message from his coworker, even sent me a screenshot to clarify, but the whole thing seemed fishy so I called BS, and then I saw he had logged onto OkC too, which he also hadn't done in awhile. He also brought up that he hadn't been seeing anyone else if I was worried about that. This was all done via text.
So without resolutions he texted to say he was exhausted and going back to his hotel room to collapse. The next day I was fed up with the lack of communication and sent him a impulsive, manipulative text saying that I think we should take a break until his life calms down, and that there is a general mismatch in where we both are in our lives. He didn't respond to this, and by Sunday night I was freaking out thinking I had made a mistake. I attempted to text and call him multiple times (terrible I know), and he ignored me. By persisting and being emo he finally responded that he was exhausted, feeling horrible and in no mood to talk. I told him I understood and that I was sorry for my behavior + some other too long and mushy apologetic text stuff.
So on Monday am I sent him another long message on FB (I know . . 😢 ) trying to explain my behavior. More feeling stuff (ugh). Monday is when he disappeared. On Tuesday he sent me a msg telling me this is crunch week. That he needs to be 100% focused on work right now and would love to talk more next week when he has done his duty and can breathe again. He apologized for the timing, told me to take care and keep doing what inspires me (the 'take care' part is concerning. Sounds like a goodbye). I thanked him for communicating that to me. On Wednesday I sent him yet another message telling him that I wouldn't freak out on him again if he logged onto Tinder or OkC and I was going to unmatch him on Tinder because I do not want to make him to feel trapped. I also wished him a winning week. He didn't respond to this. On Thursday no communication. I sent him a funny picture on Thurs night. On Friday I sent an update about the upcoming music festival and wished him a great day. He replied (about 5 hours later) with "Thanks 🙂. You too!"
So now it's present, and I've done everything possible to scare this man away, but I also feel like I've learned a lot from this experience and should he come back I still want him in my life but I have no idea h

how to be/act. How do I turn this around in order to get him to pursue me again?
Also, what is the chance he will come back after this? I have this feeling of doom like he's done with me because of my needy behavioral patterns. I realize he's extremely busy with work but he could have found time to communicate with me if he wanted to right? Even just to text and ask how my day was. He always did that before this week.
(Btw, I just opened his FB chat and accidentally pressed the 'thumbs up' sign which sent to him. So he's totally going to know I'm FB stalking him now. ARGH!).
This week I went on a few dates and even met a guy I really like. I've been doing the things that inspire me, but I can't get this Pisces man out of my head and heart. We connect on a lot of deep awesome levels and that is difficult for me to find, especially with intense physical attraction.
This man is also extremely dedicated to his work. He has a very important job which is very demanding. Work comes first in his life and I understand that. I just wish he'd not cut off communication completely.
Really, I'm 1. just trying to figure out what my odds are that he will come back, and 2. If he does come back, how should I maneuver?
Also, and this is the clincher. He says he's polyamorous. He wants me to be poly too because he doesn't have time to give me all the attention I need, and he says he wants me to be happy. So he drops this bomb on me and we can't even talk about it. Maddening.
Please let me know your thoughts on all this. Thank you for your time/help.

No.

You assumed the girlfriend role way too soon without any talk on his end. You assumed good sex was a relationship.So ya you fucked up and pushed him away and trust me, we've all made that mistake so your not alone. The only thing u can do now is back the fuck off completely. He might or might not come back. Hes poly? Ya thats a deal breaker for me sounds like it would drive u nuts sharing him too.

scorpio rising?

I'm confused. How do you even expect this thing with this dude to work out when you're obviously on completely different wave lengths? He's poly, you're not. Judging by your posts you won't be able to deal with a relationship like that. (And that's perfectly alright.) You might agree to it, wanting to keep this guy, but in the end you'll just end up all over the place. You won't be able to deal with it, you'll demand things from him he won't be willing or able to give you, you'll just push him away in the end.

Just admit it to yourself things are not working out between the two of you. You're being way too overbearing with all the texts and facebook messages and demands for his attention. And you seem perfectly aware you're being too much and admitting that AND YET! you keep doing everything in your power to do exactly the opposite of what seems like a rational thing to do in this situation.

What struck me the most, is this guy giving you heads up about having a busy week ahead and apologizing for bad timing. Basically telling you he'll be unavailable during this time and still trying to be considerate towards you. And instead of leaving him be and giving him space for one lousy week you keep badgering him with messages (trying to pull him into a discussion he said he doesn't have the time for at the moment) and expecting him to reply to you when he said he'll be busy and will need to focus on his work?!?

Posted by EmoGrrl

Also, and this is the clincher. He says he's polyamorous.

He probably just told you that to get you to run the other way ... because clearly, every attempt he has made to dump you nicely, only makes you stalk him harder.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by EmoGrrl

Also, and this is the clincher. He says he's polyamorous.

He probably just told you that to get you to run the other way ... because clearly, every attempt he has made to dump you nicely, only makes you stalk him harder.

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that is to say .... until he needs a cum-bucket, then he is present.

and you don't seem to mind being that whore


sad, really.

so, what's the verdict? you a Virgo, or what?

I'm a Cancer. My birthday is June 29. You all are pretty harsh. I recognize the need for truth but you could do it in a bit more of a tactful way. Obviously people are posting on this forum because they're hurting. It's fine to be direct, but there is a blatant difference between the tough truth and just being an ahole.
Also, no one has answered my questions. It's been my experience in life that when these types of things happen, give it some time and the man always comes back, especially if good sex was involved.
I've also very recently met someone else who is also poly and can give me what he can't, so if he does come back I think it could work. I'm just clearly an overcommunicator and he's the complete opposite, so my question is.
1. What my odds are that he will come back, and 2. If he does come back, how should I maneuver?
It's difficult to so easily give up on an intense emotional and physical connection with someone, and this 'relationship' was not one-sided. He never tried to dump me, and had he, I would have gotten the message.
Think about it. What have I done that is so horrible other than get emotional? I realize that's the best way to drive a man away but is it so awful to care deeply about a man I'm intimately connected with? He said he couldn't pay attention to me this week due to work, so that means I'm not allowed to communicate with him at all? It's difficult to go from feeling super connected to someone to completely unconnected in the span of a few days. If he was a real man and wanted to dump me he'd just say so, and it would be done, but he hasn't said that.
Everyone messes up. I messed up and was too needy. Give me another chance! It's difficult in the beginning when there are uncertainties and emotions get involved. I realize I have to learn how to suppress those emotions or I'll end up single forever, but it's tough because I am a deeply emotional person and like to communicate.
Is there any way to regain a man's interest after something like this? I *am* moving on with my life, and even beginning a new relationship, but there are unresolved feelings here I need to work through, and it's difficult. I wake up every morning feeling lousy and have to really focus on pushing it all away.
So your help, not criticism, would be very much appreciated. Thank you.

Its a tough pill to swallow but all you can do is...
Lean back and do nothing. If this man cant live without you, well, he'll be back. If not well.....

Thank you KittenLaRouge. Yours has been the only comments so far without malicious intent.

Irresistable Scoop, if he wanted to dump me he would dump he. He messaged me twice today, without my help. Don't be a hater.

Posted by EmoGrrl
Thank you KittenLaRouge. Yours has been the only comments so far without malicious intent.

Irresistable Scoop, if he wanted to dump me he would dump he. He messaged me twice today, without my help. Don't be a hater.

your welcome my dear. i'm in love with a picses. he always comes back to me. give him freedom and don't try to control. let him come to you. try to relax and enjoy him. let him go at his pace. they are confusing so try not to over-analyze with your mind instead approach from the heart. he might pull some dumb stunts. ignore it. you cant point it out but don't nag. say it and be done. they come back.